利用男人的这个心态，在绝情的男人也会主动挽回你

 dangnixiangqiwanliudeneishihou，renmendediyifanyingshizhongshi：wangbudiao，qingshen，taizaiyi.....haoxiangzaiwanliuzhizhong，renmenzhiyoushiyigepugongdezishi。- wanhuilaopo

 renmenhaipazhuyaobiaoxianchuquqianghan，renmenhaipachengxianchuquzhenduiqinggandexiaosa，naizhixuduorendaofenshouhouheyixingpengyouchigefanfaleweixinpengyouquan，bixugankuaipingjiashuotashizishendepenyou，haipaqiannvyourenweizishenzhaodaolingyijia。

 xuduorenganjuewanliuqiannvyouyidingyaoranglingyifanglejiezishenhaixiaizhelingyifang，douhaimeixuehuifangxia，bukeyirangtarenganjuezishenzaoyixuehuifangxiale，zaoyibuzaiyile，neiyangdehualingyifangbujiuqueshiyuelaiyueyuanleme?

 budanshibukeyi，daoburushuoshihaipa，haipadeyuangujiushizaiqianyishizhonglixinzijimeiyougongzuonengliquzhangwoyiduanqinggan，nengfuhexingkaodeshilingyifangdelianminzhixinhehuiying，zheizhongrenwanglezijicaisuanshijueceqingganshibushinengyoujieguodeshishizhe。

shide， jibianrenmenyaoxiangwanliulingyifang，renmenyeyiranyaozaiqingganzhizhongzhanyouzhudaoquan，keyilingzhehezhengqueyindaolingyifang。

学生状况

xueshengshinvhai，yaoxiangwanhuinanyou。

xianghushilijingpenyouxiangxijieshaolejiede，chupenglejiriliangrenbianzaiyiqi。

 danzaiyiqideyuanguqueshinanhaiziganjuenvhaixingqingsuanshifeichanghao，shigeheshidangxifudehouxuanren，xiantanzhekanyixia，ernvhaiduinanhaiziquezaoyidonglezhenxinshiyi。

 liangrenzaiyiqidoushipingdanrushui，pingchangjiushishuochigefankankandianying，nanhaiziyeyulaiyuganjuewuqu，duinvhaidoushiyulaiyulengmo。

 bingqieyiqiannanhaiziyeyougezishenwangbudiaodeqianrennvyou，cikezheiyiqianrennvyouderenwujiaosezainanhaizineixinbianzhong，nanhaizigangkaishiyufasinianqiannvyouerhulvelezheiyixinrennvhaidecunyouhetihui，meiduojiubianmingquetichuletichufenshou。

 huanjuhuashuo，nvhaijinguanyikaishidingzhe“qinglv”dezhenshishenfen，keshishishangtazainanhaizixinlideyingxianglibenzhijiubingbushilingyiban，zhenduinanhaizieryan，tagenghaoxiangyigeqianrennvyoude“beiyongtai”。

 nvhaishifentongxin，yehentongxi，tabuganjiushizheiyangdebeinanhaizixuehuifangxia，doubuganxintanyichangdangjinrenbeiyongtaidelianqing，tayaoxiangweizijideqingganyaoyigejiaofa，yaoxiangzishenaiderenkeyiyongxinxiaiyicizishen。

yiner，nvhaizhaodaorenmen，qidairenmenxiezhutakeyiwanhuinanyou，erqiejiegoujiaguliangrenzhongjiandeqinggan。

老师解析

1.liangrenzaiyiqideyuangu，zhishiyouyu“shihe”erbingbushi“xiai”。

 huanjuhuashuo，zhenduinanhaizieryan，hewozheiyinvhaizaiyiqideyuangujianghuizhishishi“xiangtanduixiangle”，erbingbushi“yaoxianghezheiyirendaoyiqi”。

 liangrendeqingganjibenshifenjichuboruo，bingqienvhaideshenshangbingmeiyouyuzhongbutongdeyouhuolikeyibawonanhaizi，jinanhaiziyizhong“huanlesheihaikeyi”dejuede

