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ting，yinweinihenpaichizhengchao，danlianggerenjiaowangzhong，jibian zaiqiehedelianren，yehuicunyouzhexingqingchabie，zhengzhikendingshibukeyifangzhide，nihenpaichizhengzhi，neimenishibushixiangguoruherangzhengzhijiangdima?huoshizaidajiayoumaodunshi，zaishenmezhuangkuangxianenggoufangzhizhengzhi，nayangqingkuangxiakeyiyongzuishaodemaodunchulizhengchaoni?

tangruobulejiezheizhong，neixiangxinnihaowuyiwennanyicaokongzhengchaodejiezougan，yincizaidajiadezhengchaoshihuirangxiaoshiqingda，dashierbianweibuhediaohedeqingkuang!

nikankan，huazhenjuedemeixiaoguokeyituikuanma？shijishangzhengchaoyeshiyimendaxuewen，womenzheimenfangfademudiziranshirangzhengchaoyuelaiyuedi，bingrangpobudeyizhengchaodenantizaiyikaishijiuhuodechuli!jiangzhengchaodegezhonggeyangnantiguina，dajiazhuyilaichulizheizhongnanti：

难题1.有矛盾时什么时候防止争执?何时能够争吵?

huiying：shijishangzheilianggenantifeichangrongyichuli，zainidexinliyidingyaoqingchudiyishidaozhengchaodezhongyaoxing，liruyoudesuoshiqueshimeibiyaozhengchao，nidenanpengyoufeichanglei，queshimeiliqixiwan，yincinijiangzheiyidangzuolingyifangbuzunshoujilvlaizhengzhi，zheishijishangqueshimeibiyao，zhongjiuzheileisuoshihuanshiyihuxiangqianjiuweizhudao，shengjiweimaodun，neizhiyoushuotanlianaiyishiyoushenmewenti。

danzaiyoudenantishang，queshibixuchaogejia，youdenvhaihuiyouyuhenpaichizhengchao，yincizaiyixieyunyongzhengchaolaikaizhangoutongdefangshishang，quetiaoxuanleyongjiatinglengbaoli，danjiatinglengbaoliqueshinanyijiejuekunnan，ninengxiangyixiang，tangruonanhaizibuzhongshinidebabamama，nizhikaojiatinglengbaolinengchulima?haowuyiwenbuhao!youshihouzhengchaohaizhendeshijiejuekunnandefangfa，qiantitiaojianshiyaoshigerenxingweibutaipianji。

难题2：什么狠话非常容易变为大矛盾?

huiying：lianaizhongzaipengdaozhengzhishi，nifeichangrongyijiangchuhenhua，zheizhonghenhuahenrongyishengjibianweidademaodun，zaizheierjuyixiejingdiananli，qidaizhuweinvhaikeyijinliangjianshao——

①fourenlingyifangdechusheng：“nizheilaiyuanyuxiaochengzhenjianshe/xiangcundeguozhenneiyang”“dajiamoumoumoudiquderenquanshizheileidaodexiuyang”

②fourenlingyifangdexiankuang：“nikankannihundemoyang，nizaikanyixiamoumoumoudenanyou，nikanyixiabierenruheruhe，bierendougouchegoufangle”

③chedifoudinglingyifang：“woruhekanshangnini，genlebicijianzhilaidaobabeizimei!”

④fourenlingyifangdebabamama：“nifumuzhenruheruhe，zhihouwocongcimeiqudajiajiale!”

⑤jiushizaitanfourenta：“zhiqianhaiyousheihaigenzhuiwoni，wozenmemeigentajiuxuanlenini”

……

shijishangshangbiandezheizhongyujuzhonglei，tongchangquanshizaipengdaonantishinideyixiehenhua，bingbushijiushinixinlizhenzhengdeyuju，danyingduizheizhongyujushi，nidenanpengyouhaowuyiwenhuiyouyizhongzizundasaodejuede，zheibidinghuirangdajiademaodunshengji。

难题3：如何使用争吵来沟通交流?如何传送自身想说的信息内容?

duiyushangbiandenanti，xiangxinnihaowuyiwenhuichajuezijizaizhengzhideshihouhuishifenshangbian，zaocheng zishengaishuodebuyongshuo，buyinggaishuodedoushuochurukoule，tashilingrenshifentoutongdeshier。shijishangyingduizheileizhuangkuang，nisuoliyingzuodeshiyouliyouju，yimashiguiyimashi，zaizhengchaoshibianshuozishenxiangshuodexinxineirong，qianwanbuyaowangbiedecengmianfangxiangpaopian，gengbieluantiguoqu，burandajiademaodunkenengxiangwenzhuanyiyangyuelaiyueda。

ziranzuiweiguanjiandehuanshizhangwodu，youyunizhengchaodemudibingbushitichufenshou，zhishixianghenidenanpengyouxunzhaojiejuewentidefangfa。

难题4：原则问题不妥协

qianbianjianglexuduolianaizhongzhengchaodebiaozhun，xiangxinniyefajue，dabufendefangfaquanshizaiduinishuo，zhengchaoguizhengchao，danyidingyaoxuehaokuanrongzishendenanpengyou，danzaiyixienantishangchuxiandezhengchaoshijishangshibukeyituoxiede。

henyoukenengxuduo lianaishujizhongyehuijiaoni，zailianaizhongyidingyaomingbaidaotui，xuehaotuoxiecaikeyirangganqinggengzhangjiu，danzaizheierlinxilaoshixianggaozhizhuweideshi：zaiyuanzewentishangshibukeyituoxiede，lirudajiajuzhuzainagechengshi，fangchanzhengshangdexingmingdoushiyoushei，jiehunhoushibushihegonggongpopotongzhu，weilaibabamamadefuyangnanti……

zheizhongnantikanqilaihenmanzhang，danshijishangganghaojuecezhedajiashibushinenglaidaoyiqi，erqieyoupingwenzhangjiudexingfukuailejianglai。

难题5：争吵的道德底线

zaibenwenzhongjilizhengchao，mudishirangzhuweibazhengzhizuoweigoutongjiaoliudefangshi，bingxuehaozaizhengchaozhongxunzhaonantidechulifangfa，danwojuededaibiaozhezhengchaonenggouwujiezhi。