挽回老婆：眼泪对婚姻的杀伤力你知道有多大吗？

 zaiyiduanhunyinshenghuohuoshiganqingzhong，youxuduoshierjingchanghuirangrenliulei。yixiezaiyiliaozhizhong，yixiezezaiyixiangbudao。yeshiyixie，shiliangrenzhongjianbuzulejie，zaixiangchuzhongzaochenglewujie，qingganyucechuxianlewucha。- wanhuilaopo

 chouqishiyizhongbennengfanyingdeqingganfaxiejiqigaizhengdefangfa，danshiyefeichangrongyizaochengqinggangengweifanza，naizhicuihuiliangrendehunyinshenghuo。yigerendaoxintaiqifudeneishihou，guanniantongchangshifeichangjiandande。buguanzishenduicuo，nanguoderendoushizisizili。

 rutongxuduofuqichaojiayiyang，mouyirenyizhijinbuzhujiuluoxialaileyanlei。jiusuanzishenyouwu，yehuiganjuezishenbiequ。feichangrongyijiangchuxuduowuqingdeshangrendehua，lirujingchangba“liyi”liangziguazaizuishang，liruyanlidajilingyifangzizunzheixie。

 youyuhunyinganqingwentieryoushangderen，feichangrongyizuochuyixiepingchanghaipazuodeshiqing。youxuduofufujiushishuoyouyuzhengchao，qingganchuxianlezuankongzi，zuizhongjidisanzhechushilecanyutamenhunyinshenghuodejiyu。

youxuduohunyinshenghuojiushishuozaizheiyangdeshiqingxiachuxianleqinggandeliefeng，chuxianlehunwailian，zuihouqingganhennanmeifaquanyu。

 bingbushifufuruguobuaile，zhishinagebuweibeitarenzhanyoule。disanzhebudong，jiuhuichuxianbuduande“qingganneihao”，fufuyulaiyunanxiufuqinggan。

一、抽泣的那时候，会失去理性的判断能力

 congshehuixintaixueshangjiang，yigerenyoushangdaowanmeideneishihou，zaiqianyishizhongbihuidakaifangfanyishi“fangshi”。pingbidiaowaizaideyingxiang，tashizaiqianyishizhongyunxingdetizhi，zuizhongjinyaoguantouyidinghuiziwobaohu。

 jugebushidangdeshili，dangyigerenchajuedelianrenzaiwaibianxiangaiderendeneishihou，neimaneiyishunjian，lianrenshuozaihaode“woxihuanni”yebuqizuoyong，zairuhezhiqianyebuqizuoyong。youyunageqingganfushangderen，zishenyecaozongbulezishen，suihoujiulinshifengbishilezaiqianyishizhongdepanduannengli，jinshengbiequhenaonu。

 zheiyineishihou，ziworentongzhongdepanduantuiligongzuonengligangkaishibennengfanyingdijujizaiyiqi。xintaizhuangtaipanniqixiaoyonggangkaishifanyingchuqu，wuqiudadaoyigebutaikenengdadaodekeguanshishi。

 zheileixintaiguochengtongsuhuabiaoshujiushishuo：dangyigerendaowanmeibiequhuoshiyoushangdeqingkuangxia，nenggouzaizishengoujiande“neixinshijie”zhongdedaojijinwuxiandenengliang。dangran，zheijinjinzigaozidadecuojue。

 neileijuedejiuheziwocuimianyiyang，shiyizhongxintaianshidewuxianshengjiban。jiusuanyanxiashizuoshan，yaoshizheizuoshanshifenzhayan，yexiangbazheizuoshantuifan，erburongyiqukaolvdaodaodinengfoubashantuifan。zaizaiqianyishizhongzhong，tashinenggoubaozhengde。

zheiyineishihou，keguanpanduannenglizaoyijianshaolaidaodichaoqi!