 2.nvhaiyouyupingchangyishizhuxingjiaoweiyiban，shejiaoquanziyefeichangjiandan，zaijialiangrenganggangzaiyiqijiujianlilezhangqixingguanlian，yinerzhenduizishendepinpaixingxiangheyouhuolibingmeiyouyouyidekaizhanjibenjianshe。

 yinerzainanhaizilaikan，neiyangdenvhaiyexuhenwenrouhentongqingdali，keshiqianquezuoweiyixingpengyoudefengcai，liangrenzaiyiqibingmeiyoureqing

 3.nvhaipingchangdeyishizhuxingjiaoweikuzaofaweifawei，liangrenzaiyiqideshijianguoduandoumeiyoukeyifeichanghaodifajuegongtongyuyanhegerenaihao，zaochengnanhaizijuedehenvhaizaiyiqishifenjiandanwuqu，qianquegoutongjiaoliu，meirideliaotiandehuatishaodekeling。

zaizishenjiumeishenmeyouhuolidezhuangkuangxia，goutongjiaoliudepinfajinyibuzaochengnanhaiziduinvhaisangshixingquaihao。

4.youyunanhaizishiyongjiazhijiaogao，nvhaizaiqingganzhizhongdeshixinguozhong，haipasangshilingyifang。

erganghaoshineiyangdexintaizhuangtaizaochengnvhaihusiluanxiang，guoduodijian，buduanquyuelingyifang。

 neiyangdegerenxingweirangnanhaiziyouyizhong“chidingle”nvhaidejuede，fandaogengweiburongyiaixinvhaikandaizishendeqinggan，banvhaidangzuoyigebeiyongtai。

具体指导全过程

第一阶段：內外在的基本建设来终获吸引住

 huiwangrenmenyiqiandejiexi，renmennenggoukanjian，zuikaishidedaohuoxianjiushishuoyouyunanhaizixinlidenvhaimeiyouyouhuoli，zishenzaizheiyirendeshenshangzhaobuzhebeixiyinzhudejuede，yincinanhaizimingquetichuletichufenshou。eryegengshiyouyuyouhuolibugou，nanhaizicaihuizhuiyiqilaiqiannvyou，huailianqiannvyoudailaizishendejuede。

 zhenduizheileiqianqixiyinzhujiubugouzaochenglingyifangzhuiyiqiannvyoudezhuangkuang，pinpaixingxiangshangjiudeduobian，rangnanhaizibadaliangdesixuhuazainvhaideshenshang，jinenggaolengnvshen，younengmengmei，jiwanhuodexingganmiren，youshuahuanshangwenyifaner，chongzugoujianxinxianganhejinpogan，nanhaizidangranhuijiangdizhenduiqiannvyoudezhuiyi，tishengduinvhaideganqingxiangmutouzi。

 lingwaichongzusuzaozishendegerenaihao，fengfuduocaizishendeyishizhuxing，kuozhangzishendeshejiaomeiti，jiejuejirenjuedekuzaofaweiwuqudeyimian。renmenyaojinanhaizizaojiuchuquyizhong“woruheyiqianmeiyoufajuezheiyirenneimehao”neiyangdejuede，yaorangnanhaiziyouyizhongyouyucuoguolenierhouhuimojidexintaizhuangtai。

zheilibianduiyuxueshengdezhuangkuangzhuanyejitatuxijiangke，lingwaixiezhuxueshengxuehaochuangjianjuyouyouhuolidegoutongjiaoliufangfa。

 xuduorenlejiezhongxinxiyinzhubixuyouwaizaigangkaishi qinggannantihenxinlei?10skuaisushenqingqingganzhenduan ，keshishishang，danchunxingdewaizaibiaozhungenggaiqueshihuiranglingyifangzaiciliuyidaoni，keshiyidanliangrengangkaishigoutongjiaoliudeneishihounihuanshixiangyiwangyiyangdebatianliaosi，huoshiweishouweiweidehaipashuohua，zongshiranglingyifangzaicifanhuidangshiduinideqingkuang。

