zenmewanhuilaopodexin?shenghuoburuyizheshizhibajiu,zaiqizhongzuirangnanshenggangadehenyoukenengbianshilaopochuguileba,huihen、fannao、tongchudeweidaoliaoraoxinzhong,keyoumeifayubierenyanbiaodiaozhengqingxu。zhuihuizaoyiwujiyushi,yibianbuxubabamamazaidulaoliu,buxujiazhongfensui,buxuxiaohaisangshimuqin,shinanrenjiugaishenzhiyaogan,yingyongdiquwanhuilaopo!aita,jiububifangtaliqu!wanliuta,heshidousuanbushangwan!jiexiaqubenwen,wojiangduinishuojiujingdajiazhongjianchuxianleshenmewenti,wanhuiaiqingdeduanxiaoxiyaozenmexie?zenyangyongqiadangdefangshigouqidajiajiandeganqing,jiqidajiahunyinshenghuodefangweizainaer,hezhihouzenyangyingduihejiejuehunyinshenghuozhongdenandian!zenmewanhuilaopo?
nilejiehunyinshenghuozhongzuikelingdeshishishama?shinanxingjuedezishenweizheiyijianulipinbo,jiaoji,ganleyigelaogong、baba、haizizuiyingzuodeshi——qinfenyangjiahukou,ketazhuandemeiyifenqian,quanshizaiweizijidehunyinshenghuodemuzanggongxianliliang。weihe?dangxifumailaidoumianbixupaloutideqingkuangxia,nanshengmeiyoushenpang;dangwaibianleimingdianshan,tabixuyigejianbudeqingkuangxia,nanshengmeiyoushenpang;dangxiaohaibixukaifumuhui,babamamadebingdeqingkuangxia,nanshengyizhiyougeshigeyangdeyuanyinmeiyoushenpang。
nanshengmeiyoushenpang,zihuichuxianqitananshenglaijitajianbu,jitajiezhu。nirenweizishenzaizaojiuxingfukuaile,zaixifuyanzhongbianshizaicuihuixingfukuaile,yinci,zaihunyinshenghuozhong,bubiyizhizigaozida,shouhoucaisuanshizuizhangqingdegaobai!jiexiaqu,dajiaweiciweitupokou,kanxiafengxianshengdexiaogushi,kanyixiatazenyangzaifeiwudejutizhidaoxiayibubujibaidisanzhe,rangxifuhehaoruchu,rangjiazhongkaixinqilaide,qidaiduidixiongmenyouyidingdexiezhu。
一、学生实例
woshifengxiansheng,zaiyijiashipinxingyezuoxiaoshoujinglidegongzuozhong,wodelaopozaiyijiachengrenjixujiaoyupeixunxuexiaodangpeixunlaoshi。wodequedianjiaoweileguan,yejiaoweishanyurenjijiaowang,danyoushixintaizhuanbianbijiaoduo。wodelaopoxingqingjiaoweikeguan,bianshiyoushijiaoweiguzhi,feichangrongyiaizuanniujiaojiandajiayouyigetaorenxihuandeguinv,youyuwohexifuquanshidushengzi,renyidandaozhongnian,shenghuoburuyi,shenghuoyalijiaoweida,yinciyizhidianjizheduozhengdianqian,weizhihouzuozhunbei。youyouyugongzuoneirongdeyuangu,yizhiyaoquxuduodiqu,youyouhenduojiaoji,yinci,xifuyizhimaiyuanwobuguanbugujia,buqingchuweitakaolv,yixingqihuibulejiajiban,yelidouzhaobuzhegejianghuaderen。
woquejuedelaopozaozhongwanhuilejiezishen,yincizhenduixifudemaiyuanyizhibuyiweiran,meiyiciquanshijixifufalefeichangdadedahongbaolaijiejuekunnan。(xueshengnanti:bumingbainvshiyaoqiu。nvshidemeiyicimaiyuanzhizhong,douyunhanzhetadesuqiudian,qiancainenggou chulijuedaduoshudenanti,nengweibunanyijiejueqingganxuqiupinfadenanti,zhangqixingdehulvenvshiyaoqiu,haowuyiwenhuizainvshixinlidaozhi“buguanzhuwo”“buzaiyiwo”“zongshifuyanwo”defumianxinxiyinxiang。)wocengrenweidajiahuiyijiarenxingfukuailediguoxialai,kerichangshenghuoquebangwokaiguoduodadeyigewanxiaohua。
