沟通技巧:親愛的的 有话好好说

怎么经营婚姻? 为何她啰啰嗦嗦他却不知所云?为何他注重客观事实而她却重视体会?为何她们相互爱着却总矛盾重重?

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congjiejinsanzhongtoudeqingtuli，suiranshuodeyixiezaluan，wodayuelejielebicidefenqisuoshu。

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 zheileizhanzhengyizhixuyandaoxiaohaichushi。youyubicibabamamajianjuhenyuan，rentibutaihaobaituobudiaoshen，kanjiantarenjiabangzhuxiedaihaizidegonggongpopo，anhuajiujinbuzhuquxiaolaogong：“woyaoshiyinweinicaicilegongzuozhong，zheishihouzhibudingjixiaohaiqinglehaoduogeayile。”“woyaoshiyinweinicaiyaozheiyixiaohai，woshenxingduiyubiandeneimesongkuama?” eranhualaogongzheishitongchanghuilengbingbingtuchulaiyiju：“suibianniruhexiang。”

“woyaoshiyinweini.......” “suibianni......”bianchengzheiyijiazhongdejingu。

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 xiangxindabufenren，baohanni，zaiheairenchaojiashiyehuixuanyongzheileifangfa，danquebuzhidao，gengshizheileifangshibianchengzaochengzheiyijiazhongliekaidehuokou。

 ● youyuzheileifangshibiaocengshangkanshangqukekeqiqi，jinengjiejuelingyifangdeyanyubaoli，younengdedaojiazhongpingjing，kezheizhongjinjinzhuguanyiduan，jinguanniyunideairennenggouweichixianghujiandejianju，shubuzhishishishangquejingqishengaokuanbijiaolvbuan。yifangmian，niyeshizheibanqipanheairenchuangjianpengyouguanxi;keshilingyifangmian，dajiayeshizheibandanyouzaodaotongchu，shijianyizhang，zheileiqingkuanghuilingrenwufarenshou，manmanfazhanqushiweiyiqiyongshidedisanzhongbiaodaxingshi。

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 yanyuderouheheaideliliang，chedibeibicibeimianhua，bianweileruili，tongteng，zhichuoneixinzuimingandeguizishou，jiangganqingxuedeposui。

woqieduananhuazaineiliyiranluoluosuosuodemaiyuan，zhejihedanxin。duitashuo：“xiangwanjiu，jiuxiandongdehaohaoshuohua。”

什么是好好说话?

 jiushishuoshuohuashiwubilingwaihuicongming,zheierzhejiehezaiyiqicaijiaohuishuohua。genzhiligaoaibuxianggan，genbuaishuohuaxinggewaixiangbuxianggan，shenzhishigenzhuanyezhishishibushibodayebuxianggan。zhongyaoshiyaodongchayanguanse、yaoyongxinhuirenzhen，yaofangkongzijihaiyaoyuenabieren。

anhuayiranyizhengyanci：“woershiduonianlaijiuzheiyangderena。”

“yincidajialihunlea。”woneiyangdawan，anhuazongsuanyibufanbo。

xiangtingxuduorenshuoguoyiyangdehua：lianrenhefuqijianruhejianghuihuibuchaojia?

danshichaojiahehuishuohuashichedibuyiyangdedingyi。

 qinaidede，renmennengfouhaohaoshuohua?nijiangchudemeiyijuhua，bixumeibawojiejuetaduijianglaichanshengdeanquanyinhuan，danfutachanshengdeyiqiebuliangyingxiang。poxiguanxizenmegoutonghao?