第三者情感问题：发现男友有第三者该不该分手

 nanpengyouyoudisanzhezaban?qinglizhikandaidisanzheqingganwenti，shenzhongkaolvyihou，zairangzishenzuochuyigeburongyihouhuimojidejuece。faxiannanyouyoudisanzhegaibugaifenshou?

一、第三者情感问题：发现男友有第三者该不该分手

1、自问：我能原谅吗

faxiannanyouyoudisanzhegaibugaifenshou?

 qinglizhikandaidisanzheqingganwenti，zuojueceyiqian，zhaogeshijianheshineikongjianduju，dujueshenbiandehaoguimi，ziwenshibushinengyuanliang?tingqingxineixinmiandexiangsheng。

2、接纳内心的刺

 paoxia“tichufenshoushiduantong，jinhouduziyirenzhibing”deniantou。dandangnitiaoxuankuanrong，nihaiyaojienanideneixinzhongjiuchangyouyitiaoci，naizhibianchengyitiaowufatianbudeshangba，bieqidainiliangdeqinggannengzhongguiyuhao。

3、检视自己

 faxiannanyouyoudisanzhegaibugaifenshou? chuxiandisanzhe，biranshiliangrendeguanlianchuxianlenanti，jinguannannvshuangfangchuguihunhouchuguishipanbian，yinyoutarendenanpengyoudoushicuowu，dandisanzhebuyidinghuiganjuezishendegerenxingweishibuzhengquede。

 yincizheiyineishihourenmenmeifagenggaibierendeniantou，jiuchengxindijianchazishenzaizheixieguanlianlidebuwei，shibushizishentaiguanzhelingyifang，lingzishenyuelaiyuewuguanjinyao?shibushizishenmeiyouhaohaodimeiyouxiangyinglingyifangdeyaoqiu?daozuizhong，jianghuiyouyunizishendeyuangucushileduifangchuguidekeguanshishi。zaoyuqingganweijimianlinfenshou?

4、别做疯女人

 tangruonitiaoxuanhepingfenshou，nanguonaonushinenggou ，dandangzhongzhiwenshiqingbiedashengnuhou、yaoshengyaosilebianweifengnvren，jinjiweichilizhi。faxiannanyouyoudisanzhegaibugaifenshou?

 ruguonanpengyoujuecelinierqu，niruhenuhou、youkuyounaoyewanhuibushangqinggande，naizhijianghuitishengta「woliquduile」dejuece;fanguolainichaolizhidijiejue，taquejianghuibeinidelizhisuohepa，baocundiyixianzhuanyuandetuilu。

5、不用将自身与第三者较为

 zishendeduifangkanxiangtarendehuaili，neixinbixuyoubuganxin，nanmianhuinijianghuihuiziwenyounaxieburunagedisanzhe?wojuede，zheileijiaoweimeishijiyiyi，meigerenshidandugeren，yongyoufengfuxing，meiyousheibisheihaosheibisheicha，jinjinrujindenizaoyibuyigenzheiyirendaoyikuaierlebale。