我在花镇购买了感情咨询服务，如何告诉一个男人他伤害了你？

 gaozhibierentasunhailejinideqingkuangxiashishifenjiannande。yibanlaishuomeirenshiyouxinyaosunhainide，yinerchizetaduinidaozhileshanghaishihenyoukenenghuishitamenzaochengxuduo fumianqingxu。dichuyoukenenghuizaocheng wufajiejuedemaodunhemaodun。dichuyueqiang，maodunhemaodunbianhuiyuemingxian。wozaihuazhengoumaileganqingzixunfuwu，benwenyoukenengjiniyongyizhongyoulimao、lizhihewanshandefangfachulizheileizhuangkuang。zheibushiyouguanzenmerangnicaihuahengyidewenzhangneirong，zhishiyouguanzenyangchuangjianyouliangderenjijiaowangde。

1、了解你要想改变哪些。

 bubizhishishixiangtamaiyuannidexintai，zhishiyongshiliduitashuo，niyaoxiangtaganshenmehetazenyangzuo。yaoyouyigexingdongdefangan。nanrenzhenduiyouqingchudeyuguhefangandeshierheduiyibandexinxineironghuichuxiangengjiajijizhudongdefanying。

2、制做一份明细。

 liejuniyaoxiangtaolundeshier。liejunishizenyangzaoshousunhai，bingliejushijideshili。ruguonichuyutantaozuimengliedeqingkuangxiahuoshishibeijiaotanquanguochengzhongyinweijiaolvqingxuerzaochengshenshangxianjisubaoman，jilaomeiyijianyaotantaodeshierhuishijiaoweijiannande，nihenrongyipianyiguanjianhuoshibeizoushen。yigejiaotanmingxihuigaijinzheileizhuangkuang。

3、明确交谈的時间和地址。

zaigonggongchanghejiaotandehuahenyoukenenghuizulanshierwufakongzhi，keshilingwaiyejiletayigejinhoutaolungaihuatitaolundetuoci。

 •jinkenengquyigebangerendechangdi。lirudabaitianshengtaigongyuandemouyichukaikuangdediqu。yaomingqueyuanlirenqunkeshirengyaochuyuquntidekeshixingfanchouyinei。

•buyaozaidajiayibanyongyuwanshuahekaizhanfuqishenghuodewofanghebiedediqu。zheihuiduizheixiechangdilongzhaozhexiaojiqingxu。

4、剖析为何你遭受损害了。

 huiyiyixianizaoshousunhaidepincihedaodishishasunhailaidaoni。wozaihuazhengoumaileganqingzixunfuwu，youkenengnishiyouyubiedeyuanguzaoshousunhailebingfeiniyuanbenjuededeyuangu。pouxiyixianidexintai，neiyangdehuaniyejiunenggoubawozhunantishizhi。zheihuixiezhunifangzhilinshixingweigengbijiaoyanzhongdenantikaizhantianbu。

 •biru，nihenyoukenengyouyutawangjilenideshengrierjuedeshoushangle。keshiniqueshishiyouyuzheijianshiqingfushanglemeiyou?jiaruzhishishiyouyuzheiyijianshierershangxindehuadequeyoudianeryumei。henyoukenengnizhenshijinifushangdeyuangushiwangjishengchenzheijianshiqingjinjintahulvewocunzaidegerenxingweizhongdeyixiaobufen。

5、用心考虑到这种难题的各个领域。

 youdeqingkuangxiadajiahuiyouyudajiayagenmeiyouzizhinanguodeshiererfahuohuoshifushang。zaihetataolunyiqian，niyinggaixiangxinnibingbucubaohexuqingjiayi，youyuzheizongshizaocheng gengweibijiaoyanzhongdefushangxintaihezhengchao。

 •biru，nihenyoukenenghuiyouyunizuihaoshidexiongdipeinvyoudeshijianbipeizheniduoerjuedefushang。nidangrankeyiyouyuzheijianshiqingernanguo，keshinidequeshibukeyiduitayouguoshaozheixiefangmiandeguiding。

•另一个事例很有可能就是你针对你男友和女性一起去玩而难过。可是你需要还记得假如你和男性朋友一起去玩，你是确实不容易有社会道德层面的优点。

1、用一种你觉得比较好的方法详细介绍即将探讨的话题讨论。

 youdeqingkuangxiazheidaibiaozheniduitashuojiniyixieshierbixuhetataolunyixia。youdeqingkuangxiazheidaibiaozhenixuyaoxunzhaoyizhongshihedefangshizaijiaotanzhongdaoruzheiyihuatitaolun。ninenglejieshenmejiaozuiheshinidejingkuangdefangshi。

2、维持稳定、柔和的语调。

 nikendingbuhuiyaoxiangxiangshengtingqilaiguoduxingfenheyinrenzhumu，fouzedehuaniyusuoyourendoumeifayongxinyansurenzhenditaolun。fanguolai，baochilengjinghuishijiaotankaizhandigengweichenggong。

3、不能用一些斥责的用语。

 bubilijiduitakaizhanchize，zhishiyongyixiechanshu“wo”deyuyan。xiangtabiaoshunidejuedehexushutadegerenxingweiduinidaozhidebuliangyingxiang。

•biru，bunengyongyixieliru“niyizhiwangjiwoshengri”neiyangdeyongyu，shuoqi“niwangjiwoshengrilingwohennanguo”。

4、应用一些实际的事例。

 bubiyizhiyongyixietasunhainidepianmianhuadexushu。buranyigerenyouqishidangtazaoshousunhaideqingkuangxiahuigengweinanyilijieheyinqigongming。fanguolai，yongyixieshijideshilishijixiaoguohuigenghaoxuduo 。

 •liru，buyaoshuo“niyizhiliuwoduzijiejuenandian”，zhishishuo“nizaochenliuwoyigerenyingfubobworenweishangxinyujue，nishangxingqiyezuolexiangjindeshier。”

5、要确定他知道你仍是在乎他的。

 jiarunikanqilaiyaoxiangyouyuyixietayagenbuqingchunaerfancuodeshiereryaoxianghetatichufenshouhuojuelie，tahuiganjuezaoshouweixiede。zaijiaotanyikaishideqingkuangxiajiuyaotazhidaoniyiranzaihuta，niyaoxiangjiejuekunnanerbushiduanjuelaiwangliqu。

6、如今你早已把难题讲过去了，你需要对于他的反映作出答复。

 dafudeqingkuangxiayaojinkenenglizhihededang。jiarutaduiyucishiwudongyuzhonghuoshichaoxiaonihuoshiyouyuzishendegerenxingweierzhizeni，neimanixuyaojinkenengjianjiemingledajiadejiaotan，jiangxingshidiaozhuanlaibanantibianweinizijide。suihounihenyoukenengbixuzaiyongxinkaolvyixia，tahenyoukenengbingbushineigenirenweidexinxin、wanshanhuoshiyoushandenanren。