花镇觉得没效果可以退款吗？提高情商的方法

 qingshangzhishang(eq)youbeichengweiqingxuzhili，shijinxienianxinlixuezhuanjiamenmingquetichudeyuzhishanghezhilixiangduixingyingdedingyi。taguanjianjiushizhirendaoxintai、ganqing、xinnian、chengshoucuobaidengcengmiandezhiliang。guoqujuede，yigerenkefouzaiyishengzhonghuodezaojiu，zhishangshuizhunshidiyiguanjiande，jizhiliyuegao，huodezaojiudegailvjiuyueda。danrujinxinlixuezhuanjiamenguangfanrenwei，qingshangzhishangshuizhundegaoaiduiyigerenkefouhuodechenggongyeyongyou zhongtedadeweihaigongxiao，youshihouqigongxiaonaizhiyaochaochuzhishangshuizhun。neima，jiujingshenmeshiqingshangni?

yingguoxinlixuezhuanjiajuede，qingshangzhishangbaohanxialiehaoduogecengmiandeneirong：

yishilejiebenshendexintai。youyujinyoulejieziji，caikeyibianchengzishenrichangshenghuodezhuzaizhe。

ershinengtuodangwanshanzijidexintai。jinengguankongzishen;

sanshidiaozhengqingxu，takeyirangrenbaituoshengmingzhongdedigu，zhongxinqihang。

sishirenzhinenglitarendeqingxu。tashiyubierenyiqiezhengchangxiangchu，wanchengchenggonggoutongjiaoliudejiben;

wushirenjijiaowangdeguanlifangfa。jilingdaoganbuheguanlishuiping。

 qingshangzhishangshi—zhonggongzuonengli，nenggoujuede、zhangwoheheliyunyongxintaidenengliangyuzhinenghuazuoweirenmendedongneng、xinxineirongheweihaidelaiyuanyu。qingshangzhishangbuzhishixianshixinxichukeguandezhinenghua，danqueshilaiyuanyuneixindeconghui。tishengzixinnengshiwomenxuexipeixunrenkeyuaixidajiahebierendetihui──zaidajiapingshiderichangshenghuoyugongzuoshang，shidudidafutamen，helideyunyongxinxineironghexintaidenengliang。qingshangzhishangjilidajiazaicitanxundajiadutedeqianlihezongtimubiao，jiqididajiabenzhishenchudeshiyongjiazhiyuqipan，zhuanhuasixiangweijutiderichangshenghuo。

 qingshangzhishangdeshuizhunbuxiangzhishangshuizhunneibannengyongceyanfenshujiaojingquedibiaomingchuqu，tazhiyouyijubenrendezonghexingzhuyaobiaoxiankaizhanfenbian。xinlixuezhuanjiamenhaijuede，qingshangzhishangshuizhungaoderenjubeiyixiadetexing：renjijiaowangnengliqiang，xinggewaixiangerkaixin，huazhenjuedemeixiaoguokeyituikuanma？burongyishenxianhaipahuobeishang，duigongzuojiaozijintouru，pinxingduanzheng，fuyouzerenxin，ganqingshenghuojiaofengfuduocaidanzhizuzhizhi，bulunshiyurenxiangchuhuanshiyuhenduorenzaiyiqishidounengyouranzide。quanweizhuanjiamenhaijuede，yigerenshibushijubeijiaogaodeqingshangzhishang，heyounianshiqidejiaoyuyindaoyongyou jinmideguanlian。yiner，suzaoqingshangzhishangyingzixiaogangkaishi。

 womenwufayudingzhili，quenenggoutishengzixin，yigeyouxiuderenbuyidingyongyou tiaoyuexingsiwei，queyidingyongyou qingshanggao。tishengzixinshijishangyongyou jianeryixingdefangshi，nixuyaodebianshijianchibuxie。

