面对家庭冷暴力，应该如何解脱出来

 shenmeshijiabao？yudaojiatingbaolizenmeban？shuobaile“jiatinglengbaoli”，jiushizhifufubicifashengzhengzhishi，xintailengdan、buwenbuwenlingyifangdengyiqiefeizhengguidebaolidegerenxingwei，dadadedisunhailefuqijiandeqinggan，yeshifuqixingshenghuobuxingfudeguanjianyuangu。neima，yaoruhejiejuezheijushi？yinweijiatinglengbaolilihunzenmeban？

什么叫家庭冷暴力？

 shenmeshijiabao？yudaojiatingbaolizenmeban？shuobaile“jiatinglengbaoli”，jiushizhifufubicifashengzhengzhishi，xintailengdan、buwenbuwenlingyifang，yinweijiatinglengbaolilihunzenmeban？jiangyuyangoutongjiaoliujiangzhizuishaochengdu，zhongzhihuofuyanleshifuqishenghuo，lanyuzuoyiqiejiawuhuogongzuozhongdengfeizhengguidebaoliqingxiang。

 jiatinglengbaolishishishangshiyizhongjingshenshizhilingnve。fufubiciquanshijiatinglengbaolihoudeshouhairen，tongguiyujin。tongchanghaihuijixuwuyijiandirangjiatinglengbaolimanyanzhijialidexiaohaizi，duixiayidaidesunhaiyeshiqianzaixingde、errumurande，sunhaizhidashimeifayugude。

 zheileibaoliyibanzhuyaobiaoxianzaifuqijianfenqisuibusuzhuwuli，danquegenjuanshizhedeweixie、yuyandejingong，zaizhengzhishanghexingcengmiankaizhancaozong。xianghuyouxinyongjingshenzhemolaicanhailingyifang，shihunyinshenghuochuzaiyizhongzhangqixingdeyichangqingkuang。

 zheileijingshenshizhishangdecuicanhecanhai，zaimouzhongyiyishangbiroushendesunhaigengkongbudeduo。chuzaijiatinglengbaolizhongderenduoyoubiequgan、beikongzhigan，qingganyuelaiyueminganyixingfen，xintaizhuangtaishangjingchangchuzaigudanqingkuang。

怎么会造成家庭冷暴力？

yibaneryan，zheileiqingkuangshiyouliangxingbicixianghudaozhide，yejiushioudafangheshoubaofangchangyouyiwu。

最先人们说说受暴方。

 heoudafangduibi，dabufenshoubaofangdougengweiqidaiyouzheanquanxingdehunyinguanxi，neiyangdeguanlianrangtamenganshoudaoyigepingwendeshineikongjian；zaizheigeshineikongjiannei，renmenhuiganshoudaozishenshibeilingyifangjieshou，erqiezailingyifangxinlishishifenguanjiande，ganshoudaowoshinenggou caokongguanliande。

 zheileiyaoqiujiarumeibeikaolv，caozongganmashanghuichuxianyixienanti，nijianghuiganjue：wowubidezuodianshenmecaisuanshiguanjiande，huoshiwodeguanjianshiyoubiaozhunde，huoshiwoganshenmequanshibuzhongyao。

 xuduo rendaoguishuganbukeyihuodekaolvdezhuangkuangxia，caozonghesuoyaomashanghuigengmingxian。yinweijiatinglengbaolilihunzenmeban？lirushikewenlingyifangzaiganma，shiduofenzhongshouzoudaohuiyingjiuyizhensuohunlianhuaihu，fanyuelingyifangshoujishang，biwenlingyifangzaihesheiyiqichifan。lingyifangdexintaizhuangtaijiexianhuodetiaozhan，dangranshidikangdegengweibijiaoyanzhong，zhujianyongjianmodexintaidafu，yejiushixuanyongyizhongxiaochendikangdefangfa，jinguanxiaochen，zhishaobibuduandebiaoshuneihaoshaodeduo。

jiexiaqu，renmenshuoshuojiatinglengbaolideoudafang，yejiushibudafudeyifang。

“jiatinglengbaoli”jiushuomingtabuainilema？yebujinran。

 ronggeyirenleiyuhuanjinghudongjiaoliufangshidebuyiyang，jiangrenfenchengwaiqingxingheneiqingxinglianglei。shenmeshijiabao？yudaojiatingbaolizenmeban？waiqingxingrengetezhigengfeichangrongyiyuwaibushijiehexiexiangchu，neiqingxingrengetezhizhineizaizishentihuiweiguanjian，erjiatinglengbaolioudafangyoukenengshineiqingxingdeqingganbiaodaxiguanxing，bushanyujiangzishendeganqingyuwaijiechuangjianlianjie。huanjuhuashuo，buyidingshitabuyuandafuni，youkenengshitaburongyidafu——zenmejiangyebudui，guoduanbuduoshuole。

