面对冷暴力婚姻，当夫妻开始冷战怎么办，如何正确处理？

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 fuqilengzhangangkaishideqingkuangxia，yexuxianghudouhaihuijixuxintouqidailingyifanghuixianzhiqian，meiriqihuhudezishenouqifashengguanxi，neixinqueqidaimingriyizhangkaiyanjinglingyifangmashanghuizhenzhidelaigenzishenzhiqian，xintouqidaijinrihuishilengbaolidezuihouyitian。jieguo，keguanshishitongchangzishendeqidaibufuhe，zhangfumeiriquanshiyiliansixiang，chedimeiyouyaohuihendemoyang，ershenghuoyitianyitiandeyiwang，yigexingqiyiguo，2gelibaiyeyiguo，meitianrengranmeiyourenhededongjing，zhangfumeirichulaijinqukandaomianlianzhaohuyebuda。zaoyujiatingbaolizenmeban？lengzhankaishidebiaozhishishenme？

 zheigeshihou，meiriguodeyulaiyufahuodexifumashanghuiziwofansi：jiushiwolengbaolidebuzuwanquanma？woxiangbubiliandamenkoudousuoshang，shitalianjiadoubukeyihui？youyuzishenduilingyifangdezhanqingbuzhengquegusuan，yincilaidaozheiyibuyaohuiguotoudounan，yibianqingmianzhinengzaicichixugenglengdelengbaoli。

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一、让小孩子做和事佬

 xiaohaizinenggoushifensuibiandehuanjiefuqijianjiaolvbuandefenwei。xifuzishenshuobuchulaidehua，nenggourangxiaohaiziquchuandi，haikeyiyongchongzhexiaohaizishuoshijishangqueshichongzhezhangfushuodefangshi，neiyangninengshengdiaozhijieshuochurukoudenankan。rangxiaohaiziqujiaobabayongcan，huozherangxiaohaiziquanchuandizishenzaoyibunaopiqidexinxi，neiyangdounenggoujianjiexinghuanjiefuqizhijiandeduilimianxintai。

 keshi，jiarunidehaizibushinizhangfuqinshengfumudexiaohaizi，nijiaonidexiaohaiziqudaihuajihoubatingdehua，tongchanghuizuodaofanshijixiaoguo，youyunidexiaohaiziyexushifenyuanyijianniyimiangenzhangfuzhengchaoshihe，daihuadeqingkuangxiayouyijiayoutiancu，guyibadajiafufudefenweinongdegengjiang。

二、用行動来表达要想合好的意向

 nijiaruqingmianbaibuxialai，sidoushuobuchukoudehua，neimayongxingdonglaibiaomingnideqingyiyeshiyigezhaobangqihao。xuangezhangfugudingbudonghuizaoxiabanledeshenghuo，zhuanyezhutazuixihuanchidecaidengtahuijia，huozheyiwangyaohewangchangyiyangdetitaxichuangdan，bayifuzheqilaifangdaoxingmudediqushitajiandaonidebianhua。

 zheileimomodixingdongtidaiyiqiedexingweizhenduineileixingzibingbushihenjue，daozizuidoufuxindezhangfushifenyouyong。yaoshixifuyouyidiantaojinhudexingdong，tamashangmashanghuileyujieshou，yehuijiazhuangzhiqianyiqiedoumeichanshengguoyiyanggennikankanertan，zhongxiujiuhao。

 keshi，yixienanrentiancunwangxiang，jibianxifuzishenxiantishiyaoxiangwanjiu，tayehuiaimianzishuaguzhi，zhenduixifudesuozuodexingweidoudangzuoshimeikanjian。jiaruxifuyongxingdongbiaodayaoxianghehaodeqingkuangxia，laogongzheigeshihoumeiyouhaohaodiyunyongjiyuzhaoloutixiadehua，neimazheizongshirangxifugengweifahuo，huigengxiangzuzhouzhangfu。

三、找个盆友当和事佬

 woguodenvxingzaifuqizhengchaodeqingkuangxiazuiaizhaogepengyouhuozheqinrenlaidangheshilao，ganjuenanshenghaomianzi，dangzhonglejiedeqinrenhuopenyouyanqianjueduihaipajiaozongfabingshuawulai，yejueduibuhuixianchangjujuebierendequandao。

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四、咬着牙致歉

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 xuduo xifushuo，weihemeiyicizhengchaolengbaolibixuyouwohuidixiatouzhiqian，weihezhangfuzishenbuxianzhiqianni？meiyicibixuwohuizhiqian，woduizheileihunhoushenghuoyejuedetingleia！meiyoucuo，jiarudajiafuqizhengchaomeiyicilengbaolibixuyouniquxianrencuodehua，niyidinghuijuedeshifenpibei，ganjueneiyangdehunyinshenghuoguoqilaisuoranwuwei。danshi，dangnidelaogonggexinghuajiushishuoneimesixiangdehua，nizijibuweiquqiuquannandaoshuoyeyaozhaogedisanzhetongyidiaojiema？

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 xuduo nvxingdoushixiang：liquzheileixiaodujichangdenansheng，xiayigenanshengjueduihuigenghao，jueduibuyunxuyoulengbaolideshierchanshengzainaonuzhongdenvxingyexunenggouneiyangkailangdeqidai，keshishijishangfuqijiandelengbaolijueduibingbushizhinengzhangfuyigerengexinghuabutaihao，huilengbaolidexifuzaixingweimoshixintaibiaoshushangyeyidingyeshibijiaoyanzhongdequexian。

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 fuqilengzhanduiqingganmeiyoufanmiangongxiao，zhinengjiakuaihuihuaifufudehemuguanlian。dangnihenxintengnidehunhoushenghuo，dangnibuyuanrangdajiadefuqiganqinglaidaowujiudechengdu，neimaqianwanbuyaolengbaoli。dangfuqizhengchao，ruguoniganjuenijideshuobuchulaihualaideqingkuangxia，linshitaobinenggou，keshibiebataobideshijiantuozhang。

 pingjingxialaideqingkuangxia，jiuxuyaozuoweimeishieryibanzaiciyingduilingyifang。ouqinenggouyishi，bukeyishi。lengbaolihunyindechulifangfayounaxie？ruguonijuedelingyifangyoubijiaoyanzhongdebuzhengque，jinitunbushangneiyikouqi，neimajiuzhaoyigeshidudejihui，keguandegenlingyifanghaohaoditanzheiyijininanshoudenanti。naopiqilengbaoli，yongzhangqimeihualaichufalingyifangbingbukeyihelidechulirennanti，zhiyouranglingyifangyinergengjiang，guanliangengebian。xiayicizhengchao，haijideyaozuoyigeyoutonghuashundenvxing，qianwanbiegennanshengchengyishizhiqi，bubixiaoburenxinerluandiaodamou。fuqilengzhan，queshibuzhi！