neiyitianshitadeshengchen,woxuehuifangxiashoutoushanggongzuozhong,congyidigandaoxiangjitamengeyiwaijingxi,qiahaoyudaotachuanzhedabanzhuangzhongdijiuxuyaowaichu,deshenshangyeyoudanxiangshuideweier,kanjiantajiaolvbuandemoyang,wodeshangtoulexinyiban。yingduiwoduitawaiyudecaiyihekonggao,tajinjinshuoxueshengqingtayongcan,jincieryi。wobuxiangxin,cihougangkaishiyanshijiankongtadexingdong,wohexifudezhengzhiyulaiyuduo,guanlianyeyulaiyucha。(xueshengnanti:buqingchuruheyouxiaogoutongjiejuekunnan,kongzhiyuqiang,zhangjiuyiwangxialaizongshirangerrenjiandexinlaidangranhaowu,hunyinshenghuoshushiganzhoujiang,zuizhongzaochenghunyinshenghuodetubengwajie。)
zhihou,youyuzuizhongdeyicizhengzhi,tarenkelewaiyunanxueshengdekeguanshishi,bingmingquetichuleliyi,wogaoshengxunchita,bingguoduanbutongyiliyi,ertaquedaizhuguinvlaidaolaozhangrenjia,dianhuabujieduanxiaoxiyebushihui。zhongyumingbaiwodehunyinshenghuozenmehuibianweizheiyimoyang,nandaoshuozhuanqianyangjiayeshiyoucuoma?xianzaiwohenxiaochenyehennaonu,keyinweiwofeichangaita,kewojiujinggaizenmezuocaikeyiwanliuni?
二、老师具体指导
zaifeiwulaoshidepouxijutizhidaoxia,fengxianshengkegumingxinyishidaozishenweilenver,yibianzheiyijiazhongyeyingdangwanhuilaopo,yincilaoshiduiyufengxianshengdezhuangkuangzhidingle“sibuzou”dewanliuduice。
1、平稳心态状态,抓分歧,巧复仇者联盟
nvxingzaiwaiyuhou,zaoyulaiyuanyushehuigongdefangmiandegongzuoyalishifeichangdade,fengxianshenglaopoxingziyoujue,cikebuyiduitakaizhanyuzhanyuyongyiyangwanliu,buranzongshijifatadeqingchunqipanni,jiajutadeqingganxuqiu,rangtazaidisanzhedeshenshangzhaoxunfuwei。yincilaoshijutizhidaofengxianshengshixing“moran”fangan——yituranjiandexiaotui,jianqingranrandexintaiyali,fangzhilaopochuxianpoguanposhuaidezhuangkuang。lingwai,zailengjingqi,laoshiyibubuxiezhufengxianshengbaituo“waiyuqinghuai”:
chuduixiangzhuitadeqingkuangxia,herujindehunyinwanhuidoushiyitarenshoushangbatalaguolai,chuduixiangdeqingkuangxiabuzaiyitadeyiwang,rujinyouyounaxieyuanyinguoduzaiyitadechuguixingweini?genghekuang,yaobushihushileduixifudeguanhuai,xifunaeryouhuiwaiyuni?chuliwaiyuqinghuaidejibenmaodun,fengxianshengqingxupingjingxialai,kegumingxinziwofansilezishenzaiyiwangdehunyinshenghuojiaowangzhongdebugou。jiezhe,moransantianhou,zailaoshidejutizhidaoxiafengxianshengyitanwangguinvweiweiming,laidaolaozhangrenjiazhong,zhizibutierrenjiandefenqi,huxiangbaocuntimiandi,bingkuaisudequanshenertui,judadejianqingleerrenjiandefenqi。hunyinwanhuidisantian,errenfuchouzhelianmengqudechenggong,diyijieduanzongtimubiaodadao。
2、加强吸引住,展风彩,提风采
zenmewanhuilaopo?gaoaozidahunyinwanhuideguanjianqujueyuzaiduzaochenglingyifangguanxinde“youhuoli”,zaiciwanliubuxiangdangyuzaicizhuiqiuwanmei,zhuiqiuwanmeizaiyideshiqingyi,wanliukandeshiyouhuoli,meigerendounenggoujilingyifangqingyi,kejinyoubutongxunchangdeyouhuoli,cainenggou zhanshengdisanzhe,zaicihuanqitaduiniduyiwuerdeai,rangtajijitiejinni、zaiduaishangleni!yiner,yibiantigaofengxianshengdeyouhuoli,duiyufengxianshengdetexing,laoshizhidingle“fengcaitigaofengcaizhanshi”fangan。
