夫妻之间的致命性凶手：信赖心态状态

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 fuqizhijianhuiyounaxiewenti?neiyangdeguanlian，suanshi1+1= 2，3, 4，naizhi5。youxinlaixintaizhuangtaidehunyinjinjin1+1=1.1，liangrendoujuedefeijing，lianggerendenengliangbugou，tanhequdechenggongkaixin?