婚外情不是爱情，婚外恋怎么办

 hunwailian，shisuoyoutaruhunyinderenzuitonghendebiangu。yuanbenxiangchuleshijinianshenzhijishinianderen，yiyezhijianbianxin，bamuguangtouxianglingyigeren。hunwailianzenmeban？

zheizhongshiqingzaihunyinzhongbingbushaojian，youqishizhongniannanxing。

jitianqian，yiweiyuqizijiehun20duoniandeduzhezhaodaolewo，tayouhunwaiqing。

 heqizilianggerenzaiyiqi20duonianshixianghuzunzhongde，suiranlianggerenjiehunshimeiyouaiqingjichu，danzheimeduoniandehunyinyemeiyouchuxiantaidadewenti。

danjiuzaibannianqian，yigenianqingpiaoliangdenvhailaidaotadebumen，chongmanqingchunhuoli，rangrenwufayikaiyanjing。

duzheshuo，shitaxianzhudong，nvhaiyemeiyoujujue，taziranyouleqingren。

hezheigenvhaizaiyiqideshihou，tajuedezijiyijingpibeidelinghunyoubiandenianqingle，tasihuyehuidaoleershiduosuidenianling。

danhuijiakandaonianqingdeqizibuzai，zhenggerendoubuganxingqu，shenzhibuxiangshuoyijuhua。

tajuedezijihuole40duoniancaizhaodaozhenai，shenzhiduiyuqizilihunjiajizheigenianqingnvhaiyouyubujue。

danzheigeguanmiantanghuangdedongxijiaozuoaiqing，zhendeshiaiqingma？

 woxiangshuodeshi，hunwailianbushiaiqing，yemeiyouzhenai。nikenenghuituranfaxiannizhendehenaita，danshizheizhongjiqingxiaoshizhihouni？

 guigenjiedi，nanrenzhiainianqingnvhaidezhangxiang。meigenvrendounianqingle，douhuibianlao。dangnvhaidelianbuzaishi，tahaihuijixuaima？

tuiyiwanbushuo，nvhaishizhendeaini，erbushitancai？hunwailianzenmeban？

yinci，hunwaiqingbushiaiqing，ruguoyouhunwaiqing，zuihaodejieguowufeijiushizheijidian。

1.认识到自己的错误，离开对方

buguanzenmebiaobanghunwaiqingdegaogui，tayeshiyizhongcuowudecunzai，shidaodesuoqianzede。

huoxuyourenhuishuo，meigerendouyouzhuiqiuaiqingdequanli，yejiushihunhouyudaozhenaiyounengzenmeban？

aiqingshiwufakongzhide，jiuxiangkesouyiyang。

danshirenzhisuoyishiren，shiyinweiwomenyounengliyueshuziji。zainidanshendeshihouaishangbierenkeyiquzhuiqiu，keyiaishangta。

danshijiehunhoujiuyouzerenle，ruguozuoleweibeidaodedeshi，zenmenengchengzhiweirenni？

zuihaodejieguokeyirenshidaozijidecuowu，likaichuguideren，xiangbeizijishanghaideqizidaoqian。

 tashifouyuanyiyuanliangqujueyuta。zhishaotayishidaozijidecuowubingdaoqianshiyizhongtaidu。ruguotarengranxiangyaozheigejiating，tayinggaizuohaozhangfudegongzuo，dedaoqizideyuanliang。

2.与现任妻子离婚，向孩子解释清楚

shishishang，hunwailianshanghaidechulelingyiban，haiyouhaizi。

jiaruzheijianshibeijiechuanhou，haizijiangshidiyigebengkuideren。

woyouyigepengyou，tadefuqinzaiwaimianyouyigeqingren，neiniantagangman18sui。

zhidaozheijianshizhihou，zheigeyixianghenjianqiangderencengjingzaiwomianqiankuguo。

 tazuibunengjieshoudeshi，tafuqinqipiandenvhaizhiyou22sui，zhibitadasisui。tabumingbaitafuqinshizenmexiangde。dangtaheneigenvrenzaiyiqishi，tabuhuixiangdaotadenverma？

jieguozheimeduonianguoqule，zheijianshiyizhiyingxiangzheta，shenzhibugantanlianai，buxiangjiehun。

 danshimeiyoubanfaqiangpoganqing。rendaozhongnianhenrongyigaibianzhuyi。ruguolianggerenbeipozaiyiqi，tamenjiubuhuixingfu，posuidejingziyewufahuifu。

zuihaodebanfajiushihexianzaideqizilihun，duixianzaideqizizuochubuchang，hehaizijiangqingchu，zhongxinkaishirensheng。

3.不要打扰现在的家庭

xinlixuejiashuo：“zaihunwailianzhong，nanrendaduoshiweileyuwang，nvrendaduoshiyinweiaiqing。”

yinci，hunwailianweileyuwangbuhuizhangjiu，zhishiweilequsuoxu。

 yigeduzhejiushizheiyang。tayouyiniandehunwailian。nvhaiyehennianqinghenpiaoliang，dantazhidaotabushiyinweiai。nanrenshixiabanshensikaodedongwu。tamenduixinxianganhenhaoqi。dangxinxianganguoqushi，shengxiadezhishipilaohepilao。

 tatanchengdiduiwoshuo，taconglaimeiyoudasuanguo，yinweitaheqizilihunle，tapingshiduiqiziyehenhao，daoxianzaihaimeiyoufaxianzheijianshi。

 dannvhaiduoduobirendiyaoqiutayuqizilihun。tabeipotaijin，buxiangweilezijidesiyuerchuli。tazhijieshanchuleduifangdelianxifangshi，zaiyemeiyoulianxiguo。

 jinguantadexingweirengranshoudaodaodedeqianze，danhunwaiqingdezuihaojieguojiushizaibushanghaijiatingdeqingkuangxiajishifangshou，basunshijiangdaozuidi。

duihunyinzhongcheng，duizijidexingweifuze，shimeigechengnianrendedixian。

buyaowangxiangconghunwailianzhongdedaoshenmesuoweideaiqing，zheixiedoushiwujizhitan。

hunwailianshijianbudeguangdeshi，sheiyebuxiangyibeizidaizaijingdi，ruguozuocuolejiuyaochengrencuowu，jishizhisun。

nanrenyaoyueshuzijidexingwei，nvrenyeyaoguanhaoziji，duiyoujiatingdenanrenyaojingeryuanzhi。

 hunwailianzenmeban？ruguonifaxiannidezhangfuyouhunwaiqing，ruguonibunenghuidaoyuanlaidehunyin，jiufangshouba。zhiyoulikai，womencainengchengquangenghaodeziji，yongyougenghualideshenghuo。