老公出轨了我该怎么原谅他？​情感出轨怎么接纳

 laogongchuguile，zuoweibeichuguideyifang，yifangmianmeifajienalingyibandedewaiyu，lingyifangmianchongfenkaolvxiaohaijiqizheimeduoniandeqinggan，youwufawanquanheairenpolie。yiner，danghunyinzhongzaoshouhunwailian，yinweigezhongyaosu，henduofufuburongyisuibiantiaoxuanliyi。qingganchuguizenmejiena？

 keshi，laogongchuguizheijianshiqing，xiangyigenciyiyang，rangnvrenjuedejiqidenaonuhenanguo，duilaogongdexinlaiheduihunyindeguishuganzaoshoumingxiandehuihuai。

 xiangqizhihouyitongshenghuadeluhaijiaozhang，quebuqingchuzenmecainengbaituoheiying，gengdanyouzishendeyuanliangbingbukeyihuandelingyifangdeaixi。

laogongchuguile，wogaizenmeyuanliangta?

 xiaoyihelaogongwanhun7nianle，tayizhiyiweiziyishigexingfukuailedenvren。xiaoyizishengongzuonenglihenqiang，bajialiguanlidefeichanghao，gongzuoyeshunfengshunshui，guinvconghuicongming，laogonghuizhuanqianyouchongta。

 zaitarenlaikan，tahelaogongenaiyoujia，shiquanbuqinpenghaoyoudebangyang。xiangbudao，3geyueqian，laogongdewaiyuquejiletayigejidadedaya。

 laogongduizijizuoguodeyiqiehenhouhuimoji，yehentongku，yizhizhizezishen，kukuaiqiuxiaoyiyuanliangta，zaijizijiyicijihui，tabiaominghuiyongtayihoudeyushengjiabeipeichangta。qingganchuguizenmejiena？

 xiaoyitongyilelaogong，3geyueguoqu，laogongzhuyaobiaoxiandefeichanghao，tabayinxingkajiaodaolexiaoyi，meiriyizaoxiabanlehuijiapeitahexiaohai，daonaqudoushihuixianxiangxiaoyi“huibao”yisheng，jiejiaririhuijixiaoyisongliwu……jibianruci，xiaoyineixinqueyizhiyouheiying，yizhimeifaxuehuifangxia，wufaxinlailaogong。

 tajingchangdanxinlaogongzaicifasheng，biguoqugengbijiaominganle，zhixulaogongyilikaijia，huoshiwanyidianhuijia，tajiujiaozaobuan，laoxiangtongdianhualejietazaizuoshenme;jinguanlaogongmeiridouhuibaoxingchenganpai，taquemeiyouhenjianxin，texiangzhuizongta，kanyixiatashuodaodeshifouqueshi;

 meiwanyibishangyanhuoshilaogongyaohetapapadeqingkuangxia，tajiuxiangdaolaogongheneiyigenvrensihundechangjing，bushufudeyaorenming，buyuanyigenlaogongqinmi，haijinbuzhujiuxuyaoduilaogongnaopiqi。

 tafanganneiyangdezishen，quewufakongzhizishen，tahenbunengzishenshiqujiyile，bazheiyiduanjiyilijichoushijian，jiuburongyineimatongkule。

 tayoushixiang，jiranhuodeneimatongku，huoshiliyisuanleba。keshijiandaoguinvyulaiyutinghuademoyang，tayoushifenxinsuan，henbuxiaxinsunhaixiaohai。

 jiujingzenmecainengbuneimatongku?jiujingzenmecainengyuanliangwaiyulaogong?meiribuduanxiangzheizhongshier，taganjueshifenpijuanhenanao，queshibuyuanzaineimetongkuxialaile。

 bansuizhehunwailiandefabinglvdeshenggao，henduozaibierenlaikanxingfukuailedehunyinyeyudaoleneiyangdeshiqing。hunwailianshiduihunyindehuihuai，duifaxianrenhuichanshenghendadeqingxusunhai。

 zenyanglixingdijiejuehunwailian，baituoheiying，bataduihunyin、duifufu、duibaobaodesunhaijiangzhizuishao，gaijinhunyinqingkuang，tishengzijiyunyinghunyinwentidegongzuonengli，shifeichangzhidehunyinzhongdenanhaihenvhaiquxuexihesikaode。