一、学好划分适当的心理状态界线，这对每一个人都是有益处。

 nihuoxuzijuedeyubierenjiexianweizhishiyijianhaoshi，zheiyangyilaidahuoernengwujuwushudijiaowang，bingqiebicizhijianyewuxumengliediyijia。zheitingqilaihaoxiangyoudianerdadaoli，dantadebuhaozhichuqujueyu，tarenchangchangsunhailenideqinggandanniquebuzizhi。

 shijishangrenzhenguanchazhouweinibuhuitainanfajue，jiexiannenglijiaochaderenbianyudelexinliniuqukongju，tamenburongyiyuyuqinhaizhedikang，ergengxiangyaoxiangdisanzheqingtu。jiaruwomendoushinageqinhailetarenxinlizhuangtaijiexianderen，fajuekeguanshishideshiqinghou，dajiahuijuedezishenshigelengkudedashagua。lingwaidajiayehuijuedeshoushang，youyudajiajijizijideguoshierkuijiu，youduiyigedisanzhejuanjinquduidajiapintoulunzuerjuedeqifen。

 jiexianqingchuduidahuoerdoushiyouyichu。niwubigaoqingchushenmejiaotarennenggouhebunengduinizuode。dangtarenqinhailenidexinlizhuangtaijiexian，duitashuo，yiqiuqujiuzheng。jiaruyizhihuabuqingxinlizhuangtaijiexian，neimaniyejiubixutishengzijiderenzhishuiping。

二、找一个合适自身的方式，在觉得即将失去理智时使自身静下心来，进而使血夜留到人的大脑里，作出理性的行動。

 waiguorencengwanxiaodishuo：dangpengdaoshiershi，lixingdexiaohairangxueyejindaorendedanao，nengconghuididulisikao;cubaodexiaohairangxueyejindaosizhi，rendedanaokumen，fengkuangbulizhi。

 shide，dangxueyetianmanrendedanaode，nibaochiqingxing，judongqiadang，xiangfan，dangxueyedouliurunidesizhihezuibadeqingkuangxia，niyejiuhuizuoshashi，bulizhikuangzao，lengyanlengyu。

 shijishang，kexueshiyanzhengshi，zaiwomenzaigongzuoyalixiayuelaiyuejinzhangjiaolvshi，xueyequeshihuiliqudanaopizhi，yincidajiabianhuijudongwenluan。zheishi，rendedanaozhongxiaodongwudetianxingqilezhudaodiwei，shidajiaxiangzuichudexiaodongwuneibanzuoshi。yaolejie，zaiwenmingshehuizhong，zhuyaobiaoxiandexianggeyuanshidongwuhuichanshengmafanshi。

 diaojieqingxubaofayouhenduoduice，zaiqizhongyigefangshibianshiliuyinidexintiao，tashikaoliangxintaidejingzhunzhichi。ruguonidexintiaokuaizhimeifen100cizhishangshi，zhengzhiyixiaxintaiyouweizhongyao。zaizheileisuduxia，rentidaixiechubipingchangduohenduodeshenshangxianjisu。dajiahuishiqulizhi，bianweihaozhandeguoguo。

dangxueyeyougangkaishiyongjinsizhishi，ninengcaiyongxialiedefangshilainingjingqingxu：

 1、shenxiqi，zhidaopingjingxialai。jianjiandi、shenshenhuxi，rangqitianmanquanbufeizang。bayizhishoufangdaofuqiang，baozheng nidehuxifangfaqiadang。

2、zishuozihua。liruduizijishuo：“wozhengzailizhi。”yejiushishuo：“yiqiedoushihuiyiwangde。”

 3、youderenxuanyongshuiliaofa。xigekaishuizuoyu，henyoukenenghuijinidenuhuohejiaolvqingxusuimuyuyedepaomosuliaoyiqixiaotui。

 4、niyenenggoushizheyingguoxinlixuezhuanjiatangna·aidengdefangshi：dianjizhebuyukuaideshi，lingwaijiangnideshouzhijianfangdaoyanmeishangbiandeqianeshang，muzhianzhaotaiyangxueweizhi，yonglixiqi。juaidengshuo，neiyangzuoyaoshishiduofenzhong，xueyebianhuizhongfandanaopizhi，niyejiunenggenglizhidisisuole。

三、想埋怨时，停一下先扪心自问：“我是想再次承受这看上去没法改变的情况呢，還是想改变它呢?”

 zhenduibutingdemaiyuan，dajiachengzuoxutao。maiyuanhuihaofeiyongjingeryouburongyiyouyiqiejieguo，duinantidehaowujiazhi，youfeichangshaohuishidajiajuedeshufuyidian。

 jibenshangquanbuderendoufajue，jiaruduiyouzerenxindedisanfangqingtubiequ，ertahuigensuiyiqifahuodehua，dajiahuijuedeshufuyixie。youxierengennishuo：“kelingdeshangpin。”zheiduinieryanshifeichangdadekuanwei，nidegongzuoyalihaoxianghuanjiele，yinciniyounengzaiciyingduiyuanlaidejushile，suiranshiermeiyouyiqiegaibian。

