这就是爱吗？很多人结婚走了两种极端

 zheijiushiaima？qianjitianzaiweixinpengyouquanjiandaoyijushuozhewande：dajiadoushuoqingganshijiedejidabuxing，yizeshizaiduideshijianyudaobukenengderen;lingyizeshizaicuodeshijianyudaodongnideren。wozhixiangshuo“niruguozishenmeibianchengdongnideren，shijianzenmekenengduini?!”neimejiuxiangaizheniyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanjiushiaizhenidewenzhangba。

 kanlebujinguaner，yaowoxiangdaoyiweijiechuxinlizixunshicengmingquetichuguode“nikesongzhongbaijichulilun”，tingshuoshitazaizuobianxiedeqingkuangxia，shulinikesongdeqingrenmencailiaoshifajue，shijigelianrenlibianjinyouliangdalei，yileikanqilaixiangchuanpu，yileikanqilaixianglaiwensiji。

 chuanpuburongzhiyishi“zhichangnvren”，jingmingnenggan，keyijitamenxianjixiance、peitashenxianshizu;zheijiushiaima？erlaiwensijizeshigepiaoliangde“shanvhaier”，yikaota、zhiaita、qinpeita，xiangyaobianchengtashenpangxingfudeshouhou。nikesongduiqinggandeyaoqiujiqiduiairendeshenmeiguanjiupanghuangzai“chuanpu”he“laiwensiji”zhongjian，nikesongdemamabianshiyiweizhichangnvren，zaitaderenshengdaoluzhongliuyoulekegumingxindeyinji，yincitadeqingganshijiebianshizai“zhuiyimamadewennuanjiqiduimamadepanbianhetaochu”zhongjianbaidong。

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 zainikesongdeshilizhong，leisimamadechuanpuyiweizheanquanxing，hunwailianlaiwensijiyiweizhecijixing，ziranhaikeyihuangejiaodulaikan，chuanpuyiweizhecijixing，youyutadegongzuonengliheyuwangzongshitadexinlizhuangtaichuzaibushufudeqingkuang，ermeiyougongjinenglidelaiwensijinengshitagerenganjueyouliang，dedao “xinlizhuangtaianquanxing”。wulunsheichurennayigerenwujiaose，baidongdeqingkuangshirendebenxingzhonghenyiqiezhengchangdeyibufen。

 jiandaozheieryouxierenjiutoutongle，bieshuochuanpushixiangtelangpuzongtongbuweimairudenvxing，jiusuanlaiwensijijinjingejianxisheng，bingbushiyinlingzheyejinbuqumeiguobaigongba。neiyang2geniuchadenvxingdouholdbulenikesong，nandaoshuowaiyushibidingdejieguoma?

 zanbuyongshuonikesongwaiyudenanti，huanzuoshinvxingyeyiyang。jiatingguanxilibabadananrenzhuyi、qingxubuwending，nvhaiganjuemeinenghuodeganqingweijie，anzilishizhihouzhaoyigerouhexizhideren，keshiqueshixunzhaozheigerenzhihou，youganjuetayouyubujuemeiyoudangdan，momingqimiaodeyoubeiyixiebabatexingdexiaohuoxiyinzhule。

neiyangdezhuangkuangdahuoeryebushengshu，neishuolaishuoqu，jiujingshacaijiaodongnideren?

woyaogaosuni：zheiquanshijieyagenmeiyou“dui”deren。

 wulunshikeguanyeba，xiangxiangyehao，yidanjiangmouleimanzutiaojianderenshedingwei“dui”de，neimaxiangduide“cuo”jiuzaochengle，danshijishangmeiyoushenmejiaozhenshidecuo，juede“cuo”deneiyibufentongchangshiwomenbunengjieshoudelingyigeziji。

 ruguonishiyigeyilaiganhenqiangdenvxing，nirenweide“dongnideren”bianshinenggoujiniyikao、zhaoliaonidenanrendehua，neima“cuo”zhidejiushitabukeyizhaoliaoni、bukeyijiniyikaodeqingkuangxia。zainitongdianhuatameiyoujie、dangnichouqitaquebucengnuanxinkuanwei、dangniwunaitaquemeiyoulijiyuanzhudeqingkuangxia，tajiubukeyimanzunideguidingle。

 jiushiaizheni,tajinixinhan、jiniquefaanquangan，tashi“cuo”de。danbubihushile，zheiyi“cuo”jiulaizinizishen。youyuniqueshaozixin、quefaanquangan，niminganduoyidezheiyimian，yinci caibuduanyaocongwaibulaitianbu。

 danshimeiyoushenmejiaonengcongwaibulaitianbude，jibian nishenpangzhanzheyigelanmanjunxiu、zhuanyiyoujinduodegaolengnanshen，tayetidaibushangnidexinxin，zongshiyufaxianxianchunidedijian。ganqingwangwanglingrenchimi，yinweitazaipiaoliangdelingwaihaianhanzhefengxian，zheileifengxianbianshi：tahuibiandanixinliquanbudequeshao。

 yaoshixinlihaibaoyou“xunzhaodongnideren”dexinxin，jiunanyifangzhibianchengchixuyaohuangdezhongbai。dajiaxianghuanle，buyuankunao;xiangtanlianai，buyuansunhai，dajiayizhixiangjielizhuiqiuwanmeimouleiduidajiayouyidefangwei，erhushixingmingdeyizhixing。zhongbaideliangfangmianjiuzheiyangbeiwomenzijidajianchuqude，weiyidefangfabianshiduizishenwanquanjieshou。

 wulunganjueyouduomedecaogao，bixubianchengzuijienazijideren，suihouquchusuoyoudenengliang，zaizishendeshenshangxunzhaoyaoxiangdewupin。jiaruniyaoxiangqiancai，jiuqinfenleijicaifu，jiaruniyaoxiangguishugan，jiudegenjuziwochengzhanglaihuode。

 zaiwomenhuashijianhuolixunzhao“dui”derenshi，jiuxiangaizheni,“cuo”jiuzaiandiliqianfuzhechengshiershang。wangji“dui”derenba，xianbiancheng“dui”dezishen。