作为丈夫，如何正确对待妻子的婚外遇

 chuguishiaiqingbinlinsiwangdezuihouyidaofangxian，neimemianduiqiziwaiyu，zuoweizhangfuyinggaizenyanglizhidemianduizheigewenti，jiexialaixiaobianjiangzuoweizhangfu，ruhezhengqueduidaiqizidehunwaiyuheqiziwaiyudeyuanyinhexintaishizenyangni。

一、作为丈夫，如何正确对待妻子的婚外遇

1、控暴力：

 qizichuguiduirenheyigenanrenlaishuodoushichiru，doushiwufarongrendeshiqing，huirenweirangzijiwufataitou，yanzhongshanghailezijidezizun，danshishiqingyijingfashengle，fanuhenzhengchang，heqingxuwufakongzhi，yidingyaokongzhixingwei，qianwanbuyaoyouguojixingwei，hezuochujiabao，shanghaiqiduifangdexingwei，zuizhongyehuishanghaidaoziji，yeshimeiyouneigebiyao，shanghailecengjingdeairen，dangshichuleyikoueqi，guohouxiangxiangyouruhe。

2、冷处理：

 dangzhidaochuguiyichengshishi，zijiyidingyaochumenyiduanshijian，rangzijihaohaolengjingyixia，buyaozaiqitoushangchulizheiyangdewenti，yiqiezaibulengjingqingkuangxiazuochudejuedinghexingweidoushicuowude，zuizhonghuirangzijihouhuide，yanbujianxinbuhuitaifan，daizijimeiyouneimedadenuqishi，zaizhaogeshijianchuli。

3、不张扬：

 suhuashuo“jiachoubukewaiyang”，duiyuqiziwaiyuzheiyangdeshiqing，haishilianggerenzhidaojiuxingle，buyaoweilechuzijixinlideeqizijidoukaishishuogebuting，shenmefaweibo，hefapengyouquan，nongdejiefanglinjushirenjiezhi，shengpabierenbuzhidaozijideqizichuguile，zhangyangshibaofudexingwei，heshibulizhide。

4、不伤害：

 chuguiyijingchengweishishi，chuguideshiqingyongyuanbuyaoqubaoyuanduifang，xiangxiangzijiyeshiyouyidingdecuowude，cengjingfuqishixiangaide，yuanlaizejuheyuanmiezesan，yebuyaozhengtiandezhenglunzhengchao，gongjiduifanghejieluduifangdeduanchudoushibuduide。shuo“hunyinjiushiaiqingdefenmu”，dadishimeiyoulingwudaojingyinghunyindejiqiao，zaihunyinshenghuozhongzaoyulewentimeiyouhenhaodeshudaojiejue。

二、妻子外遇的原因和心态是怎样呢

1、寂寞心态

 youyugongzuoyuanyinhuoshiliangdifenju，yixiezhangfujingchangbuzaiqizishenbian。ruguozheiyangdezhangfuquefajiatingzerengan，buguanxinqizi，bujingchangxiexinbiaodazijidesinianzhiqing，jiuerjiuzhi，biranshifuqizhijiandeganqingquxiangdanmo，shiqizichanshengjimoxintai，gandaomeiyoujingshenyituo。cishi，ruguoyushangheshideyixing，qizijiukenengsangshidiyuyouhuodenengli。

2、怨恨心态

 biruxingshenghuoshifuqishenghuozhongyixiangshifenzhongyaodeneirong。ruguozhangfuyinweixinggongnengzhangai，huoyinweizhuiqiushiyezhongrimangliu，hushilejiyuqiziwenqing，huozhangfuzaiwaimiantanlianjiuse，bunengmanzuqizizhengchangdeshenglixuyao，jiuerjiuzhi，jiuhuishiqizichanshengyuanhenxintai，congerjiyoukeneng“hongxingchuqiang”。

3、报复心态

 youdezhangfuduiqizibuzhong，zaiwaimiantouqinglieyan，yidanshiqingbailu，wangwanghuidaozhibuyukuaidejieju。ruguozuoqizidekaolvqiantuo，yinuzhixiakenengchanshengbaofudexintai，quxunzhaojituo。