中年男人有婚外情时，男人放得下婚外情吗

 hunyinjiuxianglianggerendelvcheng。ruguozaizheiduanlvchengzhong，lianggerendounengxinshouduixinaidelingyibandechengnuo。ranhou，zheiduanhunyinkeyihuxiangyilai，huxiangbangzhu，zoudaozuihou。nanrenfangdexiahunwaiqingma？

 buguo，ruguozaizheigeguochengzhong，youyigerenyoulewaixinsi，beipanlezheiduanganqing，zheiduanganqinghenyoukenenghuipolie，youqishidaolezhongnian。

 duixuduofufulaishuo，dangtamendiyicijianmianshi，tamenshiqulexinxianganheduiguoqudereqing。zaizheigeshihou，ruguotamenyudaoyigerangtajuedeyouquderen，yigerenjiuhuikaishigantongshenshou。

 mianduizheizhongqingkuang，daduoshuzhongniannvxingtongchanghuidajingxiaoguai，shenzhizhijietichulihun。congmingdenvrenzaichulizheigewentishiyuputongrenbutong。

youhunwaiqingdezhongniannanren，congmingdenvrenbuhuizhudongtichulihun：

冷静下来，分析原因

 yixienvxingzaidezhizijideairenyouhunwaiqinghou，huifeichangchongdong，xianglijilihun；youxienvrenhuifeichangxingfen，xiesidilidikuqi，faxiezijideqingxu；youxienvrenhuishoudaohendadedaji，weizijigandaobeishang，beishang，zuihouyiyu。

 shishishang，youzheixiezuofashikeyilijiede，yinweimeigerenzaiyudaozheiyangdeshiqingshi，douhuiyougezhongfuzadeqingxu，huiyoukunhuo、fennu、shiluo、bugan。

 raner，zaixianruduanzanganqingdenitanhou，woxiwangninengjianqiangqilai，yonggandimianduita，mianduizheigecankudexianshi，ranhoulixingdifenxitahunwaiqingdeyuanyin。

 nizhidao，zhongnianhuiyouyixieqingganweiji，danzheibingbuyiweizhetagenbenbuaini。zhishipingdandeshenghuorangtawangjilenizuichudeshiyan。

 mianduizheizhongqingkuang，yigecongmingdenvrenyinggailengjingxialai，fenxiyuanyin，congtadejiaodusikao。duoxiangxiangnidehunyinshifouyoubiyaojixuxiaqu。buyaoxuanzelihun，yinweinanrenhuitouyunmuxuan。nanrenfangdexiahunwaiqingma？

主动与男性沟通

jiaruyigenanrenyouhunwaiqing，neijiushuomingnimenlianggemuqianduishuangfangdelejiehaibugou。

yaozhidao，hunwaiqingjiuxianghunyinzhongdeyigedaxueqiu，tashiyouwushudexuehua，zhangqiduiji。

fuertaicengshuo：“meiyouyipianxuehuashiwugude。”

 zaixianshishenghuozhong，danglianggerenxiangchushi，huiyoumaodun。dangzheixiexiaomaodunwufajiejue，zhinengbuduanjileishi，tamenjiuxiangwushudexuehua，gundeyuelaiyueda，zuizhongzaikansipingdandeshenghuozhongbaofachulai。

 yinci，dangyigezhongniannanrenyouhunwaiqingshi，yigecongmingdenvrenbuhuijuxianyubiaomian，ershihuiyutashenrugoutong，jiejuetamenzuigenbendewenti。

 bijing，shenghuohaizaijixu，rizihaizaijixu。youshihou，lihunbingbushichulizheixiewentideguanjianhejichu，shenrugoutongcainengkandaowentidebenzhi。

会学会自我反省

 ziyue：“sanshengwoshen”。fansibushifoudingzijidecuowu，ershinulizuoyigegenghaodeziji。meigerendoubuwanmei，danmeigerendoukewanggengjiejinwanmei。

 dangyigenanrenyouwaiyushi，nvrenyeyinggaikaolvzijideyixiewenti。yexudangnikandaozheilideshihou，youxienvrenhuishuo，womeitiandouzaijialifuwu，tazuoleyixieduibuqideshi。wonuligongzuo，tayizheizhongfangshibaodawo。

shishishang，nimeitianzaijianuligongzuo，meitianweijiatingnuli，tayouhunwaiqingshitadecuo。

danshi，niyoumeiyouxiangguo，tazainuligongzuo，mianduikehuleidebuxiangshuohua，niyoumeiyouguanxinguo？

 duiyuhunwaiqingzheigewenti，yizhishiyigemaodundian，meigerendouzhanzaizijidejiaoduweizijibianhu，quecongbuzhanzaiduifangdejiaoduweilianggerenzhexiang。

yigezhongniannanrenyouhunwaiqing，taconglaimeiyouxiangguojiatingheweilai。danzuoweiqizi，nizhendewanquanhegema？

aiqingshiyigeshuangxiangdeguocheng，zhiyaowoaini，niyeaiwo，womenjiunengzaiyiqi。

 hunyingengxiangshiaiqingdegaojibanben。zheiduilianggejiehunderenlaishuoshiyigetiaozhan。taxuyaoshuangfangdexinren、kuanronghenaixin。zhiyoulianggerencainengzhenzhengxiangaiyibeizi。

 dangyigezhongniannanrenyouhunwaiqingshi，yigecongmingdenvrenbuhuizhudongyaoqiulihun，ershihuilengjingxialaifenxiyuanyin，huizhudongyunanrengoutong，gengduodeziwofansi。

keyixiangxiangzijideyuanyin，shiyinweishencaibuhao，haishiyinweizhishichajutaida？

 nanrenfangdexiahunwaiqingma？ruguoshiyinweizheixieyuanyin，nikeyiyiqitaolun。rendaozhongnianburongyi。ruguonizhixianglihun，nirengranxuyaozaiweilairongrubierendeshenghuo。nidehunyinhuixingfuma？