中国式相亲，一场以爱之名的绑架

 duiyuzhongguoshixiangqinjiehunxuduowangmingyouhuayaojiang，zheibuzhishiyigezuoxiujiemu，gengshifanyinglezhongguoshijiehundexianzhuang，xiangqinjiehunyoufumubabadouyoukanshou，neimejintianwoxiangshuoyixiazhongguoshidehunlianjiaoyushizenyangde。

一、那些以爱之名实施的绑架

 neixieyiaizhimingshishidebangjia，youyizhonghao，shifumurenweiduinihao，tamenjuedebushiheni，zheiyangdenvhaizihuozhenanhaizidexinggegennibuxiangpei，danshihoumianguigenjiedi，nikenengbulejienidehaizixihuandeshishenme，bingbushisuoyoudehaizidouxihuanguaiguainv，daigedayanjingde。

二、我爱你，所以你要听我的

 dangyigehaizizaipanshanxuebushi，fumumenzongshibanqizuoyoubaohu，shengpatabeiwailishanghai。darenmenweileanquan，weile“ai”haizi，yanzhongfangailehaizitansuoshijiedenuli。bansuizhehaizidechengzhang，fumumenbianbenjialidizheiyangzuo，banghaizijiejuesuoyoudenanti，yi“ai”demingyiqiangpohaizijieshouzijidejueding。

1、nihaixiao，bunengtanlianai。

2、nianjibuxiaole，gankuaijiehunba。

3、tajialitiaojianbucuo，gankuaiquxiangxiangqin。

4、renjiatiaojianneimehao，niyoushenmehaobumanyide？

 shengmingdeyiyizaiyuxuanze，shengsishixuanze，weizijiderenshengzuojuedingyeshi。dangyigerenzizhuweizijideshengmingzuoxuanzeshi，wulunduicuo，tadeshengmingdouyinweizizhuxuanzeerfengfuduocai。zhiyouzuoguoxuanze，yigerencaizhenzhengdehuoguo。

dangfumuyiaizhimingtihaizizuojuedingshi，wuyiyuzaijingshenshangqiasihaizi，jinguanzheiyiqiekanshangquyouduomedeshanyi。

三、我爱你，所以我们不分离

 zhongguoshixiangqinjiehunzhongyouyigepianduan，muqintingwenzijideerzixihuannvfangbaotang，jiaochendishuo：“mamayehuia！”tadeqiantaicishiyongyuansihouerzizaizuoyou，tabingbuxiangrangerzilikaiziji。niyaoyounizijideshenghuo，nideshenghuobuzhishiyouerzieryi，haiyoushiheyuanfanga。

 zuoweifumu，niyaolejienibunengpeitamenyibeizi，dajiageziyouzijideshenghuo，nizheiyangcharubierendejiatingshenghuo，shenzhiganshejiaoyu，womenyaozuoyiweidongshidefumua，gaifangshoujiufangshoude。

yiqilaikanyixiayixiajizhongqingxing，shibushijuedehenshuxi。

1、huilaiba，jialihao，mamahainengzhaoguni。

2、yigerenzaiwaimianduoxinku，huilaixiangqinjiehunliuzaibamashenbianba。

3、niyeweiwomenkaolvkaolv，zaodianshenggehaizi，wogennimajiunengyoushizuole。

 fumuhehaizinianzaiyiqi，tongchangqingkuangxia，doubushihaizilibukaifumu，yinweidulichengzhangshiyuanzishengmingdechongdong。erhenduofumushiyinweizijiwufajieshouyuhaizifenli，youyiaizhiminglaimanzuzijidexuyao。

 zheiyangzuozuiyanzhongdehouguoshi，haizihuiweilemanzufumudexuyao，ertingzhidulichengzhang，“juying”、“mabao”jiushizheiyangyangchengde。haicunzaizhezhongguoshijiehun，zuipadoujiushizheizhongganraole。

四、成年人的选择，与父母无关

 xueyuanshitianshengde，wufagaibian，danzuilixiangdezhuangtaihaishi“dajiazuopengyou”。xianghubaduifangdangchengnianrenshigoutonghejiaoliudejichu。

 zai“zeou”zheijianshishang，jiebujiehun、gensheijiehun、shengbushenghaizi、shengjigehaizi，dougenfumumeiyouguanxi。zinvbuxuyaoweifumushifoukuaileshifoukongxuerfuze。

 kexi，“zhongguoshifumu”hennanjieshouzheitaoluoji。zhongguoshijiehunzheizhongkunbangdeshenghuo，wangwangjiuranghaizishiquzhujian，ehuapoxiguanxi，nimendouyaoyoushidangdekongjiancaidui。

 qianbainianlaiwomendoushizaixianghukunbanglishenghuo，shangyibeibanghaizizhaoduixiang，dengzhetamen“jizijishengsunzi”，haizizhangdalezaixunhuanwangfu，fumushuodedoushiduide，haizishuncongshimeide，shiwei“xiaoshun”。

zaizheigewentishang，liancengjingshuo，yaobahaizidangduliderenkan，buxuyaohaizixiaoshun，zhixuyaotamenaiziji。