情商培养,老死不相往来

 qingyuyu，shiduoshaofengliuyunshiyundouhuizailvtuchansheng，yixielvyoushengdinaizhibianchengleyanyugushizhidi。neimeqingshangpeiyangyounaxieni?xiamianjiugensuixiaobianyiqilaikankanqingyulidewenzhangba。

nijuede，shijiezheimeda，niyaokanyikan。yexu，nizhenshiaikandebingbushiquanqiu，zhishiyanyugushi。

neima，weihezailvtufeichangrongyiyouyanyugushini?

一、艳遇故事不只靠“遇”

youmuyoutingguoyixiepenyougongxiangzishenlvtuzhongzhizhongdeyanyugushi?

 shifouhencijixing?henyanxian?henchongjing?erqieqidaizishenyelaiyici“jiaozong”delvyou，suihoulvtuzhongzhizhongyelaishangyiduanxueyuefenghuadelijing，naizhiliangxinxiangyue、yuandingzhongsheng……

 ruguoniyouzheixiangfadeqingkuangxia，wohaishiyaoxianpodianliangshui，bahuashuogaoqingchuyixie——lvchengzhibuguochushiyigegaoxiede“pengdao”dejiyu，duiyushifoukeyishi“liedao”，huanshikanbenrendexiuweile。

 erzhenduizheixiexiwanggenjuyicilvxingchulirenshengdashidegeweipengyou，wodaoshitiyihuanshitianjiaxiyinzhujiaxuexipeixunyixiagengkekao。

zheishiweishenmeni?shifoutaibuhelile?

 yuangubianshi“yanyugushi”rutongshichangxiaoshouyiyang，guishuyuyimenjishuzhuanyedejishuxing，bingbushiyicuerjiulikededao de——tongguolv(gongzuojingyanjishushili)heshuliang(ziranhuanjingbiaozhun)xianghujuecelezuizhongdequdechenggongzongshu。

 keshidahuoerbubiqinei，youyufeichangzhidegaoxingdeshi，lvyoudequanguochengzhenduiyigerende“yanyugushi”zhuanyejinengshinengjuyouyisizhuli、weihuzuochangdezuoyongde!

二、身与心的“给花浇水”

 daodishizenmegezhuli、weihuzuochangni?shijishangbianshiyouyulvchengdequanguochengjixianghudexinshendouchushileyige“jihuajiaoshui”dejiyu。

 congtahudongfenxixinlixuedeshijiaokanlai，qingyuyu，yuanlaidelejieshejiaoguanxiziranhuanjinghuichuxiangeshigeyangdeqianzhiyaosucuishengchuxinlizhizhongde“tingcongshaonianertong”。

guigenjiudi，zheishideninenggengweiguanxin“jiarushibaileyinggaizenmeban?”zheigewenti。

 youyudangchuyuyizhirichangshenghuodeziranhuanjingxia，zishenyuwaizaizaoyiyongyoujudadexinyoulingxi，“tingcongshaonianertong”ganghaozuinengrangzishenxiandudeweichizheileixinyoulingxi。

 chuyuzheileidongnengxiashi，bianhuiyouyugeshigeyangde“guji”erhaipafangshouyibo，zhishixiayishideyongyizhonggengweiwenzhongqiusheng、chenwenhechuyubeidongdexintailaiyingduibenlaiyoukeneng“naxia”dejiyu——“tuzibuchiwobiancao”bianshiyijianjiebianshidianxingxingdeshili。

 erruguonilvtuzhongzhizhong，liquyuanlailejiedeziranhuanjingyihou，shijihuiduankaizishenyuyuanlaiwaizaidexinyoulingxi，jinerwei“suiyishaonianertong”zheileibenzhidongnengdejiqichushilegailv。

weishenmeshigailvni?zheijiuzaiyushisharentarunaxiedelvtu。

 ruguoshiyigelingrenyukuaidelvxing，lirulizhiyihoudesansanxinhuoshishifenchenggongerqieshijianchongzudechalvfei，“suiyishaonianertong”shifeichangrongyibeicuichanchuqude，dangranzhendui“yanyugushi”huanshikeyibawojiyude;

 fanguolaide，ruguoshibeibiwunaidiyiciwaichu，huoshimangdehenxiaosunziyiyangdegongchu，jianxinzheishiyongcan、rushuidouanwenbushang，naeryoumeiyoushenmesixuqu“xueyuefenghua”ni?

