遇到恋爱结婚当中出现了第三者，怎么对付

 zuoweixinshiqidenvshi，chukaiyaoyouyishenfengcaixiyinzhudaochusedezhangfu，lianaijiehunyeyaoyouyishenshijianzhilidisanzhe。aishishenmenixiabiandajialaishijitanyitanruhechengchudisanzhe?

ruhezhilidisanzhe-yingduidisanzhedefangshi

关键点一：切勿过软。

 “yiyuanbaode，mashanbeibierenqi”zheijuhuashuodeyidiandoubusuanguo。yingduidisanzheshi，dajiatairuanruo，feichangrongyijiubeidisanzheqidaotouding。neiruhejiukanqilaizishentairuanruoleni?biru，quzhaodisanzhefalaosaoshuozishenweilegenghaodizheiyijia，touruleguoduo，henbuyi。ranglingyifangbubihuihuaizishendexingfukuaile。nixuyaolejie，jiarudisanzhehuijinikaolvdao，tadangshijiuburongyiqiangnidezhangfule。shijishangtayagenjiumeiyoujinikaolvdaoguo，yinci nilaiqiutajinikaolvdao，zheichunsuishijuqishitouzazishendejiao。yebubiqushuozishenlibulezhangfu，zishenhenshandaizijizhangfuneiyangdehua，neiyangzongshirangdisanzherenrennitairuanruo。

关键点二：亦不能太硬。

 zheilitaiyingzhuyaoshixintaijiweideqiangshi，naizhidouyixiebuzhongshidisanzhederengetezhi。lianaijiehunneiyanghuibadisanzheyingjixing，tahuishengsilijiededikangni。birudisanzheshiqianhaibingmeiyouxiangchaikainidejiazhong，jinjinxianggongxiangziyuannidezhangfu，xiangyounizhangfudechongni。ruguonilijiqumatashimeiyouxiuyangdejiannvren，yibeizidoumeirenyao。neimatabianhuinaonudeniantouxiangfangshefachaikainidejiazhong。jiusuanzuihoutabingbuhuigennidezhangfuyongyuanzaiyiqi，keshitaweilegenghaodiyingduini，taburongyirangninhaoguo。

关键点三：治理第三者关键在丈夫的身上。

 shijishangdisanzhewangwangdisanzhechazuzishendehunyan，tazhibuguoyouerzhonghenyoukenengdemudi，diyizhongbianshiweilegenghaodiqing，tahenyoukenengqueshishandaizijidezhangfu，dierzhongbianshiweilegenghaodili，taxianggenjuzhangfushizishenhuodeyichu。zhenduichuziyuqingganhezishendezhangfuzaiyiqidedisanzhe，womenyaorangtajianjiandiganjuezishendezhangfuyagenbuxihuanta。zheishihouzishenjiuxuyaoxiangjinbanfazhengdedaozishenzhangfudeai，biruchangchanghezhangfuyiqijiaotongchuxing，rangzhangfuyagenjiumeiyoujiyuchanghedisanzhezaiyiqi，jianjiandidedisanzhebianhuizaoshoulengdan，yincitabianhuigenzishendezhangfuchanshengfenqi，shijianzhangciyiwang，tabianhuiquanzidongliqu。zhenduizheixiexiangyaozhangfuquanyidedisanzhe，womenkeyigenjucaozongjiazhongdezichanshiquan，rangtayagenjiumeiyoukongdanghuodeyidianerquanyi。aishishenmeninaizhihainenggouyingyongyigeqiaomen，ziranneiyanghuichuxianyidingdefengxianxing。neibianshiqupinqingyigeren，rangtayonggenggaodequanyiquyinyoudisanzhe，disanzhezaiquanyiyanqianhuoxuxunsubianhuishangdanglingwailiquzishendezhangfu。ziranshibubibeidisanzhefajuezheishinidequantao。