也是可能是初期家庭关系的工作经验让TA造成一种意识：

woshibuzhishenaide，wodedaodeaiqingshiyoubiaozhunde。

 yinerbukeyizaiganqingshangzijintouruzishen。shijishangxuduo qingkuangxiayixienanshibiaodayaoxiangzaodianhuilaipeixifu，keshiyouyuzishenbushanyubiaoda，meiyicitizaohuijiayizhigaozhixifu“jinriyouyigehuiwanbizaolewoyetizaohuijiale。”zheiyangyilai，bicijiediyehuitisheng。

给老婆的一些小提议

 diyi，fufubicibukenjianghua，nenggou xuanyongbiedefangfagoutongjiaoliu，lirufaleduanxiaoxi、xiefengdianziyoujian。jiarubiaozhunbuyunxujiuxiezaizhishang，baxiangyulingyifangshuodehuaxiexialai。

 dier，jiarujialiyouxiaohai，nenggou congxiaohaidexuexipeixun、gongzuozhong、yishizhuxingdengcengmiandehuatitaolunzhujiandizaochenggoutongjiaoliu，zuodaogoutongjiaoliudetongchang。yaoshimeiyouxiaohai，nenggou kaolvdaojikoushijiatishengyigexinzuyuan。

 disan，jiaruyounaxielianggerendoubukentidehuatitaolun，nenggou xianlinshibuyongshuo。xianshuoyixiewuguantongyangdenanti，suihouzhujiandizhenxinchengyikaizhangoutongjiaoliu。

 disi，laopozailaogongdeyanlishizhongshiruoxiao，jibiannihaiyougongzuonengli，laogongyeshibaohunideniantou。qushuncongta，meiriguidingtabaonishifenzhong，yaoshijianchibuxie，shijianzhangleliangrendeqingganhuiduoyouyousuogaishan。

 diwu，bajianeilengsexidedengguangxiaoguohuanweinuansexide，zailaogonghuijialeqianjiangdengguangxiaoguodiaoan。huijialehoutahuiganjueshifenwennuan。

zuixianshenming，niaojiebingbushizhuanjia，jinjin fanfusuzi，fanfusuzishuodianpingchangrendeshi!

 haijideyouyigezhuanjiahuanshizhuanjiaxuezhe，shuoguoyiduifuqiyishengzhonghuichanshengshushicishadiaolingyifang，shubaiciliyidezhenshixiangfa。xianglaizheiyeshihunyinshenghuowenkongquanweizhuanjiaqianyimohuarangwomenchengshouhunyinbushundeyiweizuinongdelaomujitang！

 hunyinshenghuodedixianshishenme？henduorenbaneitiaolianghuafenxihuobiaoqianhuajiejuele：hunhouchugui？meifagoutongjiaoliu？gexinghuahebulai？yishichabie？buguannayitiao，yiciyicidejilei，zuizhongninengfajue，liangrenchaozhechaozhejiubuhuiaile！

hunyinshenghuoduiyunanrenshishenme？huoxuyaodengnanshengeryan！

 hunyinshenghuoduiyunvrenshishenme？shixihuan。dixianshishenme？suoyourendehuidajianghuibuyiyang，zuishaoyijianshieryanyiranshixihuan！wodelaobanbiwoda8sui，tajiushiwogaoxiaoqingkuangxiadechuliannvyou、diyigenanyou，jiushiwowushudiyideshiyongzhe。

 shinianguodexunsu，womenjiehunle、chanzi，zaidadoushipinboanju。zaibierenlaikanrenmenxingfukuaileerenai，cengjingdewoneibanchizhiyibiqueshiganqingyizhenqingweichidehunyinshenghuo，yecengxianggeshengdoushiyiyangweirenmennianjibingbushinantideganqingzixinmanman！danshi，zheisinianlaiwomendehunyinchuxianlexuduo nanti，woxianglehenduozhongduoyanghuida，wojingchangziwofansi，liangrenzaiyiqijiaowangweihebingbushizhengchaojiushishuoqianrang。