youhuolideyingzao，bixuwaizaipinpaixingxiangheqingxujiazhitongshijinxing。

第二阶段：欲情故纵，嵌入趣味性

zaixueshenggengxingaizaoqianqi，rangxueshengzhaonanhaizixianliaokankannanhaizideqingkuang，lingwaiyoumudedezhanxianzishendebianhua。

 nanhaizigangkaishijiji，keshiyiranbutixianghuqingganguanliandeshier，biaomingnanhaizihuanshizishizhizhongnvhaidangzuobeiyongtai，zhibuguoshizheiyibeiyongtaiyulaiyugaopinzhilebale。

 jiezherenmenyouyirangnvhaizaijijijihuihougangkaishijianshaohuiyingsudu，naizhiyouyibuhuilingyifangxinxineirongquweixinfapengyouquan，tishengzishendequweixing。

 xuduorendaoqingganzhizhongyizhiyouyigebuzhengquerenzhinengli：tamenhuijuede，zaiqingganzhizhongzhanyouzhudaoquanderen，tongchangzhenduilieshideyifangshichedibuzaiyide。

 zheijiubudui，lianqingzhizhongdejijihepugongquanshixiangshengxiangkedeguanlian，yigeyizhixiguanqianghanguanren，yizhixiguanbeinixinxineirongmiaohuideren，yidanmeileneiyangdegongzidaiyu，tahuigangkaishijinghuang，huigangkaishiweiman。

youyutahuranguannianlaidaozishenyidanshiquni，hennanmeirennengtahuineiyangjuededaobeizhaoliaohebeiguanhuai。

 nanhaizidezhejixintaiyebeiyidiandianjiqichuqu，keshihuanshibazishenfangdaoshangtaizhedezishi，chedibuzhongshixuesheng，jianxinzheilixuduojindaobeiyongtaifangshiderendoushiannaibulezishen，jinbuzhujiufeichangrongyizhongxinhuidaocongqian。

 shijishangzheiyineishihounanhaiziyuebugaoxingyejiuhuiyuezaiyinvhai，keshizaizheiyihuanjiejinjibubichedilakailingyifang，yaoxuehaodiaozhunanhaizi，shidudejihuiyerangxueshengjiyuyixiedafu，buranfeichangrongyidebuchangshi。

 zaizheiliyihuanjie，renmendemudizhishishishengchanzhizaobushi，rangnanhaizigangkaishiguanniandaozheiyirenbingbushixiangzishenxiangxiangdeneimashoucaozong，zishenbingbukeyizaiqingganzhizhongsuiyiwangwei。

第三阶段：激化矛盾，备用胎还击

 daozheiyibuworangxueshengduozhanxianyixieyuxuan，bubibazishendehuolidoufangdaonanhaizideshenshang，yaotahuilejiejianghuiyouxuduonanshengzhuiqiuwanmeiwo，jiqitadeshichangjingzhengguannianheduzhanyu。

 rangxueshengzhujiangangkaishichupengbiedenanshipenyou，weixinfapengyouquanzhanxianyuxuan，zheidoushiruojiruolidefangshi zhiyi，helidelakaicaigengnenggengqiangdelashanglai(zheierjinjibubihebierenguodunuanwei)。

jianghuihuixuduorenjuedeneiyangjianzhifeichangrongyiranglingyifanggengweitaoyanziji?

