刚发现老公出轨，妻子发现老公有外遇怎么办

 tahezhangfujiehunshiduonian，youlianggehaizi。tashigejiatingzhufu。yikaishi，tafaxiantadezhangfuheyigenvrenyouwaiyu，gezhonggeyangdetianyanmiyu，bingweizheigenvrenmailehenduoshechipin。gukemenfeichanghaipa。tadanxintadezhangfuhuizhendeaitadeqingren，tadanxintadezhangfuhuihetalihun。qizifaxianlaogongyouwaiyuzenmeban？

 qichu，taxiangtazuihaodepengyouxunqiujiejuebanfa。tazuihaodepengyouyaoqiutalihun，dantabuyuanyifangqizheiduanhunyin。houlai，tabazheijianshigaosuletamuqindejiaren。tadefumurangtarenshou，shuonanrenmeiyoubutoudongxidedongxi。zhiyaotahuijiajijiarenshenghuofei。

 houlaizheigekehuzhaowozuofudao，zuihouyonglejiangjinyinian，qingrenzhudonglikai，zhangfuhuidaojiali，tamenxianzaizhengchuyuhunyinzhongjianjieduan。

duiyuganggangfaxianzhangfuyueguidejixiang，nvxingshouxianyaojianlizhengquedexintaihecelve，dahaokaizhanhunwaiqingdejichu。

第一，直截了当挑明婚外情

 youxienvrenhaipabaoluzhangfudehunwaiqing，yinweiyidanzhexiububeisixialai，tamendehunyinjiuhuishoudaoweixie。yinci，jishitafaxianlehunwaiqing，tayecongbutiji，momodichengshouzhebeibeipandetongku。

 woxianggaosuzheixienvrenyijuhua“niyuehaipa，yueyouguji，hunwaiqingjiuyuenanjiejue，yinweiruguonirenshou，sishengzijiuhuichulai”。

 niyaozhijiegenlaogongshuo“zhangfu，wozhidaonizaiwaimianyougenvren。tadechuohaoshishenme？nimenzaiyiqihou，nimenhuiyoushenmexingwei？wobuzaihunishifouchengren。woxianzaihenitanpai。wohuidingzheniweilaideyijuyidong”。

dangnitiaochuhunwaiqingdeshihou，nidezhangfuhuisikaoruhemianduihunyinhehunwaiqing，zheijianshikeyituidongqianjin。

第二，给丈夫种下拯救婚姻的心锚

baoluhunwaiqinghou，niyaobiaoxianchuduihunyindetaidu，yeyaorangtakanqingzijiduihunyindetaidu，yejiushixiwangjixuzheiduanhunyin。

 danbuyaosipiqiubulihun，ershishuo“zhangfu，zaiwobuzhidaozheijianshizhiqian，niconglaimeiyoutidaoguolihun，zheibiaomingnirengranxiangwanjiunidehunyin，niduiwomendehunyinhenmanyi”

goutongshi，niyaorangtakandaozheigeguanjiandian，niyaodaitaqusikao，rangtayishidaozijiduihunyindetaidu。

 tongshi，yekeyipangqiaoceji“zhangfu，nibuchengrenhunwaiqingshiyouyuanyinde。nihaipalihun，nihaipajieshuxianzhuang，nihaipawohuizhuazhunidehunwaiqing，bufangshou”。

第三，表态对婚外情零容忍

yaobiaoxianchuduihunwaiqingdetaidu——hunyinzhongbujieshouhunwaiqing。qizifaxianlaogongyouwaiyuzenmeban？

nikeyishuo“zhangfu，nixiangheneigenvrenfenshou。ruguonibutongyi，womenjiulihun”。

yexutahuitaopao，jixuyangaihunwaiqing“wogaosuniwomeiyouchugui，wohesheifenshoule？niyoumeiyouwancheng？”

 jiarunizhijiehuidatadezheijuhua，henrongyibeitadaipianzhaodaozuobidezhengju，suoyiniyaojinjindingzhezijidemubiao——rangtaheairenfenshou。

 huidaoshangmiandewenti，nikeyihuidata“haozhangfu，ruguonizaiwaimianmeiyouqingren，niyinggaihewoyiqishenghuo。niyinggaibaituoneixierangwobushufudexingwei”。

youxienanrenhuitiaoqiang，henni“niweishenmerangwogaibian？wobuxianghenizhuzaiyiqi。”。

 zheigeshihou，nvrenbuyaobeitadetaiduhedao，nikeyishuo“shide，ruguonibuxiang，womenjiulihun。xianzainishenzhibuganchengrennidehunwaiqing。ruguonixiangyonglihunlaiweixiewo，burangwoganyu，wobuhuihezuo。wohuimiqieguanzhuni，wobuhuifangsong，gengbuyongshuofangqile”。

dangyigenanrenbeipojiaolvshi，tahuikongheni“woyaohenifenkai”“yihounibuxiangjianwo”……

 qizikeyishuo“nibanzoule。nihewaimiandenvrenxiangchulezheimejiu。niweishenmeyikaishijiububanjia？ruguonibanzoule，neigenvrenhuizenmexiang？tahuirenweinirenshita，nihuirenweinibixujiajita。neishi，tahuichanzheni，niwufataotuo”。

dangnirangtakandaoxiayigeqingkuangshi，tahuikaishizixikaolv。

daduoshuqingkuangxia，zainanrenyanli，qingrenzhishishenghuodediaoweipin，taconglaibuxiangrangtashangwei。

 qizifaxianlaogongyouwaiyuzenmeban？dangtaxiangbanchuquyebuziyoudeshihou，ziranhuidaxiaofenjudeniantou。nvrenyuzhangfugongkaihunwaiqing，yidingyaolejieyixiehunyinxinli。