挽回老婆的三大绝招，赶紧来学

yi、liangrenweiheyuelaiyueyuan?

liangrenzaiyiqijileileguoduoxiaojiqingxu。

 qinglvfenliyouerzhongzhuangkuang，yizhongshizhuguanxingxintaitichufenshou，lingyizhongshikeguanxingyuanzexingtichufenshou。erzhedechabiequjueyutichufenshoudeyuangushirenzishenhuanshishixiadexintai。- wanhuilaopo

 liru，dajiayouyuxiaozhengchaojiqixintaishangdeweimandaozhileyixiefenqi，ertongchangjiushishuozheizhongfenqijilingyifangsongqulexiaojiqingxudegongzuoyali。suihounvpengyoushuoleile，xiangduobile，zuihouliangrentiaoxuantichufenshou。zheileijiushishuoxintaitichufenshou。

 taweidajiadejianglaijuedemangran，weixianghujuedeyouwenti，jiushishuotaxiangfenshoudexintai。renmenmeigerenyouyizhongqubilihaideniantou，jibianshizailianqingguanlianli，suoyourenxiangdehuanshizishen。duiyigenvhaieryanduobidezhongdianzhanjiushishuofangqini，genjuweichibuweishangdejianjuduobizheileigongzuoyali。

 xixunshidajiazhongjiantianmeidewangri，taduinidehaorengranzaichixu，niduitayeyouyouhuoli。keshiyouyudajiaxiangchuquanguochengzhongzaochengleyixiefenqihexintai，tasuoduobidedianbingfeiduiyumouyiren，zhishiduobidajiazhongjianyixiefumianxinxidexintaigongzuoyali。cikenengshuozheiyiduanqingganwushijiyiyilemeiyou?shijishang，zhuguanxingxintaitichufenshougenzheigerenmeishier。yizhaonidexushu，fenshoushitabingbushixihuanni，jinjinxihuannijitachanshengdezheizhongxiaojiqingxu，bingqierichangshenghuoduoletiaoxuan。

二、挽留的第一任务：摆脱如今的惯性力

1.nibenzhimeiyouzaihunyinjingying，zhishianzhaoguanxingliyibuyibumaixiangzhongdianzhan。

 yibaneryan，ganqingyousangehuanjie。diyigejiushishuorelian，diergejiaomohe，zheiyidahuoerdouhenlejie。keshimoheqihaolayihou，bingfeishuoganqingjiuyidingwending，yibuqibolangwenle。fandaoshixiongxingheermengfenheduobaanmiquxiangqinghuandeneishihou，renmencikeyibufengkuangyibureqingruhuo。

 zheiyihuanjiejiaoguanxingliqi，guanxinglihuanjieyejiaoguanxinglilianqing。lianqingdemohezaoyiguoqu，dajiaxiguanbicizhijiandegoutongjiaoliufangfahuoshishixiangchufangfa，qidaibazheileifangfayizhikaizhanxialai。keshigandaoyihan，nilaoponaozhongshijishangyizhicunyouyigelixianghuaxingdeyushijingzi。lianaideneishihouzaishengzhangjisudecijixingxia，renmenmengbiledanaobatahushile。dandangaizhujianwending，tagangkaishiyongbangyangqukaoliangzishendelianqingmubiao。

nvxingzailianqingzhongdeyaoqiu，yigeshijianglaiyugu，yigeshiguishugan。

 zheierzhongyaoqiunichediweinengkaolvta。guanxinglilianqingdeneishihou，niyizhizaixiguanxinglishufudeyishizhuxing，chedibuyuanbaituozheileiwendingdejuede。yewusuoweileguodiyigezhanchuququhuajiemaodun，zongshibennengfanyingdirenrang，nituiyibu，wotuierbu。

 zongsuanyouyitianzheiyifenqihennanyabuzhu，lirugongzuofangmianpengdaogongzuoyali，huoshishipenyouqinmiwujianxiaohuobandetiaobo，babamamadeyixiebushidangdehua，naizhitarichangshenghuochuxianlexindetiaoxuan，doushibazheileiduofangmiandefenqiyinqichuqu，yigedaohuoxian，bahuoyaotongjishifang。

