zenmerangyigerenhuixinzhuanyilaizhaoni,shangdaolenvrenxin,rutongbayibeireshuipojinbingku,yaoranghuanjingwenduhuinuan,jibudeyebunengmahu。tayexubuhuizailini,henyoukenengduizijidelengyanxiangdai,shenzhikeyishuo“dajiachedijieshule”,danshizheixieweibijiushi“zuihoupanjue”。nvrenxinruan,zangdao“shibushikanjiannidegenggai”“shibushikanjiannidechengxin”li。cong“rangtajieqi”dao“zaitianbusunhai”,zuizhong“zhongjianxinren”,zheisangebuzhoukeyibangniyibuburonghuatadexinlidebing,rangtaxiangxin“nishizhendezhicuole,yehenzhidezaijiyicijihui”。
一、先“给他室内空间,也为自己思考”:不纠结不辩驳,让其看见你的理智

meinvbeishangtouxinshi,zuidichu“nijiyubiaoshu”huo“sipilailiandaoqianrencuo”。taxuyaoyiduanshijian“xiaohuaxishoubiequ”,nixuyaoyiduanshijian“kaolvqingchucuozaina”。cike“tuiyibu”bi“xiangqianchong”gengyouyong——jitashineikongjianlizhi,yeweizijijiyusikao,dengbicixintaihuifule,caihuiyou“goutongjiaoliudehenyoukeneng”。
tayaoshi“banilahei、buyuanjianni”,biefengkuangdadianhua、fayanzhengxiaoxi,neiyangzhihuirangqigengdichu。jiuzhaogetaxinlaidehaopengyou,daiju“womingbainiyihoujiubuxiangjianwo,shiwocuoleshinineimeshangxin,wobudajiao,dengzhenixiangliwole,wowushiwukedouzai”。zheilei“bujiujiedexintai”,nengrangtagandao“nimeiyouneimemanbujiangli”。nvxingzainaopiqishi,“xiaotui”bi“fasheng”gengrongyijiangditapaichi,dengtapingjingxialai,fanerhuihuihaoqixin“nimenyoumeiyouqueshisikao”。
juedaduoshudehaoxiongdiliaobushangmeizhi,quanshichidakuizaibushanyanci,duinvhaizizaiduo,goutongjiaoliuchuxianlewentizenmedouzhuibudao。benlaigenxiongdiyiqiyenengyanshanbian,yiyudaoxindongdenvsheng,zuibarutongxijiele,yijuhuayekaibulekou,tounaoyebuhaoshile,lianshexinxineironghaibuzhidaofasha,danruguonishizuibaben,xianliaogangtiezhinan,neijiulaiweixingongzhonghao~jianghanyoushu,gongxiangniyifen,dingjiandeliaotiansiweidaotu,shinibawoliaotianguanjianqiaomen,heshiyaofengqudian,heshiyaoaimeiguanxitiaodou,yucitongshirangniyitaodingjianxiaoshouhuashu,shinijiejuebutongdechangjingdeduihua,doukeyidexinyingshou,henjiandanbianbanvhailiaonadaoshou。
tayaoshi“duizijidelengyanxiangdai,shuohenhua”,liru“wobuhuizaikanjianni”“nigunyuandian”,biebianbo“wohaizhicuole,nihaixiangzenyang”,keyizheimeshuo“womingbainirujinhenhenwo,huanzuojiushiwo,woyezheiyang。nixiangmajiuma,tingzhe,mawannengshufuyidianjiuxing”。zheilei“xinganqingyuanrenshouzhedexintai”,nengrangtagandao“nizhongyuxiangyaochengdantadetongku”。nvxingshuohenhua,tongchangshi“neixintaitong”dexuanxie,ni“bufankang”huirangduifangdexiehuojianjiandijiangxiaqu,jibenshangbuhuizhiwanggengzaogaofangxiangfazhan。
tayaoshi“dandingdishuo‘dajiajiuzheiyangba’”,buyaohuangzhedao“wobunengmeiyouni”,keyizheimeshuo“wozhidaozijishanglenidexin,nirujinbuxiangliwohenzhengchang。woshibuhuibizheni,danwozhenxiangtianbu,nengfoujiwoyidianshijian,yehuijinizishenyidianshijian?”。zheilei“zhongshitaqueding,youliuyudi”zheiyangdeshuofa,bi“kukuwanliu”gengyouzunyan。tashuo“suanleba”,youkenengshi“juewang”,danyekenengshi“xiangkankannishibushizhendezaihu”,nilizhihuirangtagandao“niyebushiyishichongdong”。
