有被花镇骗过的吗？如何变得魅力难挡？

 jiarunipengdaolemouyixinaideren，yaoxiangranglingyifangbeizishenxiyinzhu，bunengziba，neimajiuxuyaorangzishenyuelaiyuefengcaiwuxian。dangran，fengcaiwuxiansuihao，dannihenyoukenengyizhiweidaoliangmou。xiamianjiuzenmerangzishenyuelaiyuefengcaimeifadang，ganleyigejianlvedeshouce，nanhaihenvhaijunkeyong。

1、突显自身的特点。

 nanhaiziyibanshixianbeirongmaosuoxiyinzhu。bingbushishuonixuyaoyanzhuang，huozhechuandexingganliaoren，nixuyaoyijubenshenzhuangkuang，zhanshichuguishuyuzishendetedian，quzhangbuduan。zongtilaishuo，nanshengxihuanyouquxiantude，ziranzhimeidenvhai。

 •yanbuhuazhuang，rangshuangyankanqilaidayixie。nanhaizidouxiaiyandaermeilideguniang。jiaruniyongyuanbuzhidaozenmehuayanzhuang，jiuxianghuihuazhuangdepenyouhuozhejishuzhuanyehuazhuangzaoxingshizixunyixia。changjiandefangshibianshi，xianyongyanxiangaobajiemaoshuazhangshuami，suihouyongjiemaojiajiaqiao，zuizhongzaituxiesaihongyunkai。

 •biebazishenedeshougulinxun。xiangbiyushougulinxundenvhai，juedaduoshunanhaizidouxiaifengyuyouquxiantudenvhai，yinci bieweilegenghaodinanshengbazishenedemianseanhuang。baochiyingyangshanshi，weichipifuguangzeduhechangshundejichudaixie，buyaoweizenyangbazishensairuzuishaohaodezhangqunfeijinxinsi。

 •yongfengchuncaihekouhongrangzuibagengweixingganmiren、meilidongren。jinguandangrandeluochunfengmiyishi，dannanhaizihuanshixiaifengyude、tourunniaonadezuiba。fengchuncaizhongdaiyouchaotianjiao、rouguifen、xiangzhangmudengchengfen，nenggoucijixingzuichunpifu，shiqikanshangqufengyu、tourun。danyaochangchangbucafengchuncai，youyufengchuncaidecijixingduhuisuishijianerbianruo，neimaboniaosuanfengchundeshijixiaoguoyehuishoudaofeichangdayingxiange。

 •baxiufayangzhang，bingnongpengsong。ruguonishiduantoufadenvhai，erqieyouqiaiduantoufa，neimejiuraoguozheiyibu，youyuweiyounizishengaoxingdeqingkuangxia，qingkuangcaikeyizuihaoshi。danjiaruniduixiufadezhangdumeiyouyouqideaihao，neimejiugangkaishiliuzhangfaba，suihoudengdainanhaizilaishangxi。o，yeyou，zhangtoufayuefengshuo，nanhaiziyuexiaie。yinci ，biewangjibaxiufanongdepengsongyixie。

2、塑造出肯定的风趣敏感性。

 nvhaidouqidainanhaizinengdouzishenxiao，ernanhaizizeqidainvhainenglejietamendefengqu，beitamendoule。(meiyigenanhaizidouqidaizishenshixingye。)jiaruniduinanhaizidegezhongchaoxiaodounengchangshunxiaohuaxishou，bingnengshidupengchangzhuhedehua，neimaniyidinghuiyouqishounanhaizireliehuanying。

 •jibian chaoxiaobingbushineimagaoxiao，haiyaoxiao。xuduo qingkuangxiananhaiziweilegenghaodijianshaojinzhang，huozhebaituonankan，yaoshuoyixiehaowudaolidechaoxiao。nixuyaolejietashenmeqingkuangxiashiyaojielibandeyouqifengqu，jiarunishiduweitapengchangzhuhe，bianhuitigaotadexinxin，shitajianjiandishifangyalichulai，yerangniyigeyanjietazhenshiyoumofengqudejiyu。

 •suzaozishendeyoumofengqu。nanhaiziaidesiquhuolainvhaiyongxinshuoxiaohua，dajiadoubeitadeyongxinjingtoudouledeqingjing。gesanchawude，yixiechaoxiaohaiqueshimangaoxiaode。ziran，bieyixijumingxingdeguidingguidingzishen，youyujuedaduoshudenanhaizidourenweizishenshigedabiaodexijumingxing，yinci qianwanbuyaoqiangtamendegongzuo。danyidingyaozhaodaozishendefengqulujing，yongxinshoujiyixienenggoudangxuduo nanhaizihuoyigenanshengdeqingkuangxiajiangdechaoxiao。