 keshijiarunizuozuihaodezijini，ninengganshoudaojidadejingshenyali。gongzuoyaliyoushihoubingbingbushigechihuaiduzi，shide，tahuoxuhuijinijuedenanshou，danlingwaiyeshicujinnikaizhangaibiandenengliang。yidangongzuoyalihuanjie，renjiufeichangrongyizhibubuqian。shubuzhi，jiarugongzuoyalimeiyouzaimaiyuanzhongwailiu，tabianhuituijiqilai，didayigejixian，qushinifuzhuxingdongbianxiankuang。

 yiner，ruguonitiqianzhunbeixiangyigelianminnidepengyoubaoyuande，xianmenxinziwenyixia：woshixianghuanjiegongzuoyaliweichixiankuangni，huanshixiangranggongzuoyalibuduanxialaicujinwogaibianzheiyiqieni?ruguoshiqianmianyizhong，neimejiugenjubaoyuanbagongzuoyaliganpaoba。zhuyirendoushiyoushuapiqideshihou，tahuishiwomenlinshishufuyixie。danjiaruzhuangkuangdequebixugaibiandehua，xiajuexinjinyibuxingdongqilaiba!

四、清扫一切消耗活力的事情。

shenmejiaobulidajiatishengzixindenengliangni?huidabianshiyiqiexiaohaohuolideshiqing。

 henduorendezhongshushenjingxitongrutonglaoshideshouyiyangzhanglehenhousipi。dajiazaoyixiguanguannianbushanghuolidehaofei。huolishixiweide，danhaikeyiganshoudaoxianzhudezhuanbian，lirutingjianxixunshi，shenshangxianjisuhuimengzeng，ertingjianehaoshi，huijuedepibeibukan。dajiayibanburongyizhuyihuoliweixiaodihaofei，liruyuyigexiaochenderenjiaowang、zaizhuozisichuzhaoyizhangzhizheixie。

 niderichangshenghuoyoushenmechihuanhaofeihuolideshier?womenjiadeqiangjiaoduizheyixiaokuaimaotan，meiyicijiandaota，wodoushihuixianghenyoukenengyouxierenhuibeitashuaidao。zheibubushishenmelebuqidenanti，dantafensanhuawodehuoli。zheijiushiwomenzenyangdingyifensanhuahuolideshiqing——meiyicichupengyihoudoushihuijuedehuolibeifensanhuale。youshihouhepenyousuozaiyeshizheiban——huxiangjiquhejiyuhuoli——danyixieshihuolidexuezu，tamenzongshijiqunidehuoli。zheishihouyoulianggetiaoxuan：yishirenqingzheigewenti，chuangjianxinlizhuangtaijiexianzaiciyutamenshenzhongxiangchu;lingyigeshijiangdiyuzheileirenxiangchu。

queshi，dajiabixuchuquchihuandixiaohaohuolidewupin，baituochuquyijizhongzhuyilitisheng dajiadeqingshangzhishang。

xiangjiakuai——ninengtiaoxuanjianshaomocazulihuotishengqudongli。

shiyixiadajiachushidefangshiba：

1、changchangliejuhaofeinihuolideshier。

2、xitonghuapouxiyixiamingce，bingfenweiliangyibufen：a、nenggoudayouzuoweide。

B、不能改变的。

 3、zhuyichuliadanlidenanti。liruyijianshieryan，baqicheyaokongyaochiguazaiyigegudingbudongdegouzishang，neiyangjiuwuxusichuzhaole。

4、zaikanyixiabdanlidenanti，nishibushiyoujihui?youmuyoubazaiqizhongyixienuodaoadanjiayijiejuedehenyoukeneng?

5、sheqibdanlidenanti。

五、找一个日常生活新鲜的楷模。

 dajiadoucengjingliguoxuekaimodeshidai，zheixiekaimozhenduidajiaeryanchonggaoeryoushengshu。yincidajiaxuekaimodereqingzaihekaimodejianjuzhongzhujianmiediaole，youyuwomenzhidao，zishenhuoxuyishengdouzuobuleyingxiong。

 shide，nibunengbianchengyingxiong，danninengbianchengyigehuanledepingchangren，lirunidepengyoudingxiangzi，tajingliwangsheng、nianqing、daqi、conghui、quwei。tayunyingfukezhensuo、zuoqiyezixunguwen、weiyijiashibeianshixielanmuwenzhangneirong，youjunxiudelaogonghetaorenxihuandeguinv。