一、了解到这也是一种外伤后的应激状态

zaoshoulehendadedajiahetongku，yaoxiangmanbuzaihudixiangzhiqianyiyanghenanshenggongchu，zhenduihenduolaopoeryanshihenbubiande。

wulunlaogongshuoxieshenme，ganshenme，laopozongganjuelaogonghuimengpianzishen，naizhixiangzhuizong、diaoyanlaogong。

 tamenxinlihenshoushang、tongku，guishuganhexinlaiganbeishoudaopohuai，xinliyouheiying，duilaogongchongmanlezenghen，meifazuochuyuanliang，dichulaogongdepapaxingwei;

tamenhenzaiyilaogongdeyijuyidong，neixinhenxiangyaoquxinlailaogongyoudanxinzaidubeimengpian，qingbuzijindicaiyitadexingwei;

 zailixingshanglejiedaozheizhongzuofabushidang，huishilianggerendeguanlianyuelaiyuegengjiduan，danzaiqingxushangkongzhibulezishen，meifamingquenanshengshibushihuizhenxinshiyihuiguo，danxintazaidupanbian。

yiner，nvrenjiaolvqingxu、youlv、tongku，hunyinyededaojiaodadeweihai。

 zheigeshihounvrenyidingyaochixugaozhizishen，xianjieduannizhengchuyuyizhongyingjixing：laogongzheijianshijitachanshengyizhongwaishang，chuangshanghoudeguojifanyingdailaitayizhongcuojue，yiwangdeaiqingbuyongfouren，rujindeguanlianbixupingding。

二、接纳自己负伤的情况，为自己一段时间去调节

 zaoshouneiyangdedajiahesunhai，nvrenjuedetongku、bushufu、naonu，zaiqingxushangmeifazuochuyuanliang，meifaxinlailaogong，shihenchangguide。

 bubizhuiqiuzishenlikecongzheileitongkudexinqingzhongzouchuqu，xianrongxuzishenyouyiduanxintaicaogao、xiaochendeqingkuang，yejilaogongyixieshijianhekongjianqujiejuetadekuijiuhetongku。

 takeyizhaoyilianggexinlaidehaopengyou，huozhaoxunzhuanyedehunyinxinlizixunshidejutizhidao，quqingtuheshifangchulai，jiejuefushangdexintai。

haikeyishizhebaguanxinliqianyidaoziyideshenshanglai，haohaoaiziji，zhaoguzishendexinshen;

 huoshihehaopengyou、jiarenduoyixiejuhuihuodonghehudongjiaoliu，haikeyiqulvyou、jianshenyundong、tesemeishi、spa、tingge、kandianshiju，hainenggousuzaoyixiegerenaihao，rangzishendeqingxujianjiandifanhuitaiyangdequanqiu。

wulunzishenduomedetongkuhebushufu，doububikaolvdaohaizhiqirenzhishen，haizhiqirenzhishendebaochoufangfa。

 buran，nibudanxinlirengranbukeyijunheng，haihuijixushinishangshangjiashang，yaohaijidebaoronglingyifangdeyucitongshiyejiushifangleziji。

zaixiubuyingxiangdezheiduanshijian，niwuxuyouyiquyueta，danyebubizhengzhi、lengbaoli;

ninengshitaganshoudaonidetongku，danbubiyitiandaowanyoukuyounao，yaoburan，tadexinlini、beijinglixianghuiyulaiyuyuan。

yaoshitajuedezainipangbianshishushide，jiazhongshiwennuanhewenqingde，shitaderenhexinlibulejiazhong、yuelaiyueaini。

三、思考婚姻中的问题

 “wodehunyinjiujingzenmela?wodehunyinjiujingfashengleshenmewenti?”laogongchuguile，jishihunyindekunjing，lingnvrenjuedetongkuhewunai，danzhengruquanbudekunjingyiyang，budandaibiaozhefengxianheweihai，yedaibiaozhezhuanzhe。

laogongdewaiyushiyigeshujuxinhao，tatixingnihunyinshengbingle，jiurufagaoshaoshishentibingzhengdeshujuxinhaoyiyang。

 jiezhezheiyikunjing，qutansuohunyinzhongjiujingshinalifashenglewenti，xunzhaojiejuekunnanzhidao，bixutigaoshenme“mianyinengli”，jiaoweilizhikeguanxingdixiangbanfa，lizhididuidaizishendehunyin。

 danghunyindewentiqudelechuli，bicizhijianyehuigengyouxinxinquyunyinghunyin。fuqizhijianyidingkeyifujianxinlai，bicizhijianhuigengaixi，jianglaihuigengxingfukuaile。

四、假如或是没法学会放下，可寻找婚姻心里咨询师的具体指导

yingpian《shaonianpai》zhongyouyijujingdiantaici——renshengdeyiyibianshichixudexuehuifangxia。

henduorendoumingbaikuanrongdeshijiyiyi，dandangshierqueshichanshengzaizigedeshenshang，quebunengcongxinlibaozhengzhenshideyuanliang。

 yingduinanrenchugui，henduonvrenmingbaizishendehunyinzhongchuxianlewenti，xiangyuanlianglaogong，guannianshangyemingbaixuehuifangxiacaisuanshizuiheshidexuanze，quewufaguanliziji，fandaozuochuyixiebulihunyindexingwei，naizhirangzishenbianchengzenghenheyoushangdeqiufan。

 qingganchuguizenmejiena？zheigeshihou，laopokeyixunzhaozhuanyedehunyinxinlizixunshidexiezhu，chousibojian，xunzhaozishenmeifayuanliang、wufaxuehuifangxiadegenbenyuanyin，xiubuwaishang，rangzishenzaicidedaoaideliliangheguishugan。