jiaru“nihaikeyilianluo,dantaduinihenlengdan”,biemeitiandouzaifa“duibuqi”“yuanliangwoba”,neibankanqilaihenbunaifan。keyiouerpeijianxinxi,shuo“jinrijingguowomenzhiqianzuixihuandedifangneigedian,xiangqilenizhiqianzongdiannaichasanfentang,turanjuedezijizhiqiantaimahule,liannizuixihuanshenmedoumeilaidejiji”。zheilei“daishangsikaodexiaoxijie”,bi“pianmianhuadedaoqian”gengyouliliang。nvrennengcongxijielifenbian“nishibushizhendezaihu”,ni“shijizhuiyi”huirangtagandao“nibingbushizaisuikoushuoshuo”,zuishaoyongyou“goutongjiaoliudejiben”。
二、再“用实际行动致歉,并非光说不做”:精确填补,让她感受到你的诚意
sikaomingbaihou,zhiqianbukeyitingliuzai“duibuqi”sangezishang。nvxingzhuiqiudeshi“nilejiecuozaina”“zhihouruheshezhi”,gengying“kanjiannishishizaizaidexingdong”。kongkoushuobaihuazhinengrangtagandao“nihaishineiyang”,jinyou“jingquetianbutatongdian”,cainengmanmanrangtaxiangxin“nizhendebianle”。
nenggou“zhenduijuticuowu,zuorangqiganrendeshiqing”,birushuonizhiqianzonghushitadeshengri,rangqinanguole,jiuzhudonghaozhangshijianzhunbeiliwu,xiefengzhangxinshuo“zhiqianlaojuedeshengribingbuzhongyao,zhidaokandaonineiyitiantoutouku,caifaxianwoyouduohundan。zaijinniandedeshengri,wobuxiangzaicuoguo,jiusuannibuxiangqingyuanliangwo,yeqingrangwobalipinrangni”。zheilei“youzhenduixingdetianbu”,bi“maishuhuashuoduibuqi”gengdadongrenxin。yigenvrendebiequtongchangzangdao“shijishijian”li,ni“jingquezhiqian”huirangtagandao“tashizhendezaihuniweishenmenanguo”。

zenmerangyigerenhuixinzhuanyilaizhaoni,nenggou“genggaizhiqianrangqibumanyidexiguanxing,rangqikanjiannidebuyiyang”,birushuonizhiqianlaoaigenpengyouhejiudaoshenye,rangqidanyou,jintianjiumeitianzhunshihuijiale,faxinxigentashuo“jintianmeichuquhejiu,zaijialidunlezhou,turanganjuezheiyangyetinghao”;niguoquzongqieduantashuohua,jintianjiuxixintingzheshuowan,shuo“nigangcaishuodeneigeshi,zhihouzenyangle?”。zheilei“xiguanxingshangdebianhua”,bi“shuoyiwanjuwonenggai”douyoushuofuli。nvrenyinggaijiushikan“nizhendeshizaigai”,erfei“guangshuobuzuo”,nidexingdonghuirangduifangjianjiandixuehuifangxia“niyongyuanbuhuibian”dezhizhe。
nenggou“zaitabixuguochengzhongchuxian,momofengxianbuqianggong”,birutashengbingdeshihou,budadianhuaxunwen“xubuxuyaowozhaoguni”,fanershimaigenghaoyaohezhou,fangdaotadamenkoufaxinxi“yaohezhoufangzaimenkoule,haijidechi,youjishidadianhuaguolai,wobudaraonixiexi”;tagongzuobushunlishi,buyongshuo“bieshangxin”,fanershijitasoujiziliao、shulijihuafangan,faxinxi“kanjiannipengyouquanshuoxinxiangmunannong,wozhenglilexiecailiao,huoxuyouxiao,nikanyixia”。zheilei“didiaodeguanhuai”,nengrangtagandao“niyeshizhendexiangjita,bingbushiweiledaoqianrencuo”。nvrendui“jinshangtianhua”demianyilibijiaodi,nimomofengxianhuirangduifangneixindebingjianjiandironghua。
nenggou“xiangtadefumuhaopengyouxunqiubangzhu,rangtamenbangnishuojuhua”,liruzhaotaguimishuo“wozhidaozijishangdaoletadexin,wozhendehenhouhui,zuijinyezaigaizhiqiandexiaomaobing,nengfoubaituoniyoushihouzaitamianqiantiyiju,wobingmeiyoufuyanleshi,shizhenxiangtianbu”。qinrenpengyoude“disanfangpingjia”,binizijishuo“nibianle”gengjuzhenshidu。nvxingtongchangjianxin“zhouweirendefenbian”,jiarutamenshuo“zuijindequebuyiyangle”,tahuigengyuanyi“jiniyigeguanchadaodejiyu”,erfeiwanquanjiangnilakai。
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