3、多读书读好书，掌握时事热点。

 henyoukenengyigechaoduanqunjiayishuanggaogenxiezijiunengqudechenggongdixiyinzhunanhaizidemuguang，danshiweilegenghaodiyaobuduanxiyinzhunanhaizi，jiuxuyaotishengneihanle。nanhaiziyeqidaiyunitantaoxiebuyiyangdehuatitaolun，heconghui、xiuyangyouliangdenvhaigongxianggezhonggeyangkanfahejianjie。zongtilaishuo，nanhaizibingbuhuiduiyigeyabadahuapingwufakangjude。

 •fangwen yixiexinwenmeitiheblog。youshihoufangwen yixiexinlangwang、souhuwangdengmenhuwang，rangzishenlejiezheiyiquanshijiedoufashenglexieshenmeshiqing。nijinguanwuxuquyuelannaxieshiji，zhangwomouyidiquhenduonianqiandewuzhuangchongtu，dannidelejiexianjieduanshijiegeguodoufashengleshenmedashier。

 •huashijianshenrulejiezishenhenganxingqudexingye，bulunshiyingpian、shishangchaoliuhuowenhuayishuxingyedouhao，xuanyigezishenhenganxingqude，changshibianchengzheixiefangmiandexiaoquanweizhuanjia。zheiyangyilai，jiarulingyifangwennixiaiganshenme，niyejiunenggouxinxindijiangchuyigehuida，erqieshitalejienizuodefeichanghao。bingqie，zheiyixingquaihaohainengjinibianchengyigegengkuailederen。kuailederenyaobibukuailederengengnengxiyinzhulurene。

 •jiaruniyongyuanbuzhidaoxuannaxiexingyehao，jianshenyundongshigefeichanghaodetiaoxuan。juedaduoshunanhaizidouxihuanyundong，danxuduo nvhaibingbuguanzhuzheiyidian，danfeichangzhidekaixindeshi，nanhaiziyebingbuqidainvhaiqueshiguanxin。yinci ，youbeihuazhenpianguodema？jiaruniyaozaochengyiqunnanhaizihuomouyinanhaizideliuyi，neimejiushenrulejieyigenihenganxingqudejianshenyundong(zuqiudui、lanqiusaihelanqiushizuihuobaodesandajianshenyundong)，suihoushiduxiangnanhaizichengxianchuqu。tayidinghuijingyayunizheibanzhangwo、xiaijianshenyundong。

4、苛刻一些。

 zheiyitiaojinguantingqilaiyixieweifanchangli，danqueshiyouxiao。bubihemeiyigezhuiqiunidenanhaiziyouhui，bubirangzishenkanshangquqingtiaohaozhui，suiyiyijuhuajiunengshangdang。

•duibiyubieryuanzhidenvhai，nanhaizigengxihuanzheixieduiyouhuimubiaotiaosanjiansidenvhai，yuanguyixia：

 1)zheihuitigaotamendezishenrentongdu——jiarutaxuanlezishen，huozhejiangzishenyubierenyousuochayi，tamenbianhuigerenganjuegengweiyouliang;

2)tamenhuibatazuowei“baoxiang”，youyutazhirangfeichangshaodenanhaizichenggong;

3)tashigetiaozhan，nanhaizidouxiaiyouquweixingdeshiqing。

5、赞扬他。

 dajiazongganjue，yinggaishinanhaizizanmeinvsheng，rangnvhaigaoxing，rangnvhailejielingyifangduizishenyouxingquaihao。shijishang，zheibingyouwu。nvhaiyaoxiangrangzishendefengcainanyidiyu，shidudehuayanqiaoyushibunengshaode。

 •youmudexingdizanyangta。gaoqingchutashiruhekandaizishende。jiarutajuedezishenshigecongmingderen，neimejiucongnidezuizhongjiaqiangtanaozhongdeduizishenzhishangderentong。jiarutajuedezishenshigelixing、shiqinghuayideren，neimejiugaozhilingyifangtayouduomededebijiaomingan，huozhetashiduomededemingbairenshizijidetihui。

 •youshihou，duojianghuafandaohuicuoshi，yinci yaoshanyuzuochushidudefanying。liru，jiarunijuede“tianya，nidechuangjijianzhibangjile”，bianhuikanqilaicusubukan，ershidudejiaoyinfanerhuishitagengshushi。feiyuyandefanyingyeshihenzhongyaodee。