 yiner，zaijuedabufenhunyinshenghuozhong，chufeishifuqiqingshangdouhengao，yaoburanzhengchaochaodaoyidingshuiping，qingganbidingwufakongzhi。jiyoukenengyijuhuameidaying，fufujiuzuochulezuigaihuihenyibeizideshier。

hunyinganqingwentisulaidoumeibanfayongtarendedadaoligaoqingchu，yizhiyigerenyigeyang。

keshi，shehuixintaixueyeshileisideguilvxingkexun。

liru，youyuqingganwentierkuqidenvrentongchangbukeyihong，yuehongyuenanguo。

 zailiru，nanshengyibanfeichangshaoku，zhenkudeneishihoutongchangyeyiweizhexintailinshibenkuile。tamenzhiyouzishenkuanweizishen，buyaozheyashibuhaode。

 renmenchangshuo：zaihunyinshenghuozhong，nvxingluoleibuyidingzhennanguo，yejianghuishikaixin。ernanshengluolei，tongchangquanshizhenbeishanglaidaoxin。

 zheihuajinguanbuwanquandezhengque，danshizaidabufenhunyinshenghuozhong，haishitingjingquede。kunenggoufaxiexintaidegongzuoyali，danshiyoushikuduole，fuqiguanxiyejiumeiyoule。

 dashenmangjidahuoerjiangyiweiyueduzhedelihunanli，tashiyigelingrenyihandeshili。yigenanrenyouyuyizhiainao，balaopokulaidaolianrenshenpang。hunyinshenghuomeiyoule，qiziguodebutaihao，tayeguodebutaihao。

二、早产儿造成的婚姻破裂

luoweiwei，34sui，liyi2nian，zishendaiyige5suidenvsheng。

 25suineiyinianluoweiweizaiwujinchangdagongzhuanqianquanguochengzhonglejieleyiweilaoxiangdenvshengxiaojuan。liangrenzaiyigeshengchanchejianjianlejihuimian，jiujianlileqinglvguanlian。

 nandadanghunnvdadangjia，bianchengqinglvyihou，tamenjiugangkaishiqidaijiehunhoudeyishizhuxing。zaineiyinianguonianhuijiadeneishihou，luoweiweidebabahebobojiuyaolexiaojuandejiazhongdingqin。

xiaojuanqinrenfeichanghaoshuohua，cailiqianyaoleliuwanliu，yuanyuandiyubendipingjun，hunyindashijiuneimedingchulaile。

 neiyinianwuyi，luoweiweihexiaojuanbanlehunyan，xuanbubianchenglefufu。dangshijiaodeliuwanliucailiqian，tuihaihuijiawuwanliu，xiaojuanniangjiarenhaiyaoleyiwan，mailaidianshijidianbingxiangzhongyangkongdiaoquanzidongxiyijidengjiayongdianqi。 qinggannantihenxinlei?10skuaisushenqingqingganzhenduan

 zheiyiduanyuanfenyesuanxingfu，fufuyouxianghudegongzuojingyan，youxianghudexihao，youzaiyigezhenzi，xingzouyebianjie。danshijiexiaquchuxianleyijianshiqing，rangluoweiweijuedezishenchiwanyabakui。

 wanhunbujiu，xiaojuanhuaileluoweiweidexiaohai。danshizhuangkuangbutaihao，neiyinianzhongqiujiajieqianhouzuoyou，xiaojuanchuxianlezaochandezhengzhao。qinfenbaolehaojiri，huanshimeiwanjiuxiaohai。

 yuanguma，yiyuanmenzhenshuodehenqingxi，shixiaojuandeshentisuzhibutaihao，huoxuheyiqiandexiaochanshixiangguan。xiayicizaiyunqideneishihouliuyiyidian，nantidaoyebuda。

 youyuzheijianshi，luoweiweibeidafuzhizeleyidun，shuotabuchengdan。shuotazhidianjizhezishen，meikaolvdaoguoxiaochanduinvxingdesunhai。

luoweiweihuoxuhenbiequle，laopozhiqianxiaochan，tagenbenjiubuqingchu，neibenzhijiubingbushitadecuo!

luoweiweihennaonu，zaitazhiyixia，xiaojuanjiangguozhenhua。zhiqiantachuanguo3gexiaohai，youguo3duanbuchenggongdelianqing。

suiranxiaojuanyizhizhiqian，luoweiweiquejuedezishenchiwanyabakui，juedetashiqingganmengpian。

 tanuhouzhezhiyixiaojuan，niweihebujinzaogenwoshuo，niweihebushuozhenhua?nikeyijinzaoshuozhenhua，woshiqubudaolaopodoubuqunineimesuiyidenvxing，nidangelewo!