2.niduitameiyouhuolile?rujindechujielunguozao

 tichufenshoubukeyiyiweizheqinggandemaixiafubi，yiduanzhenxinshiyinulideqingganburongyishuoduanhuiduan，fenshouzhihoudetongchujuedejiushishuozheiyiduanguanliandechixu。

 maikesiweier·maerzi(maxwell maltz)zhimingde21tianxiaoyongfajue，yiyuanmenzhendezhengrongshoushugukebixudagai21tiancaikeyixiguanxingjiandaozishendexinmiankong。dangbingrendegebohuotuibeigaoweijiezhishi，zaiyue21rinei，tamenrengnengjuededaozishenzaoyijiexiadeshenti。yincishuo，renmenjiudexintaizhuangtaipinpaixingxiangxiaotui，xindexintaizhuangtaipinpaixingxiangchuangjian，bixuhuaxiaodagai21tiandeshijian。

 lundundaxuexuexiaodeshehuixuejiaphillippalallyzai2009niankexueyanjiufajue，dajiawangjijiuxiguan、jianlixinxiguanxingdequanguochengbixu3yuezuoyou——zhunquedishuocheng66tian。huanjuhua，jiaruqiannvyouxiangyixiangwangjini，gangkaishiquanxinshengjideyishizhuxing，zheijianghuihuihuaxiaotasangeyuedaobageyuedeshijian。

 kanshangqujianjuedetichufenshoushijishangshinanfennanshe。dangairenzhangqixingzaiyiqishi，feichangshizaoyixiguanxianghuxianghuyilaideguanlianzhong，liangrenxianghudeyilaiganhuizaifenshouzhihouqueshao，huijuedeyishilezishensuoguanzhuderen，yeshiqujianguaibuguaideshouhou，tichufenshoudetongchujiushishuolaiyuanyuzheileiwuligan。

 nijianghuihuiyilv，“cuowua，tahaoxiangbingyoujuedeyoushanghuotongchu，tahenxiangyoufenlishouhoudeyishizhuxing。tahaizhaolexinnvyou。”dannihuiguotoulaiyixia，zheiyangdeshiqingyouxiaoma?yiduanqingganhuizaibicixintaizhuangtailiuyouwufadanqudeyinxiang，liangrenhuiqingnanziyidehainianlingyifang，tashishehuixintaixuedeguilvxing。rujinbubiziquqiru，yebubitongkuguoduo。

二、让她再次“爱”喜欢你——在挽留中寻找归属感

1.你沒有使用价值的那时候，才算是真实分手时

 womingbaineiyangshuotaikeguantaishiliyan，keshiyaoshishiren，zongyouyangzhangbiduandexintaizhuangtaibennengfanying。sheidouxiangyaoyikaoduizishenyouyideren，raokaizheixieduizishenmeiyouquanyideren。yincishuorenherenzhijianxiangchudeguanjianshizhishihuhuan——shininengbangwochanshengnaxie。zhenshidetichufenshoubingbushilingyifangjiangchu“womenfenshouba”zheihuadeneishihou，zhishinibukeyijilingyifangquchushishiyongjiazhideneishihou。 qinggannantihenxinlei?10skuaisushenqingqingganzhenduan

 bubiganjueneiyangdelianqingshifendezhenyingshiji，benzhimeiyou。tashirendebenxingdebennengfanying，jiarutapingdingwoxianzaidequanbuqingkuangzaoyiduinvxingmeiyoushiyongjiazhiganle，nizaisheqiudoumeiyouyong。rendoushidujueduizishenmeiyoulideshier，yangzhangbiduan。renmenwoguosuhuashuo：fufubenshitonglinniao，dananlintoufenbiefei。

