怎么挽回婚姻的困局呢

　　zenmewanhuihunyindekunjuni，henduojiemeizaihunyinshenghuozhonghuipengdaozheiyangdejiongjing：zhangfuhuranmanmanshuyuan，bujijigoutong、buzaihurichangshenghuo，shenzhixianglurenyiyang。yudaozheiyangdeqingkuang，jiaolvqingxu、biequ、wunaigezhongqingxufuxianzaiyanqian，buzhiruheshihao。jintianzanmenjiuyongtongsuyidongliaoyiliao，danglaogongduizijidelengxuewuqingshi，zenyangjijiyingdui，zuizhonggongxiangerdiangerenjianjie，bangnizhaodaopojuzhidao!

　　第一步：理智观查，寻找“冷淡”深层原因

　　zhangfudelengdanbingbuyidingshituranchuxian，shenhoukenenghuiyouduozhongyuanyin。biejizhechize，changshilixingfenxi：

　　gongzuoyalitaida：tayexuzaizhichangzhongxianrupingjing，baxiaojiqingxudaihuiququebuyuanyiqingtu。

　　aiqingjinrudaopingdanqi：jiehunbanian，jiqingtunqu，xiguanbicizhijianpeiban，hushileqingxuweihubaoyang。

　　jiaoliufangshiyoushenmewenti：niyexuzongshizhengzhi，taxuanzele“lengbaoli”laiyangaifenqi。

　　zishendewenti：liruchenmiwangluoyouxi、shoujishang，huozheyoushenmemafanshi，linshigubudeni。

　　niguofenyilai：jiarufanshidoukaota，zhangciyiwangtakenenghuijuede“beixiaohao”，zaochengzhiyejuandai。

　　第二步：主动进攻，用实际行动扭转局面

　　zhaochuyuanyinhou，biebeidongdengdaitagenggai，zhudongjingongcaikeyiniuzhuanjumian：

　　1. youxiaodegoutong，jiangchuzhenshitiyan：

　　zhaoyigeheshideshijian(birutashifangyalishi)，yong“wojuzi”biaoshu：“jinqiwoganjueniyoudianerlengmo，woxinlitingshangxinde”，erfeichize“nizonglengluowo”。lingtingtadexiangfa，lejietashibushiyudaokunnan，huoshiduiyuhunyinyoushenmeqidai。

　　2. shengchanzhizaoxiaolangman，zhongxindianranqingyi：

　　liruzuoyiduntaxihuanchidewanfan，songjitayifenxiaolipin(tixudao、zhinengshouhuan)，huoshianpaiyiciduantulvyou。yongshijixingdongchuansongguanzhu，huanqitadeqingxuhuifu。

　　3. guanzhutadeyaoqiu，weitashineikongjian：

　　jiarutabixuduju，shiduweitashineikongjian;jiarutakewangdedaorentong，duohaowuyiwentadetouru。birutajiabanjiadianyebuguisu，nenggoupeijianxinxineirong：“xinku，dapaidangrangnirezhe”。

　　4. tigaoziji，zhaodaofengcai：

　　baxinsifenyibufenweiziji：yundongjianshen、xuechaojijineng、hepengyoujuhui。ruguonigengjiazixin、chongmanhuoli，huizaicixiyinzhutadeyanshen，rangtayishidaonidebiyaoxing。

　　5. xunqiuzhuanyexiezhu：ruguowentifanza，lirucunyouzhangqixingfenqihuoqingganchuangshang，bufangkaolvhunyinzixun，zhuanyerenyuannengtigonggengjiayouxiaodejiejuefangan。

　　第三步：坚守底线，不卑微取悦

　　zainuligaibiandeqiantixia，yaoshouzhuzijidedaodedixian：

　　ruguotadelengdanshiyouyuwaiyu、jiatinglengbaolidengyuanzewenti，wubiyansurenzhengoutongjiaoliu，quelinidexintai。

　　buyaoyiweituoxiehequyue，fangzongziji。jiankangdeshenghuohunyinxuyaohuxiangjiushu，jiarutazishizhizhongshierbujian，niyedeweizijizhexiang。

　　个人见解：

　　1. hunyinxuyao“jijiyunying”，biedengdao“chuyubeidonggenggai”

　　xuduofuqishenxian“taaiwojiuxuyaojijitouru”desilu，jielunxianghuzhijiandenghou，haoguangaiqing。hunyinshenghuoxianghuayuan，xuyaoshuangfangjijijiaoguan、chucao。ruguonijijimaichudiyibu，tongchangkeyicujinlingyifanghuifu。

　　2. shandaiziji，shipoyilengdandezuilihaidewuqi

　　zenmewanhuihunyindekunjuni，baxiwangquandoujituoyubierenshenshang，feichangrongyixianrubeidong。ruguonihaohaoaiziji——tigaonengli、weichifengcai、youzhezishiqili，nijiuhuifaxian：tadelengdanshifou，buzaishinixingfukuailedeweiyidianyuankaiguan。zheizhongzixinhezixin，fandaonengrangtazhongxinsikaozishenjiazhi。

　　zhangfudelengdanbingbushiwujiedenandian，zhongdianzaiyuyongzhihuinaixinxunzhaogenbenyuanyin，zhudongdiaozhengxiangchuzhidao。jilao：hunyinjiushilianggerentiaowu，yifangtingzhibuqian，lingyifangnenggoudailingxuanzhuan。dangranqiantishi，niyedeaixiziji，bubeiwei、buqingyijiangjiu。jiarunulihourengmeiyougaijin，yeyaoganyujieshouxianshi，weinidexingfuchengdan。zhongjiu，xingfudehunyin，bixuhuxiangzhenxi;erzhenzhengdekuaile，zuixianlaiyuanyuziwotisheng。