yaolejiemeishenmejueduiqiadanghuobuzhengquedejuece，zhinengbuzhengquedefangfa。

zailiangxingxiangchuzhong，zhangwohaoxiandu，yiqieshierchangyoujianghuizaochengjijizhudongdeyimian。

 zheilizengjidahuoeryigeshedingyuxuandeguifanchuqu：ninengchengxianchuqujinibiedeyixingpengyou，keshishiyouyizhong“yuqingguzong”dixintai。

 liruchulaiyongcandeneishihoupaiyizhangzhaopian，keshizhiwailulaiyixingpengyoudeshou，shuoyiju“haoburongyidakaqiandaoxiaidefandian”——yemeiyoushuozheijiushiwodeyixingpengyou，keshiwomendoushiliangrendulichuquchidefan。

 lirushaiyixiexiaolipin，buyongshuodaodishisheisongde，peici“wanwanmeixiangdao，jinriyeyouzheiyiyiwaijingxi”——zheiyiyiwaijingxidaodishisheisongde，hewomenshishenmeguanlian，yinweiwobulijishuo。

niyaoshigangkaishicaile，jiubiaomingnigangkaishizaiyiwole;niyaoshigangkaishixinjile，jiubiaomingnizaoyidianjizhewole。

第四阶段：破而后立，终获低位

 jiuzaibiciguanlianmanmanjiaolvbuandejieduan，xuanzhunjihuilijirangxueshengfayizhangfeichangrongyiranglingyifangwujiedexiangpian，shengchanzhizaochuhenanhaizizaiyiqidecuojue，qiannvyouqudechenggongdiaoshang，yuelaiyuejizaobuan。

 beiyongtaiyaoxiangzaicishangtaijiuyidingyaoyongyubaituolingyifangneixinliduidajiaguanlianderenzhinengli(bingbushinibukehuoqueta，zhishitayuelaiyueaini)，jiaruzheiyirenzhinenglibuhuodebaituo，neimajibianduanzanxingdedadongfuhexing，yeyiranhuichuxianxiayicideaimuxurong。

 zheiyiquanguochengkanqilaibeishuiyizhan，shishishangdoushichuangjianzaiyouliangdejibenzhizhong，youyunanhaizizhangqixingchuzaizhudaoxing，zhangqixingdejijibuweitahuijibianzaiciguanxinnvhai，yiranxiangbanvhaizuoweihuzhijilaihuizhijiqudebeiyongtai，buyuanjiangchufuhexingdeshier，naizhinanhaiziyiqizhixiashandiaolenvhai。

 cikehaowuyiwenxuduorenyaoxinjibiaoshu，quebuzhidao：yuefabiaoshuyuezhengshizishendebianyi，yaolejiezheileishidianxingxingdeyijiyuwangzhizhongdegerenxingwei，wuzhuganbaomanyinqideyuwang，ganjuebaituocaokonglecaihuizaochengnaonu。

 yincilizhiyihousuizhelaideyidingshihouhuimoji，zhangqixingdeganqingyayiganzhizhong，jiuhuizaicirenqingnvhaidebiyaoxing，nanhaiziweiyidejiejuefanganjiushishuojijiqiurao，ciwai，meiyoufangfanengbaituokunjing。

 henyouqudeshi，xueshengzaizheiyiquanguochengzhongjidukonghuang，bingbushixiangxinzijidejuece，shuonanhaizishigehenaimianzideren，burongyidixiatou，tazuodejueceshiburongyigaide。

 shishishangneidoujinjinrenmenzishenshengchanzhizaochuqudeyuanyinbale，yigenanhaizideliebuxintaizhuangtaijuecetayidinghuizaiwubibeirenaozhizhongyouyidingdegerenxingwei。

jieguodiertiannanhaizijiulijigandaonvhaigongzuozhongdediqu，qixianbaichengaojiaodezishizhiyinvhaixubuxuyaogentarenchulai。

 wotizaojiuyaonvhaitiqianzhunbeihaoqianwanbierangbu，weichihaozishendejiagou，nanhaizizuizhonghaoburongyichengshoubuleyaosangshilingyifangdeweiji，erxiangnvhaizhiqianerqiemingquetichufuhexing。

haihao，meiyigexueshengdoutaobuchuhaoxiangjibendinglv，zheidianershierwohaigaobudong，neimewojiumeizizhibangdajiawanliule。