keshijiarukouyixiaguanjianzi，zhenshinengchengzhiweilvchengdeshijishanghuanshipianxiuxianyuleheshifangyalidejiyuduoyixie。

 jiusuanshizaichugongcha，jinguanyourenwuzaishen，yaoshimeiyoulingdaoganbu、pengyoudejianguanxia，zenmejiangdoushihuiduoyixiekewanxingde，yinci yejiunengwandekaile。

jiaruxianlaiwushizaiquyedianguangyiguang，jianxinbizhaizaijiazhongyoudaliangchupengyixingpengyoudejiyule。

三、为“心率”下油

 “yanyugushi”yu“xinlv”shijuebunengfenlide，jinguanshuozhangxianghezijinzhendui“yanyugushi”yongyou hengaodexiangguanxing，keshizaiyidingdefanchouyineijuyougenggaogongxiaodequeshihudongjiaoliuquanguochengzhizhongdejuede。

naxiedefanchouni?congzhangxiangshangshuo，jiaruzishenchoudaotarenjianlejiumeisixuyongcanle，neiyejiubiechuquhehurenle;

keshijiarushuaidaodajiexiaoxiangdenvhaierkuangjiao、zhuizaihoumianyaonideshoujihao，neiyejiushaolaigenbiededenanshimenqiangfanchiwan;

jiarujiejinbicizhijian，zuishaorangtarenkanjianmeiyoushenmebuyukuai，burongyiyouyibikai，neimejiugenbierenqiguxiangdangle。

 congzijinshangjiang，jiarukaijiafanghaiwenbierenshifoukeyishiaa，yejiubiexiaohaozheiyifenqianla，ziranruguoyouqiandemeiyouhua，huanshiyouhenduohaozheikoudehuabandengnicaishouni，jiarujiejinbicizhijian，neizaizheixiefangmianyejiumeiyouhendadexiandingle。

 dangzhangxianghezijindouyibubianchengzulanyaosudeqingkuangxia，zuizhongyaodeyejiushiyaoshengchanzhizaodaliangcujinduijindao“suiyishaonianertong”qingkuangdeqifen——yifangmianshiguanai，lingyifangmianshishouhou。

 shuobaileguanai，bianshizhenduilingyifangdeguanzhu，zheishijishangyeshilvchengzhizhonghenzhongyaodeyizhong“dahua”fangshi，zailingyifangbixuxiezhudeqingkuangxiajuedejiyuyixiejili，mengranhuiranglingyifangyouyizhongfazifeifudeguishugan。

 ziran，biededewenzhangneirongzhizhongdajiayejiangguo，qingyuli,yiweideguanzhuzongshishi“nanshen”peizi，nanyirangxianghudeguanxizaijinyibu，zheijiubixuzishenchuyu“shaonianertongqingkuang”laishouhouheyaoyuelingyifangle。

 lirumingquetichuyiqibaomingcanjiajiaoweiyouchuangyihuoshijiaoweicijixingdexiaohuodong，ranglingyifangjuederangnizaiyiqibujinyouguishugan(yuanyuyuqianbiantijide“guanai”)youyoukuaile。

 erzaijinyaoguantou，haiyaozaigerenxingweishangtiejinlingyifang，liruhengchuanmaludeqingkuangxialaxiashou、qiaruqifendeguayixiabibu……

 qingshangpeiyang,lingyifanghenyoukenenghuizhuyaobiaoxiandefahuo，keshijiarulingyifangmeiyanlingquanzuhuoshibaishoulikai，bingqiehuanshiraoyouxingqudegennijiaowang，neihoubiandejiuzishenzhangwoba，shuduchabuduolejiudefeitengle——nizijiruguotaiguomiantianneibierenyejiubuyuanyiduodenglou!