diyibu,zhanxiancunhuoshiyongjiazhi。yijufeiwupouxi,fengxianshenghedisanzheduibi,jiaodadeyoudianqujueyuzishenyouzhebucuodecunhuoshiyongjiazhiyoudian。yiner,laoshigenjujutizhidaofengxianshengzaiweixinpengyouquanheduanshipinapp,gongbuxiaoshipin,zhanxiangongzuozhongfengcai,tuxianzishendecunhuoshiyongjiazhiyoudian,rangxifulejiezishendegongzuozhong,tuxianxinxinqichang,yiyuzhongbutongdegerenmeili,xiyinzhuxifudeguanxin。
dierbu,tuxiangenggai。xiyinzhudianshichuangjianzaibutongxunchangdetexingshangbiande,chuguiweijichuxianhou,houxuduoxueshengdoushitiaoxuanyizhong“zishenshuaitui”defangfa,xiangyaozhiqiandeyoushizhanxianquwanliulaopo。keyouyideyoushizhanxian,zongshibaoluguoduodexuqiugan,meiyouxinqidezhuanbian,bianmeiyoujingzheng,shimeifazhanshengdisanzhede!yijulaoshipouxi,meiyoushijiangoutongjiaoliu,shiliangrenchuxianfenqidegenbenyuanyin。yiner,duiyufenqi,tuxianrujinzishengujiadezhuyaobiaoxian,caikeyigouqixifuzaicizaiyiqirichangshenghuodechongdong!
3、提高关联,挖要求,促暖味
wanliuzhongruoshiyaoxiangjiang“youhuoli”zaochengbianzhi,bawozhunvrenxin,jiuxuyaozhaozhuntadeyaoqiu。zaiyicicideyaoqiubeikaolvzhong,jianruodisanzhedeyoudian,nvhaicaihuiduankaiyudisanzhedelianluo,jijijiangdajiade“pengyouguanxiguanlian”shengjiweifuqizhijiande“aimei”。yiner,laoshigenjushujucaiji,yijuduinvxingyaobusuantongdeqianzaixingyaoqiu,duifengxianshengzhidingle“weixiaoguanzhuluhuohuanxin”fangan。hunyinwanhuidiershiyitian,nvxingduifengxianshengdehaoganduyufamingxian,lianggerenyuanmanjindao“ganqingaimeiqi”,disanjieduanmudizuodao。
4、抓住机会,先攻心战,后复合型
xuduoxueshengzaiheqizijindaoaimeiqihou,douhuikongzhibuzhuzishendeqingganxuqiu,butinglaoshiquanshuo,sidixiahelaopolianluo,jinguanyefuhexingqudechenggong,danzhishisuanshishang“yinnixinghunyinshenghuofuhexing”。kezheileifuhexingjinjinshuangfang,shentixiongxingheermeng、danjiandengshenglixueyaosuzaizuosui。danshenglixuekaolvbingbuyiweizhezheganqingkaolv,chuqushenglixueyaosu,jinyourangnvhailejie,nishiweileaitaertiaoxuanfuhexing,caikeyizhenshidejiangtadexinjizhiwanliu。yiner,laoshiyijufengxianshengchushideshujuxinxikaizhanpouxihou,juecezailingyifangqingganxuqiudedutejingqi,zhuazhujihui,yaoyueranrandaizhuxiaohaihuijiachifan。
zenmewanhuilaopodexin?qinei,feiwujutizhidaofengxianshengduiwuzikaizhanyifanyongxinbuju,yijiarenzaiwennuandeqifenzhongyongcanxianliao,jiuweiledejiazhongwennuanrangnvxinghuodelejudadexintaizhuangtaikaolv,tingzheguinvnaishengnaiqidihuanzhefumu,nvxingjijichengrencuowu,bingdimingquetichulexiangyaoyougejiadeniantou。hunyinwanhuifangandiershiwutian,disijieduanzongtimubiaodadao,fengxianshengjiangxifuzaidulanruhuaili。qizichuguibingbukongbu,kongbudeshinanshengdeyijuebuzhenheziganduoluo,renqingnanti,jiejuekunnan,caikeyiranghunyinshenghuoyuelaiyuelaobukecui!
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