最后章：从塑关联，调节恋情方式

 zuizhongzaiwanliuqudechenggongdeneiyike，tongchangshizuifengxiandejieduan，feichangrongyichuxianyizhixingpolie，neimayiqiansuozuodequanbugerenxingweidoujiangfuzhidongliu，yincizuizhongyikechengneirongjiushishuojiaohuixueshengzenyangzaiyurenxiangchuzhongqiadangbiaoshuzishendeyaoqiu，yongyumingquetichuzishendeniantou， erbingbushimeiyouliyoudediaodizishendebiaozhunhedaodedixian。

yiqianxueshengshijueduihaipaxiangtuzhongneibangennanhaizineiyangfayande，rujindeguanliancaifanhuileqiadangdexiangchufangshi。

 congyiwangdebuzaiyixueshengdedongtaixing，bianweilejijihexueshengshangbaozishendexingchenganpai，jijihexueshengfadia;xueshengyeshiyuanxiandeweishouweiwei，biandeyuelaiyuezhanyouyoushi，zaiqingganzhizhonggengweizishen。

 lianqingzhongnvhaibingbuyidingyaozhanyoushizaitaigaodebuwei，zhongjiudabufenchusedenanhaiziyebuyidinghuibazishenhuochuzijiyigetiangou，keshiyiduanshenxinjiankangdeguanlianzhong，nvhaiyidingyaoyounengranglingyifanggaoduzhongshizishendegongzuonengli!

 liuyi：zuoyouwanliubuzhoujinyinrenmenjutizhidaoxiakaizhandejieguo，nenggouxiaofang，qiejishengbanyingtaozhaoyongsuiyishizhe，rongcuoxingjidi，lveweichucuofeichangrongyidebuchangshi。

老师小结

 huiwangyixiawanliudequanguocheng，ninengchayidefajue：renmenbudanxiezhuxueshengwanliuleqiannvyou，bingqiehaichedidanizhuanleliangrenxianghuguanxi。

 lingyifangzaifanhuinvhaishenpangdeneishihou，zaoyiyibushinagelengbingbinggaoshiyongjiazhidenanhaizi，fanguolai，nanhaizibianweileyigehuifadia，huijijishangbaozishenxingchenganpaidechusenanyou。

zheijiushishuorenmenyikaishijiangde，xuduoneishihoubingfeinibukeyiniuqulingyifangduinidexintai，zhishinihaipaeryi，

 zaiwanliuzhizhong，renmenyidingyaoyoudanliang，youshouwanzi，yongyuqushuomingzishendexintai，yongyuquzhanxianzishendeyishizhuxing，jiqiyongyuzhanxianzishendebiedebeixuanzexiang，ranglingyifangguanniandaorenmenbingfeifeitabuke，bingfeiyidingyaozaiyikeshushangdiaosi。

 neiyangdewanliufangfa，feichangshaoxuduorenganqushizhe，keshishishangneiyangdewanliufangshi budanheli，bingqiehainengwanquanniuquduiju。

 taifeichangrongyihuodedeshierburongyizaiyi，fandaoshiyoutiaozhande，youweijideshiergengweinengzaochenggaoduzhongshi，tashishenzhizairenmensuoyourenrendebenxingzhizhongdexintaizhuangtai，xuehaoyunyongzheiyixintaizhuangtai，shengchanzhizaozaiqingganzhizhongdequweixinghelipinxing，lingyifanghuigengweixintengni，yehuiguanniandaoqueshiyuelaiyueaini。

xiwangzheiyishilinengjiaohuidajiade，bujinshiwanliu，yeyouzaiqingganzhizhongdexinjuehexintai：

wohaoxihuanni，yehenaizheni，wohuoxuqidaiyunihaohaodidezaiyiqi。

 keshi，womendeshenghuoyebingbushiweiyouni，niyebukeyizhangzhewoainijiuqifuren，jiarurenmenliangrenyaoxiangzhangqixingdezaiyiqi，niyaoyidingyaobangwowoyinggaidezhaoliao，guanhuai，hezhongshi。