情感咨询心理：男朋友累了想分手怎么挽回

　　nanpengyouleilexiangfenshouzenmewanhui，lingchensandian，ketingshuzishizhongzaijijingzhongdidazuoxiang，linyahezhangfuzaizhuguangxiajiangchi。yichangguanyujiawuhuoyuguoqudujiadezhengzhi，jieshichulinyafufuzhijianqianzangdeshencengcifenqi。zheiyichangzhengchaoqiyuanyuwancanshiwuxinzhiyan，juranjifalesangeyuedeyuanhen、liangnianjianjiawuhuofenpaiqiangliebuman，naizhidianranlewunianqianneiyichangtiansuirenyuandemiyuezhilvdeshangba。zailinyashuaimenerjinwofangdeyishunjian，yizhongershunengxiangdewuzhuganzaidulongzhaozhelelianggeren——zheiyijiushitamenliugeyueneidiqicishenxianzheizhongduizhijushi。

　　renmenchangchangwurenweiaiqinghuishujizheixiehonghonglieliededashier，danshixianshishenghuozhong，henduohunyinguanxiquewangwangyinweisuoshierjieshu。xinlifudaodedanganbiaoming，jinbachengfenshoudoulaiyuanyuzheixiewufajiejuedefenqixunhuanxitong。danshi，zheizhongliefenghaitigonglechengzhangyugaibiandehaojihui——yinweiwomenxuehuizhengquedexiufufangshi，tamenjiangshiguanliangengweijianyi。

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　　修复婚姻的重要步骤

　　▲zhongzhitizhiyuqingxuhuancun

　　bixukaishe“zhongzhitizhi”，genjushendusikaoheqingganhuancun，quebaozaizhengchaohouzuochujiduanxingwei。renzhikexueyanjiubiaoming，naonushi，dajiadanaozhongshendusikaodiqujingchangbeixintaisuozhudao。zheichanshuleweihezaizhengchaohou，yixieshangxindehuayuhuiwuyijiansuikoushuochu，guohoujiulianshuohuarendougandaojingya。weiledapozheileijiongjing，kaishe“zhongzhitizhi”shishifenzhongyaode。dangshenglixinhaoruxintiaojiakuai、xiangshengdazhandengchuxianshi，womenyingdanglijiqidongyingjiyuan，rumingquetichubixuduanzanxinglizhi，yihoujixutantao。zheiyiduanshijianbingbushiduobi，ershiyongsansanbu、shenxiqidengfangshilaiqieduanqingxulianshifanying，denghoupizhichunshuipingxiajianghou，zaizhongxinqidonghuihua。youxiefuqishenzhishizaizixunguochengzhongfenxiangtade“anquanci”——yigenenggoukuaisuyinqizhongzhideanyu，ru“boluoguantou”。dangzheicichuxiandeshihou，tamenhuibuyueertongdefenkaiyiduanshijian，zaihuitanpanzhuoshangqiangongxianggezizailengqueqisuocunzaidewenti。zheixiefuyouzhihuidezhongzhifangfa，budanpojielelijihantingkenengchanshengdenankan，gengzaiwuxingzhongshouhulebicizhijiandezizun。

　　▲发掘深层次要求

　　nanpengyouleilexiangfenshouzenmewanhui，zaimoucizixunzhong，dajiashenrulejieleyiduifuqidemaodungenbenyuanyin。laogongmaiyuanlaopoyinmianwaluanrengerjingchangfapiqi，danbeihouyinzangdezhuyaoyuanyinzeshitatongnianshiqizaizangluanchahuanjinglifazhan，suoyiduijilvyouqiangliedemeiyouanquangan。erqiziduilaogongchenmiwangluoyouxidezhize，shishishangtixiantaxinlingshenchuduiyuerjiaolvdexiangwangfentan。zheizhongmaodunbeihou，tongchangyunzangzheweibeimanzudexuyao，tamenhaosijingbaoxitongbantixingzheshuangfangguanxidemingan。yongjiandandexunlianhe“xuqiuwajuesanwen”lejieduifangyanzangdexuyao，cainengyouxiaojiejuemaodun。

　　weilenenggenghaodilejiebicizhijian，womenkeyichangshiyigejiandandexunlian：zaizhitiaoshangxiechu“tadejudong______，shijishangshizaizhaohuan______”。genjuzheigelianxi，laopohenyoukenengfajuelaogongjiabanjiadianyebuguisubingbushiduobijiatingyali，ershichuyuduishiyechenggongdezhuixun，yifangzhibeijiaoweihezhize。zheizhonglejie，youliyubicigengjiashenruhuanweisikaoyixia，congerhuajiechongtu。

　　chucizhiwai，getemanyanjiushisuotichude“xuqiuwajuesanwen”yeshiyizhongyouxiaodefangshi，tanenggoubangzhudajiagengzhijiedepengchumaodundeguanjian，congerzhaodaodadaobicizhijianyaoqiudeguanjianyinsu。