始终维持自信 恋爱心理学

 qingganxinlizixun，ganqingzhenduihenduoreneryan，tadebiyaoxingzaoyichaoguolaiqiancai，shiyijianbukehuoquedewupin，gengkeyishuotashixishizhenbao。danqiahaoshihenduorenyouyidiquaihuta、guanaita，taquejirenchanshengdejuedegengweicuozongfuza。doulejie“yifengengyun，yifenshouhuo”。shishangmeiyoutoujiquqiaojiuhuodedeshouyi。lianaixinlixue，danbingfeishiquanbudeqinfendoushihuiyouzhengbilideshouyi，worenweitamenyongyuanyuganqingshizaishihedanshile。xuduorendaoganqingshangdouhuiqinfendijizijizuiaideren、weizheiyiduanganqingdeweihubaoyang，zuozhexuduodeqinfen。youxierenhuizaiganqingzhongzoudaozuihou，taruxingfukuailedeyisheng；eryouxierenwulunzaiganqingtourushiduoshaozuizhongzhongguishiyigerenkangxiaquanbu。

 keyiyangquanshizaiganqingzhongtouruderen，tamendejieguoweishenmedoubuyiyangni？naizhizheixieyigerenxiuchengzhengguodeganqing，tamenbuyidingbizheixiezoudaozuihouderentourudeshao。duibizheixietourubingbushiguoduoquenengxingfudenvren，tamenyeshizenyangbaozhengzaiganqingzhongdexinyingshouni？jiulianzheixieganqingchulehaozhangshijiandeqinglvzhijian，yehuijuedeyiqianliulianwangfandeganqingyezaimanmandanwei，sangshishenmigan。

 shijishangyuangufeichangjiandan，ganqingchukaibixulianggerenyitongyunyingzhiwai，tahaibixudajiaerrenyizhizaiganqingzhongchixudejiashangfangfuji，weizheiyifenaiqingbaoxian。yidanshaolefangfujidecunyou，jiusuanshidangshizaixiai、enaidelianggeren，yehenyoukenengyouyusangshizheiyifenshenmigan，zaochengzheiyifenganqinglaidaozhongdianzhan。

 shijishanghenduorenjinjinmeiyouzhaoduiweihubaoyangganqingdeqiadangfangshi，yincicaihuizuozaiduodeqinfenheshouyixiandeshibaifei。yejiushishuofangfujichukaidajiapingrisuorenzhinenglideyixieyibanyaolijizhiwai，yeyougengguanjiandeshibenshenfangfuji。henduorenbingbulijieshenmejiaobenshenfangfuji，shijishangbianshidajiajinriyaojiangdexialiezheisandian。

第一点：始终维持自信

 xuduorenjuedezixindaduoshushiyongzairenjijiaowangyushejiaomeiticengmian，shijishangganqingzhongyehenbixuzixindecunyou，naizhikeyishuoniyizhizaiganqingzhongdezixinxinnengbaochiduozhangshijian，nidezheiyifenganqingjiukeyibaochijiudouyidianyebufukua。zheishiyouyuxuduorendaoganqingshangdoujinglineiyangdetihui，neibianshilianggerenzaiyiduanganqingzhongjiaowangdeshijiantaizhanghou，lianggerendoushihuichuyuyizhongshifenjiaozao、jiaolvqingxudedeqingkuang。

 biru：nvxingganjuezishenzaiganqingzhonghuibansuizhenianjidetigao，shenxingdezouxingherongyandebianlao，huisangshiduilingyibandeyouhuolihexiyinli，naizhikanjianzishendaolenianlinganhuangdelian，meiyounianqingshineibanyouhuoerminganduoyi。ernanshengzehuiyouyuzishenmeiyouchongzudenenglizhuandaliangqian，jijiazhongheqizixiaohaichanshengyouyifuyuderichangshenghuo，erjuedexinliyalifeichangda，naizhiganjueyizishenxianjieduandenenglibupeilingyifang。

 henxianeryijianyidanzaiganqingzhong，renheyifangzhujianzhuyaobiaoxianchubuzixin，caiyizishendenengli、caijilingyifangshi，zheiyiduanganqingbianhuikuaisujindaojiaolvqingxudeqingkuang。erzaizheileijiaolvqingxudeziranhuanjingxialianggerendefenqihebumanyidangranyehuiluxuerchu，fenqidezaochengheehuazongshimochulianggerendangshitianmeidejiyili，suizheerchengdaliangdeshilianggerenzhongjiandebumanyi。

 qingganxinlizixun，zheizhongfenqihebumanyibingbingbushilianggerenbingbingbushirijiyueleichuqude，zhishiyaoshangsutamenbenrendexinli，zheizhongzhuyaobiaoxiandouyuanyuyubuzixindecaiji，gengzhunquedishuoyinggaishibuzixin。zuixianwomenzaitiaoxuantanlianaizongtimubiaodeqingkuangxia，juedaduoshurentongchanghuitiaoxuanduizishenyouyouhuolideren，erzheizhongyouhuolizaibicizhijianyanqianhuizhuanhuachengzixinxin。youyuzixinnenggouranglingyifangdeyanzhongjiandaozishendecunyou，neiyangcaikeyibuduanhuodelingyifangdeliuyiyuhaogandu。