naoguinao，neishihouluoweiweimeiyoumashangliyideqipo。keshitayouwangbulezheijianshiqing，yitiandaowanjiuzhezheiyishiqingmeifang。

三、情感忧伤情况下，许多事儿不可以用一切正常判断推理

neishihouliangkouzichaodehenlihai，luoweiweichangchangdaxiaojuan。

xiaojuandebabamamayikan，zheifuqijianghuihuodehaoleile，jiupingxinjingqiquluoweiweijiashangyizheliyideshier。

 luoweiweidebabamamabuyuanrangzishendehaiziliyi，yizhitihaizizhiqian。erlaonaizhijiqinjiamuguixia，qidaiqinjiamububihexiaopengyouyibanjianshi。

 zailiangjialaorenshangyidequanguochengzhong，luoweiweixinlizishizhizhongguobushangzheidaokan。tanaizhidangzhongyuefuyuemudemiandaxiaojuan，yidinglihunle!

liangjiayikanzheifangshi，yejiuyibuwanliule，rangtamenliba。

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 fuqinaoledabannian，zuihouluoweiweihaipalile。dangshijiangguoxuduoouqidehua，shuosiyelihunlederenshita，shuosidoubuliyiderendoushita!

 laonianrenma，quanshiquanhebuquanzude，sheidoubuqidaizijixiaohaichuxianliyishi。suihouliangjiayuanliang，liangkouzijiumeiyouliyi，xiufuleyiqiezhengchangdeyishizhuxing。

 zhibuguoshizheiyiduanhunyinshenghuokanqilaiyiqiezhengchangle，luoweiweixinliqueyezhongxialenaonuyubiequdezhongzi。youyutongchumeibeixuanxiechuqu，tadejingshenshizhizaoshouleweihai。

diernian，xiaojuanyouhuaileyun。cicizhuangkuanghaoladian，zaijiapoguanhuaibeizhixia，xiaohaiyuanmanchushile。

 luoweiweichengweilebaba，jinjinniyongyuanbuzhidao，tarengrankuadanshineidaokan。meimeizhuiyizhiqiandeshier，tajiuganjuezishenhenchidakui，jiuganjuebuyinggaiquxiaojuan，jiuganjuexiaojuanmengpianlezishendeganqing。

 renyidanshenxianzishengoujiandemijingzhong，tongchangmeibanfazishengongke，tashiyizhongpubiandejingshenshizhinanti。dashenmanghetaxianliaozhong，zaoyidayuefenbianchu，dangshitazaochengleqingweideertongzibizheng。

 luoweiweijiuzheiyangderen，tadanxin，tabiequ，tatongchu。zaitarenyanli，zheixiezaoyiwuguantongyangdeshier，fangdaotayanliqueshiqichidaru。

youyuxinlidedanxinmeifafaxie，tayitiandaowanku。

 zongeryanzhi，zineiyihoudaoliyiyiqian，zaiqingganyoushangqingkuangxia，luoweiweizuochudezheixieshierbenzhijiumeifayongyiqiezhengchangluojixinglaifenbian。

dangran，luoweiweidezheileixintaihenpubian，jinjinyibanrenshilejiebushangde。

四、抽泣摧毁了婚姻生活

 zaizhihou，luoweiweimeiyicihezuilejiushuajiufeng，bingbushimalaopo，jiushishuomalaopodenanpengyou。tanaizhizhiwenxiaojuan，wenneisangenanpengyoudaodishishei，tayaozhaotamensuanqian。

zaiyiduanhunyinshenghuozhong，yigerennaohuoxuwusuoweile。kejiarulingyigerenyenao，neimejiuzhendechunantile。

 luoweiweimeitianku，meiriyongcandouyinjiu，meiyiciyinjiudouku。yikaishitahaimaxiaojuan，zhihoutabumale，quanburenchukaikujiushishuoku。zongeryanzhi，taganjuezishenbiequ，tajiushishuoxinlinanshou。

 yigerendaozhaobuzheqingganfaxiekoudeneishihou，chouqishizuihelidehuanjieyalifangfa。ketangruokuduole，lingyigerenyejiufanle。

 dangxiaojuanyeduizheiyiduanhunyinshenghuojuededaoxinhandeneishihou，tayexuehaoleku，tabuqingchuheshiaotingzhi。zhibuguoshinanrenhenvrenbuyiyang，nvxingfeichangrongyixunzhaoneixindekuanwei。xuduorenkuanweita，xuduorenxiangyaolingtingta。