 nishenpangyouneiyangdeyouyijiaosema，batazuoweinidekaimoba!ninengxiang：tanenggouzuodewoyekeyi，dandajiadegeyoutese，wobuhuihenyoukenengyitadefangfajinxingtasuozuodeshi。danwonengxiaofangtazuodeyixieshi，yiwodefangfalaijinxing。congtadeshenshangnichangchangjiandaocongweifajuedebenshenqianli。

 zaizhoubianderenqunzhongzhaodaonixuexidebangyangba!tamenbinisuiconghui、suoshouwenhuajiaoyugengqiang、cengjigaoxie、binigengyouyili。ninengzaizhuizhutamendequanguochengzhongdangranditishengzijideqingshangzhishang。

六、做父母。

 zuofumuhuijiaohuinihenduodongxi。dangxiaohaikuangjiao“weishenmebubangwomai?wotaoyanni!huazhenjuedemeixiaoguokeyituikuanma？”shi，nibunengshiluo，bukeyifennu，nixuyaolejietabingjienajizenghendeshiji。yaolejie，tashixiaohainenggoujiyunidezuimeideliwu，ziranzheileihenbubibuduanxialai。

 fuyangxiaohaishiyigehuligongyingdejieguo。zaifuyangxiaohaidequanguochengzhong，xiaohaixuehuilezenyangyuhaisuanbushangwanshandenianqingbabamamajiaowang。zuoweibabamamadedajia，zezaiyizhidajiadeyaoqiulaikaolvxiaohaideyaoqiudequanguochengzhongmoqulebianjiao。fuyangxiaohaihuiquanzidongtisheng dajiadeqingshangzhishang，shidajiabianchenggengdabiaodebabamama。

jiarunibuyuanyiyangyuxiaohai，hebushiyixiaweipenyoukanhaizi，yuxiaohaijiaowangnenggouzhenshiditisheng dajiadeqingshangzhishang。

七、从不爱交际的人的身上学得物品。

 dajiadezhoubianyouhenduomanfulaosao，hengxingwuji、zhuangdanzuoshideren，dajiaduomedeqidaizheixierencongrichangshenghuoxiaotui，youyutamenhuilingrenfahuoheshiluo，naizhifafeng。weishenmebukeyibazheixierenkuangqilai，maigejipiao，songzhiyigehaidaoshang，zaineilitamenzaiyebunengyingxiangdaotaren。danshi，zuihaoshibuyaozheiyang，zheizhongbuaijiaojiderenshidajiatishengzixindezhushou。ninengcongduozuiduoshederendeshenshangxuehaojianmo，congqingxubuwendingderendeshenshangxuehaorenshou，conghuairendeshenshangxuedeshanjierenyi，bingqieniwuxuduizheizhongjiaoshiganjitiling。

 bingqie，nijiedingde“buaijiaojideren”，zuihoubeizhengshihenyoukenengjinjinyunibuyiyangderen，erduishuobailedebuaijiaojidereneryan，nishibuaijiaojideren。

 yingfubuaijiaojiderenzuiyouxiaodefangfabianshilingbian。huanjuhuashuo，fajuetamendefangfa，zaiyuzhixiangchudequanguochengzhong，jinkenenglingbiandaoxuanyongyuzhitongyangdefangfa。jiaruzheirenxiaixianxianliaozaitanzhengjingshidehua，nidefanyingliyingshishifangyalichulai，liaoyiliaoshenghuozhong。lingyifangmian，jiaruzheirenzhijieledang，niyeliyingxianhuashaoshuo，benxiangzhutifengge。neiyang，zaiyubuaijiaojiderenxiangchudeshihouhuigenggaoxiaolv，bingqiehuifajuezheixierenbingbuneimabuaijiaoji。

 yingfubuaijiaojiderendedierdianbianshibatamendangzuolipin。zhudijiageileyigewangdaoderen。hunhoushenghuoduitaeryantianmanjianxin，youyutameiyouhenquelidejiexian。zaitichufenshouxuduonianyihou，taxuehuilexiexieta，youyutalaijiaotachuangjianhebaochijiexiandebiyaoxing。rujinzaipengdaoneiyangdenanrenshi，tayagenbuzaiyi。zhudishuo：“dangyutayiqishenghuoguozhihou，zheizhonghundanniyejiuhuiyagenbudanghuishi。”jiarutaneishihoujiageileyigelvzhensuihederen，tahenyoukenengdaoxianzaidouhaimeiquelidejiexian，yenanyiyingduizheixienanchulidehundan。