 zaiganqingzhongzixinbianshiyizhongbixucunyou“benshenfangfuji”zhangqidecunyou，rutongshaocaiwubiyoucongsuanzuochentuoyiyang。turanyouyitian，zheileizixinmeile，neizheiyiduanganqingyehuiyouyuzixindehuransangshitazishendehanyi；rutongshaocaicongsuanmouyiyanghuranmeile，neimazheijiachangxiaocaihaihuijixuyouguoqudeweierma？

 zheiyeshiweishenmexuduolianrenzaitanlianaiqinei，tanzhetanzhejiuyouyifenshoudeyuanyin，jiusuanlianggerenxianghuzhijianyiranaizhelingyifang，yepobudeyitiaoxuanfenli。guanjiandeyuangubianshiyouyutamenzhongjianmeilezixinzheiyifenzuizhongyaodediaoweipinzaiganqingzhongqudiaoji，caihuichuxianneiyangdeshierchansheng。

 zaiganqingzhongnvxingyidingyaoyouxinxin，bubilaoshidianjizhezishendelingyibanhuiduinimeiyouganjue，jinerzaochengtaduininyouaimuxurongdexiangfa；nanshengyiyanghaiyaoyouxinxin，bubidianjizhezishendelingyibanhuiyouyunidenenglibuzong，erzaochengyizhongbaoqiantadexiuchigan。zheizhongnantibingbushibunengxiang，qiantitiaojianshiyaoduizishenyouxinxin，bingbazheileixiangfazuoweidiaozhengqingxucaisuanshizuiqiadangdezuofa。

 suoyishuodajiabubixiaoqiaozixin，tajinguanshiganqingzhongzuijibenshangdeyigewupin，yiyangdetayeshiganqingzhongzuizhongyaodeyigewupin。ruguowomenxiangrangzishendeganqingyizhilengzang，neimaniyejiubukeyidiuqizishenzuizuichujiuhuiyoudezixin，jinyouzaiganqingzhongyizhiweichizhedangshidezixin，nicaikeyizhangjiudexiyinzhulingyifang，yehuirangzheiyiduanganqingbuduanxialai。

第二点：持续更改并提高自己

 zaiganqingzhongdajiafashengshuzuiduodenantijiuxuyaoshuneiyangyizhongzhuangkuangle，neibianshixuduorendaoyikaishienaishi，huiduilingyibanjuede100%delingrenmanyi，jieguozailejiehouyiduanshijianhuoshihunhoubianhuizaochengfeichangdadexintaibianhua。zheizhongganjuejiurutongneileiganghuodedexiaowanjuhuoshixihuandedongxi，gangnadaoshoushiyouyuxiqihehaoqixinduitachongmanlekaixinzhiqing。jieguoshouzhongpanwanyiduanshijianhuoshiyingyongyiduanshijianhou，huiganjuetabingmeiyouxiangxiangzhongneimajizhierzaochengyanfanhuoshilingyizhongmuguang。

 zheileixiangfazaiganqingzhongyidanyongshangxintou，zhixujiandaolingyifangzuoyijianbufuhezishenqingyideshi，bianhuijindaoyizhongxinfandeqingxuzhuangtai，jinbuzhudiyaoduitazhishouhuajiao，huoshishiqiangliejianyilingyifangzaizheijianshiqingshanggaizenmezuo。zongzhibianshilingyifangdeyiyanyixingzhixumeibaozhengzishendexinzhong，jiuxianggaizhengtazenmezuoshiqiadangdezuofa。

 yezhengyinglezheijuhua“renfeishengxian”，wulundajiazuiaiderendaodishishei，huoshiaiderendaodishishei，deshenshangzhongguishihuifashengxuduodenantihuoshiwenti。zirandajiayebukeyiguangkanlingyifangdequexian，yexukanlingyifangdeshenshangdeyoushi。yaoburanwomenzaiganqingshangyebuhuitiaoxuanlingyifang，yaoburanneigenxiazitiaodengyiyangyoushenmebutong。neiweihedajiahuichuxianzheileiyanfanganqingzaochengni？

 shijishangyuangufeichangjiandan，zheishiyouyudajiataiguoailingyifang，xiangranglingyifangzaiganqingzhongyuelaiyuejijinjizhierzaochengdexiangfa。xiangfazhongguishiguixiangfa，jiaruxiangfaxiangyixiangjiunengbianweiqueshi，neimetajiuburongyibeichengzuoxiangfale。ziranzheileixiangfameigerendoulejienanyiquwancheng，genghekuangganqingzhongsheiquanshisuiyide，bukeyisuibiandijiuyaoshangxiasheiguannianhegerenxingwei。

