如何挽回妻子的心？在挽回时我要不要步步为营？

 shishahuizaochenglaopoyaoxiangsheqizheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo？shisharanglaopobuhuizaiyaoxiangheniyiqigongduyusheng？shisharanglaopoyuelaiyuezheibanguoduanyaoxiangliyini？yingduizheizhongzhuangkuang，niyinggaizenmezuo？ruhewanhuiqizidexin？yaoxiangwanliulaopo，jiuyingdangxiantansuolaopo，cizhi，kaizhanziwofansheng，suihougaohaoqingxukongzhi，ruhewanhuiqizi？zuizhong，zaochenglaopodetonglixin，ranglingyifangsheqiliyi。

一、探索老婆心理状态

 ruhewanhuiqizi？maodundezaocheng，yibanfenchengsanzhong：qiyi：xinlixuqiu；qier：xinlixiwang：qisan：xintaiyayigan。zheijiubixutansuolaopoxinlizhuangtai，duizhengzhiliao。xuduonanshengkandaiganqing，youyixieshenjingdatiao。danquebuzhidao，youshihouxinlixizhiyidian，huishibangongban。

 yaoqiubumanyi，youxiaofanchouneinenggoujiejinquanlizhengde；xiwangqifu，nenggougenjuqinfenfuheqingyi；fumianqingxu，nenggougengqiangdegoutongjiaoliu，huanjiejingshenyali。meiyigerendouxiaixinxiande、youyisidedeshiqing，neimejiucongrichangrichangshenghuo、fenqizhongzhaodaozaiqizhongdeyuanyinba。

二、自我反省

 changyandao：“renwuwanren，renfeishengxian”。youshihou，qianjiashenghuoxixing，huibijiaoyanzhongweihaifuqijiandeqinggan。youxieren，henduoxiyanshijiu，budanchanshengleshentisunhai，dalianghaihuijixuweihaijiazhongpingwen；youxieren，wanliefeichangda，changchangyebuguisunaizhizhengyebugui，linglaopoxinlinaonudeyucitongshi，jiaolvzhongzhongde。

 laopozuijibendebixu，bianshiguishugan。dangtamenjiarendeneiyike，jibianzishenzainenggouziliziqiang、jiankufendoujingshen，danrengqidaihuodezishennanshengdezhaoliaohelejie。tamenrutongxiwanghunyanneiban，huiqidaijianglaigezhonggeyangderichangshenghuo，danyiqiedeqishidiandouxuyaolaogongshouhoucaikeyiwancheng。yinci，congjintianqi，gaizhengrichangshenghuodebuliangxiguanba。

三、心态制冷

 fuqijian，chanshengmaodunhenyiqiezhengchang，zhongjiurenherenzhijiandeniantoubuyiyang、lizudianbuyiyang，yousixiangguanniandezhuangjilisuodangran。xuduoshi，chedishinenggoucaozongdejushi，danbianshiyouyufumianqingxudechansheng，rangshiqingshengji，lengdanlebicizhijiandexin。

 zailaoponaopiqishi，zhixubuqianshedaohonggangnanti，shijishangdounenggoutuiyibukaikuotiankong。jiangbicizhijianxintaizhilengchulai，fangzhihuaganhuayinqijinyibumaodun。queshijinbuzhudezhuangkuangxia，dianyizhiyan，chulaizouyizou，rangqingfengqingfuzishendedanao，huifenwaibaochiqingxing。

四、创建社交能力

 xuduojiazhong，fufuzaoyibuhuizaishifufuderenwujiaose，erdaliangdeshibianchengleduishou。yiyoufenqihemaodun，bicijiuhenshunlichengzhangdequchulebicizhijiandequexianhuxiangjingong，zongshihuitidaolingyifangyiqianburuyihuobuchenggongdeshiqinglaidihui，zheibudanhuiyanlidajizixinxin，haihuijixurangjiazhongbianchengjingjichang，qifenrenxinhuanghuang。

 ruhewanhuiqizidexin？jiranzaoyijiehunle，jiuxuyaohuxianglijie、xiangguxinhuaiganen。qianbiantiji，guandianbuyiyang，kaolvdaonantishijiaodangranbuyiyang，duoduodehuanweisikaoyixia，lizailaopodeguandianquganshou、quganshou。yongyoufenqiyebuhuizaikouwuzhelan，pengdaokunnan、cuobai，huxiangzhaogu，huxiangchuxiangfa，jiazhongbianhuiyulaiyuhemu、xingfu。