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 zheijiugaozhidajia，dajiabixusikao“ai”dezhuguanyinsu，yaogesiqizhi，zerenqingchu。fumuqiandezhai，bubigenzhixiqinshuqutao，zhixiqinshuqiandezhai，bubigenxiaohaiqutao，buranzheileiaijiushiyizhongsunhai。

weishenmeshuozhenzhengdeaiqingshiliangxingyouxi?

 yibanzaichulianqingrendeqingkuangxia，dajiadeganqingnianjihaijiaoweixiao，huanshiyigeduizishen、duitarenyemeiyouchongzulejiedexiaopengyou。xiaonanshaonvhedanandanvdechabiejiuqujueyu，xiaonanshaonvtongchangyigehunhundundun，lingyigetixindiaodan，tamendouzhiliuxianghenizaiyiqidediyigehuodiergehuanjielierbuzizhi。dandanandanvshinenggoujizijichengdande，nenggoufenbianhuanxiangyuxianshi，fenbianxueyuanguanxizhiaiyufuqizhiai，tamenzhongjiantongchangshinenggou“yongxin”de，keyizaijingshencengmianyoulianluo，xianghuweijie，xianghufengfuduocai，youyizhonghudongjiaoliuhexianghuzhijianneizaideguanxi，erbuzhishizhiliuzaixingdongfangmian。

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