一吵架就想离婚，跟老公没感情了想离婚怎么办

 genlaogongmeiganqinglexianglihunzenmeban？hunyinzhong，niyoumeiyouyiketebiexianglihun，danshilengjingxialaizhihou，youbuxianglihun？ruguoniyouzheiyangdejingli，nibingbugudan。

 wodexuduoyouke，youqishinvxingyouke，douyouzheiyangdexiangfa；dangtamenyuzhangfuzhengchaohuoyudaoqingxuwentishi，tamenxianglihun，danhoulaitamenzongshikeyizidongfangqilihundexiangfa，ranhoutamenyizhizaixunhuan，yongyuanwufabaituozheizhongkunjing。

congaiqingxinlixuedejiaodulaikan，zheizhongbushixianglihundechongdong，qishishiyizhongqinggan，erbushijueding。

 zheishiyinwei，zheiyang“xiangyaolihun”tamendechongdongshijishangshizaiyixiefumianqingxudequshixiachanshengde。liru，tamenyudaoleqingxuwenti，danmeiyouzhaodaoyigehaodejiejuefangan，ranhoutamenhenrongyichanshengqiangliedefumianqingxu，rubuman、fennu、shiwangdengtamenhui“xiangyaolihun”danzaixingdongzhongbuhuilijilianxi，shenzhibuhuigaosubanlv。

 dangtamendefumianqingxupingjingxialaishi，tamenhuikaolvbicideganqing、haizi、jiating、fumudejiban、caichan、lihunkenengmianlindekunnanyijiqitayinsu“xiangyaolihun”qingxuhuibeiyaxiaqu。

 raner，zheizhongqingxudezhongfuhenrongyirangtamenxianruzheiyangdehunyinjingdi：tamenbunengmeiyouhaodeshenghuo，suoyitamenjingchangzaihunyinzhonggandaotongku；tongkudeyidianshitamenneixindeziwobuyizhi：tamenduihunyingandaoshiwang，tongshiyouyouxiwang。tamenxianglihun，dantamenzaixingdongshangyizhituoyan，xianruziwolachedeqingxuneihao。genlaogongmeiganqinglexianglihunzenmeban？

 ruguotamenzhaobudaotingzhizheizhongqingxuneihaodejiejuefangan，tamenmeitiandouhuihenlei。zuihou，xiaobingbianchengdabing，gengnanzhiyu。zaizheiduanhunyinzhong，tamenshitongkuhewuzhude。

 gengzaogaodeshi，ruguotamenzhangqidaizhezheige“xiangyaolihun”neimetamensuoyoudezhuyilidouhuijizhongzaiqingxushang“yaobuyaolihun”zheiyang，tamenjiuhennanlixingdikandaihunyinbenshendewenti，congzhangyuanlaikan，tamenhuizhujianshiqujuecedenengli。

neime，zenyangcainengdapozheigeni？“guobuhaoyoulibukai”jiangjuni？

1.停止自我拉扯的情绪内耗

 yidanniyishidaonikaishiweishifoulihunerzhengzha，lijitingzhizheigexiangfa，gaosuzijizheizhongjiuchanhaowuyiyi，zhihuishanghainiziji。jianyanzhi，niyinggaiyouyishidikongzhiziji，erbushineihao。

2.找到修复关系的动机，并做出选择

 niyinggaiqingchudikandaonidexin。ruguonirengranaita，bazheifenaidangzuoxiufubiciguanxidedongli，erbushikaolvtajinidailaideshanghai；danshiruguonijuedenibuaita，yemeiyourenhehuaijiu，nikeyixuanzelihun，erbushiyuhaizi、caichan、qingfenheqitawentizuodouzheng，zheizhihuizuainidejueding。

3.看到并解决婚姻中真正的问题

 zhaochuhunyinzhongcunzaidewenti，zhaochushishenmerangniyoulihundexiangfa，bingjiejuezheigewenti。ruguozheishiyigejingchangchaojiadewenti，diaozhengnideguanximoshi；ruguoshilengkudebaoli，niganjuebudaoai，diaozhengnidegoutongmoshi，xuehuibiaodaai。

 genlaogongmeiganqinglexianglihunzenmeban？zuihou，ganqingzhongdedawentishizaiyikaishibuqiyandexiaowentizhongjileiqilaide。yexunimeiyoushuodehuahuibianchengjudadebuman，zuizhongqinshinideganqing；yinci，ruguonideganqingzhongyouyigexiaomaodun，nibixujishijiejueta。buyaojilei，buyaoyiyezhijian，buyaoshierbujian！