 zheihuachangchangquxiaoyixiehuaxinnanwuqingwuyinan，shijishangzheihuarenmennenggouquhuanyigehanyiquxiang，nidenvrentiaoxuanyunifenlihenguanjiandeyuangu，shinidemouyi、mouhaoduogeshiyongjiazhichushichuxianlebijiaoyanzhongdenanti。jiaruxianghulijieniyeshita、tajiushini，nibuyidingbitajianchibuxiedegengjiu，jiarushuonikeyilejiedaozheiyibu，tingdashuipingxihuannizaoyihuosheng。

 zishendonglezishendeshiyongjiazhitexing，jiuyidingnengwanliuta。shiyongjiazhitexingcaisuanshizaiyiduanguanlianlibianbaochizhangqidebenzhi，erbingbushikaonaxiezaiyiqidejuede，zaiyiqideshijianzhangdu，zheizhongwupinquanshixude。zaipushijiazhiguanliyishizhuxingderensuokaolvdaoshier，jiushishuozaishijizhongweihuzishen，yangzhangbiduan。

 zheileiyangzhangbiduandoushizaiweiliangrendeguanlianchengdan。shijishangmeigerenyouwanliudegailv，quankanninubuqinfen，nengfoubaxintaizhuangtaihuifuhao，erbiedefangfaquanshifuzhu。

2.零距离地挽留

 ganqingkaonaxieweichi，kaoneixindeqianguama?kaoertianyicidedianhuama?kaodeshideshijue、xiujuehemanshendetihui。nihetashuodezaihao，tatingjianzaizhixiangdezaihaomeiyouyong，rangtajiandaochudaocaisuanshizuiqieqieshishide。

 yincigaoxiaolvdegoutongjiaoliuquanguocheng，yidingshilingjulide。weihexuduolianrennaomaodunyipengmianjiuxing，youyuyoushijuehexiujuejiuhuiyoujuede;weihedajiayiyujiujuedeganqingwufakongzhile，jiushishuoyouyukanbudaoyemobudao。

3.得到认可就能挽留TA

 liangxingzaixiangchuquanguochengzhong，doushiduizishendeyaoqiuyouyigeyuce、yigeyugu。renmenhuitizaozhengtiguihuahao，yaocongnizheierdedaonaxiedeyaoqiu，dedaonaxiedeshiyongjiazhi。jiarunikeyichaoguozheiyiyugu，tajiuhuiganjuehenshushi、henshufu、henyouguishugan。jiaruzheiyiyaoqiuxiaotuile，bicijiuhuitichufenshou。

 kanshangquhenchouxiangxing，qishibushihennan，lianaidebixushijishangjiushishuoliangzi：renke。zuoyigelixianghuazhongdehunyinshenghuo，haiyaoxuehaoqulejieyigelingyifang，bianchenglingyifangdelixianghuaxing。niwuxuzuo100%，yemeirennengzuo100%。nibaozheng80%，naizhinibaozhengyiban，doushirangtaaizheni，aidaoshenchuyusiyuxian。

 yaoxiangdedaorenke，jiuxianshifangchulaiquanbudexiaojiqingxuheniantou，tiaoxuanzhiliyunijinishedingdegerenmubiao，zaiyitiangangkaishijijizhudongdiduizishenshuohua，zaicichengxubianxienideguannian，jindaoyigexindejijizhudongdedongtaixing。

§ zhixiangyouguannizishendeshi：bubixiangzheniqiannvyoudefanyingxintai，zhiliyunizishendebenrenbianhua;

§ meirianshizhezishen：jingshencaifuhelianghaodexintaijiangbianchengnizhengjiuaiqingdeyuandongli;

§ tiqianzhunbeihaojixunuli：meiyiciniyaojinxingzishendegerenmubiao，doujianghuigongkezishendeshushiquan;

§ zhanxiannidexinxin：yigexinxindebiaomianshixiyinzhulingyifangdezhongyao;

 § bubitaiguoqingxinwaibudexiangsheng：bubiyunidepenyouhuoqinrentaolunnidefangan，tamenhuiduidajiadeqingganzhishouhuajiao，huijinipianyiqiadangdelugui。

zongeryanzhi，wanliudangzhongzuiguanjiandebiaozhunjiushishuo：wanliudemudibingbushihuidaocongqiandeqingkuang，zhishidajiazaiaiyici。