 ganqingzishenbianshikaolianggerenyunyingde，neidajiaweichangmeiqushiyixiagaibianxianzhuang、qinfentigaozijini？zhongjiuzaizheigeshijieshangmeiyouyiqieyigerenshijiniliangshendingzuoerdingde，haodeganqingquanshibixulijinglianggerenzhongjianchixudemoheqicaiyoude。yincibiezaiganqingzhongsheqiulingyifangquzuoyixienizijixiangyaozuohuoshinizijijuedeshiduideshi，zheibingbuhuijidajialianggerenzhongjianchanshengyichu，fanguolaishijianzhangleyihoudoushibiduan。

 jiarufajuelingyifangzuodedequebuduihuoshiyoushenmewenti，ninengbanglingyifangjiuzhengchuqu，xiezhulingyifangqugenggai。zishenzaiganqingzhongyeshiyaorenqingbenshendecunzaidewenti，dequeshizishenyoubixugaishandediqu，jiuqinfenqugenggai、qutigaoziji。ganqingzhongjinyouneiyangbuduanqujianquanhetigaoziworenshicaikeyiranglianggerenzhongjiangengweihexie，xingfukuaile。neiyangcaihuiduidajiazheiyiduanganqingyouyidingdexiezhu，erbushiyiweidiranglingyifanggenggaichengzishenxiangxiangzhongdemoyang。

第三点：更深层次的沟通交流

 doushuo“youqudelinghunqianpianyilv，yougushiderenwanlitiaoyi。”tamenyeshianyulerenyurenjiaowangzhongjianshengminggoutongjiaoliugengguanjian。erzheierdeshengminggoutongjiaoliuzhenduidajiaeryannenggoulejieweigengduofangmiandejingshenjiaoliu，ziranyigezhenzhenzhengzhengwenxindejia，huoshishiyiduizhangqideganqingzhong，dangranshimianbuleshuangfangduofangmiandejingshenjiaoliu。

 zuixianwomenyaolejierenherenzhijianwangwanghuichuxianganqing，qizuiyagendeyuangushiyouyushentidexiongxingheermeng。keshidanglianggerenzhongjiankaizhanyiduanganqinggoutongjiaoliuhou，bicishentidexiongxingheermengbianhuimanmanjiangdi，zheishiyouyuzhangqixingdejiaowang，ranglianggerenzhongjianmanmanlaidaowangrideshenmiganhereqing，yinciganqingyehuimanmanbianqian，xiongxingheermengdedaixieyehuijianshao。

 yaoxiangrangzaibicireqingjianshao、shenmiganbianqiandezhuangkuangxia，ranglianggerendoushihuizaiyilingyifang、guanzhulingyifangdefangshizuihaoshibianshichuangjianlianggerenzhongjiandejingshenjiaoliu。jingshenjiaoliunenggoushiniyizhizaixinqingdiluoshilingyifanghuizaoshouweihai，kuanrongni、jiqikuanweini，zainizuibixuxiezhudeqingkuangxiatahuizainipangbianyizhipeizheni，zheiyeshidajiashuobailedezhongshenbanlv。

 erzenyangchuangjianzheiyijingshenjiaoliuni？shijishangbianshilianggerenbixuzaiyigeshifenjiangudeganqingnei，xianghuzhijiantarulingyifangdexinli，lianggerenwubibuyiyulidiranglingyifanglejiezishendeyiqie，neiyangdezuofayebixushifenjianxinlingyifang。zairihoujiaowangshilianggerenhuizaixuduoshiershangyinqigongming，zheizhonggongmingdianbaohan：guannian、zhuanyezhishi、gerenxingwei、weirenchushishang，zheixiedaliangquanfangweidediqu。neiyangjianjiandisuzaochudejuedebudanzaizhihouhuirangdajialianggerenzhongjiangengweilaogu，yeshifenjinmi。

末尾

 lianaixinlixue，kanlezhishangsandiandajiadounengganshoudao，yaoxiangdedaoyiduanlingzishenlingrenmanyi，huanjuhuashuoshizhangqideganqing。bingbingbushiyijianfeichangrongyideshi。keshibuyiyekeyiyiweizhezheshifennan，ruguonizishenyouchongzudexinqutihui，zaiganqingzhongbuduanqufazhan。daishangjianxinzijidelingyiban，yiqizaiganqingzhongzhubuwanshanzheiyixiaoxitongruanjian，niyejiuhuichajuezijideqinfenbingmeiyoutulao，zhixuzhaoduifangshiniyenenggouhuodezishenyaoxiangderoumeiganqing。yincidahuoeryaolejieweihubaoyangganqingdefangfahefangshibujiqishu，keshizuijibenshangdezheisandianniganwanyaozhangwozhu，neiyangcaihuishinideganqinggengweizhangjiudizouxialai。