 zaiwanhun5zhounianjinianyiqian，xiaojuanduiyigekuanweitadenanshengzaochengleqinggan，liangrenyueguoleneiyibu，bianchenglianren。xiaojuanlejiezishenbaoqianluoweiwei，danshiluoweiweizheileiqingkuang，taqueshizaoyiwufahetaguoxialaile。

 dangxiaojuanzaiduyunqideneishihou，luoweiweicaihuangruogeshihexing。youyuzishendefumianqingxu，laopozaoyimishangletaren，guihaitarenhuailexiaohai。

luoweiweiyoudanxinle，danshizheiyicixiaojuanbuyuanliangle。

 xiaojuandadingzhuyi，yidingyaoheluoweiweiliyi。nibingbushishuowopeibushangnima?nahao，wozhaodaowokeyiduideqishangdenansheng，womenlihunba。

 jinguanzuizhongbicibabamamadoutongyizulantamenliyi，danshixiaojuanyisixiangbi。zheiyineishihou，jiusuanluoweiweizairuheguixia，yezaoyiwanle。

zhizhizheishihouluoweiweicaixiangtong，zaizheiyiduanbuduanle5nianduodehunyinshenghuozhong，zishentongkutiejin45nian!

zhizhisangshideneishihou，luoweiweicailejie，zaizheiyiduanhunyinshenghuozhong，zuishouqideshilaopoxiaojuan，erbingbushizishen。

zailiaonaxieyewanle，bujiu，xiaojuanjiuhenagetongzhenzidenanshengwaichudagongzhuanqianlaidao。

五、婚前，应当充足以诚相待

 luoweiweijidashenmangliuyanbanliuyandeneishihouzaoyiliyi2nianle，hewoxiaojuandeguinvyezaoyi5suile。kanleliuyanbanliuyan，woliangliaole20fenzhong，rengrannengjuedechutadejingshenshizhibutaihao。

luoweiweishuoguoxialiezheizhonghua，dashenmangshulilexialieyuyanluojixing。

 wozongsuanlejieduinanshengeryanqugexifueryoushizaitaijianxinle，liyi2nian，woxiangqinyuehuile6ci，yizhimeirenkanzhongwo。rujin30jisuixiangqinyuehuidedanshennvxingfeichangshaole，xuduoquanshierhunde，yinweiwomeifajiena。

huoxuwoxiangqubudaolaopoleba，erwohuanshikuangwangzida。worenweixiaojuanpianlewo，yaobushita，xianzaiwoyingdangzhenxingfu。

 xiaojuanqianduanshijianyuwolianluole，tashuoneigerenduitabutaihao。ninshuo，tashifouwanzhuanbiaoshuxiangyuwozaihuna?jiarutaxiangzaihun，huoxuwoyuanjienata。

 zuoyoujiushishuoluoweiweideqinshenjingli，youyuchouqi，tabazishendelaopokulaidaotarenhuaizhong，bazishendehunyinshenghuokumeiyoule，baxiaohaikubianchengmeimatengxidexiaohai。

 huoxu，zheiyishilibukeyijianjiemingleshuosheiduisheicuo。youyuxiangluoweiweizheileiyanzhongjinbukebanlisuishizideren，huanshiyouxuduode。

 meiyizhuanghunyinshenghuodoubuyi，fuqijianjiranzhunbeiguoyibeizi，jiuyingdangzaihunqianchongzuyichengxiangdai。youyiqiedemanbao，huoxudoushichanshengnanyizhixindexiachang。yixieqingganshi，niganjuebuzaihu，buyiweizhezheifenairenbuzaihu。

yiner，jiehunqianxuduoshieryingdangneixinyoushuliang，buyaomengpianlingyifangdexinlai。

 zaihunyinshenghuozhong，leishuiyizhiquanshigehaowuqizhuangbei。yonghaola，qinggannenggougengjinyibu，yongbutaihao，yehuidaozhishizhongdejiedi。zuoweifufu，yingdangyiweilaiweizhu，erbingbushiduiyiwangdeshierdanxin。fufuyixin，caikeyijibaiqinggandekunnan，caikeyishouhaoxingfukuaile。