怎么走出失恋得到一个好心情

 renrenweizuishenchendeai，moguoyufenkaiyihou，jiangzijihuochengletadeyangzi。zicizhihou，momodishouzhehuiyi，zhidaoyoutahemeitaderiziyiyangzhang，shenzhigengjiajiuyuan。neimezenyangzouchushilian？shilianlehentongkuzenmeban？

一、失恋时怎么走出失恋

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 yihuoxu，renhuirenweizijixiangtongle，sheidoubuyuan，yesheidoubuhen，juedingjixuziwodeshenghuo。danshiquezonghaishiquxunzhaoshenghuozhongsuoyouguanyutadezongji，qutachangqudedifang，xiwangnenggououyu。zheiyangzenyangzouchushilianni？

 danshi，dangwanshangguduyiren，biyanchangshirushuideshihou，laiziguoqudeyiqieyourutongguimeibanfuxianzainaohaili，tuozhexinduoxiaqu。neixiecengjingdeshiyanhefashengguodeyiqiedoumanmandezaiyeseyuyanleizhongmohu，zhiyouzhanzhuanfanceliuxiadeguduzaibuduanditixingziji，wozhendeshiqutale，zaiduoanweishilianrendehuadoumeiyong。

 queshi，shilianbenzhishangshiyizhong“shiqu”，errenshiqudechuleguanxibenshen，haiyougongtongdeduiweilaidemengxianghechengnuo。zheigeshihouruheshuoanweishilianrendehuadoushitulaode。ershiquxiwangderensheng，woxiang，shijuewang，mihuo，buanshenzhixintongde。buxingdeshi，zaichengrendeshijie，kuaijiezoudeshehuihenduoshihoubujirenmenhuifuhechuanxidejihui，daizhexinshangderenmen，wangwangdiertiandoubeituizhehuidaoxianshishenghuozhong，mianduishiqutahoushenghuochongmandegezhongweizhi，zenmezouchushilian？

二、失去爱为何让人如此痛苦？失恋了很痛苦怎么办？

 henzhongyaodeyuanyinshi，congzhangqideqinmiguanxifenlichulai，huidafududidapohegaibianyigerenduiziwodegainian。yinweiguanxishuangfangsuizheshijiandetuiyi，gerendeziwoyishiwangwanghuiyuelaiyueduodeyuduifangjiuchanzaiyiqi。aodaliyamaikaoruidaxuedezuixinyanjiubiaoming，qinmideqinglvwangwanghuichengweiduifangrenjijiaowangzhongrenzhixitongdeyibufen，bingqieshuangfangdouhuiyilaiyubiciqutianbugezideziworenzhi（self identity）。huanjuhuashuo，zaiqinmiguanxizhong，renhuiqianyimohuadigaibian，buduandishoudaoduifangxiguan，xingge，xingquaihao，renshengguan，jiazhiguandengdeyingxiang，zhidaoziworenzhibuduankuoda，balaiziduifangdeyiqietonghuachengyibufendeziji，zenmezouchushilianqishishiyigehennandewenti。

 raner，zheiyeyiweizhedangyiduanguanxijieshushi，shiqutacongyidingchengdushangyiweizhenishiquleyibufendeziji。bingqieyanjiubiaoming，ruozheiduanguanxilidetaduinideyingxiangyueda，yuebangzhuniziwochengzhang，neifenshouhounihuigengrongyitihuidaoziwogainianhunluan（identity confusion）heziwogainiansuoshui（identity shrink）。suoyi，bunanlijieguanxijieshuhouhenduorendouhuichansheng“likainizhihouwoshishei？”zheiyangdekunhuo。

erzheizhongyuziwofenlideshangtong，zaiwomendedanaokanlaiheshenglideshangtongbingwuqubie。

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