怎样控制自己的情绪化

 womenzongshiyiyizhongqingxuhuahezhuguanhuadeqingxuquduidaiyixieshiqing，dedaoqueshiwomenwufakongzhidechangmian，neimeheliqingxuliaofashishenmehezenyangkongzhizijideqingxu，xiamiangenxiaobianyiqiqukankanba。

一、合理情绪疗法是什么

 heliqingxuzhiliao（rational－emotive therapy，jianchengret）yecheng“lixingqingxuliaofa”，shibangzhuqiuzhuzhejiejueyinbuhelixinnianchanshengdeqingxukunraodeyizhongxintaizhiliaofangfa。shi20shiji50niandaiyouaerbote·ailisi（a．ellis）zaimeiguochuanglide。heliqingxuzhiliaoshirenzhixintaizhiliaozhongdeyizhongliaofa，yintayecaiyongxingweiliaofadeyixiefangfa，gubeichengzhiweiyizhongrenzhi-xingweiliaofa。

二、怎样控制自己的情绪化

 1、xuehuikeguandi、lizhidikandaiwenti,buweifannaoheyouchousuokunrao。jiaruyoulianggerentongyangyaozou100lilu,yigerenyijingzouwan90li,tataiqitoukankanqianmianjusangditanyikouqishuo:“zenmehaiyou10liluyaozoua!”lingyigerenzhizoule10li,tahuitoukankan,yukuaidishuo:“meixiangdaobuzhibujueyizoulezheimeyuan。”beiguanheleguandejieguoshidabuyiyangde。

 2、xuehuizhuanyiqingxu。dangnijuedebuyukuaideqingxuyongshangxintoushi,bufangjiangjinglizhuanyidaoneixieyuzheizhongqingxuwanquanxiangfandefangmian。meigerendouhuiyouyixiezijibijiaoganxingqudeshi,dangqingxubuhaoshi,zuozijiganxingqudeshikeyizhuanyizhuyili,qidaopingjingqingxudezuoyong。suhuashuo:“fengpingerhoulangjing,langjingerhoushuiqing,shuiqingerhouyouyukejian”。xiaojiqingxuyouleyidingdehuanjiehou,zaixixixiangyixiang,xinpingqihedijiejuewenti,wangwanghuishoudaomanyidexiaoguo。

 rudangkumen、fannaoshi,jiubuyaozaixiangyinqikumen、fannaodeshi。keyiqudaqiu、tingyinle、kandianshi、fanyuexiangce、yuedushubaozazhideng,huoqulvshuchengyindexiaolushangsanbu,daofengjingxiuli、jingseyirendegongyuanyouwan。zheiyang,jiukeyibaxiaojiqingxuzhuanyidaojijiqingxushanglai,chongdanyizhiyuwangquefannao,shiqingxuhaoqilai。

 3、xuehuiziwoxuanxie。dangnishoudaobugongpingdaiyu、xinqingshifenbuhaoshi,qianwanbuyaobazheixiebukuaiyayizaixintou,yaoxiangbanfabatafaxiechulai。ruguomenzaixinli,zheizhongxiaojiqingxujiuhuimanmantunshinidexinling,nijiuyoukenengchenglexiaojiqingxudexishengpin。

 cishinikeyizhaogeheshidechangheyiheshidebanfafaxieyitong,yidadaopaijiexiaojiqingxudemude。runikeyikuyichang,yekeyitongguoxierijidefangfa,badaozhibuliangqingxuderenheshihaowubaoliudixiezaizhishang,xiewanhouyisilezhi;haikeyixiangjiaren、pengyouqingsu、sushuoweiquhetongku,fafalaosaodeng。