 jiuzaijinye，woxinrudaogedejuewu，zheijinianniwozhijianchanshengdezhuanbian，wopobudeyirenkeyijianshi：neibianshihengzaiwomenlianggezhongjiandegehehejiedi。chukainianjiyinfa，yeyougongzuonenglifazhandechabieyinfa！

 wopiqibaozao，xiaichao！gangkaishishi，ganjuetaxingzibiwozhen，taoyanchao！womingbaiwoxinqigao，zhihouwofaxianletaxinfuyehengao！zheijiushiwomenzhongjiannantixianxiang。shinianlai，yaoshizhengchaohuozhezhengchao，wojiangquanbudenanti、biequhebumanyidouchaochuqu，rutongyizhifahuodemushizi。tacongbuchao，yiyanbufameiyouxiawen，danzheileilengdanshijishangyouyizhongjiaoqiangdepohuailinengliang，biderenganhuoyuelaiyueda。

 zhihou，zaiyixiezhengzhizhizhong，tazaizheileiailibuliliangfangnixintaideqingkuangxiahaihuijixuduochuquyixiechixiaohuoshikanshoujiwanyouxidenggerenxingwei，youyijinijuededaobiemiaoshi，nikeyidudaotazaiyongquanbuneixinquanqiuzaiyunidikang。keshiwo，meiyicidouhuizaodaozheileikongbudejiatinglengbaoli，zheihe8suizhichadeliranghekuanrongmeiyouyiqiedeguanlian。

 woderennaihenuli，zaizheileijiatinglengbaolideyanlidajixia，yicicidezaizhengzhizhongbaofa。wolaihunyinshenghuosuozuodeyuwozaicixiangweihunyinshenghuoxianggandeqinfenhegenggai，yedouhuitadejiatinglengbaolihelengdanzhongshiqushijiyiyiqudongli，yingduizheizhongnanti，talengdanzongrongdegerenxingweirutongtadejiatinglengbaoliyiyanghuisenandonghanlengcigu。

应对家中的家庭冷暴力，怎么可以摆脱出去？

讲解家庭冷暴力

 zaitanzenyangbaituojiatinglengbaoliyiqian，wojuedeyingdangxianlejiexia，dajiadejiatinglengbaoli，shiyuanhechansheng、yongyihezai？youyu，xingfukuailedeguanlian，youyiyangdexingfukuaile，beijudeguanlian，youbuyiyangdebeiju。

 jiazhonglengbaoli，bingzhijiazhongdefuqiganqinglengbaoli（yeshijiazhongzhongdeqinzigoutonglengbaoli、poxizhijianlengbaoli，zheilipaichu。yinbuzhidaotizhuzhideshishenmeguanliandelengbaoli）。ermeiyiduifuqilengzhandechanshengdeyuangu、shijian、shuipingdengshibuyiyangde，zheiertanerdianpubiandejiatinglengbaoli，nineng“budongzhuangdong”，haikeyicanzhaozuoziworenshi。

1、移位的人物角色，引发移位的互动交流方式。

 fuqiganqingzhongdeyifang，daduoshushinanxing，congyikaishijiushishuohenkeguan、neixiangxing、budangbiaoshu、danduguannianqiang，erlingyifang，daduoshushinvshi，yikaishijiushishuohenlixing、xinggewaixiangersuihe、yilaiganqiang、bianjieyishiruo，deng。neimazaiguanlianderenwujiaoseshang，henhaoxiangyidui：lizhidehuangniu--kailangdelingyang，huozheyidui：quanweixingdebabamama--wufakongzhidexiaohaizi。

 yiban zaiguanliandeqianqi，quanshijiaoweirongqia、xingfukuaile、kuanrongde，danzhongjiuhuiyouyurenwujiaose，huoxingqinghuojiazhiguannianchajuerchuxianliefeng。zhengchaodajiadouou，huojiatinglengbaoli，buguoshiliefengdefanyingfangfabale。

2、彼此心愿挫败后，以冷暴致冷暴。

 maodundegangkaishi，yiban yinyifangweilejielingyifangdezuoyong，huoweikaolvlingyifangdexinyuan，zhangjiudexinyuancuobai，zaochengmaodunshengji，jingchangdezhengchaohuodajiadouou，wanshuataileile，zhuanhuanchenglengbaoli。biciyaoshidaizhuyuanhen、xintaidegoutongjiaoliu，doujiangshiyijiadeshixiaogoutongjiaoliu。

 maodunruoyijiatinglengbaolicunyou，daibiaoguanlianshidirenxianghuyicunqingkuang，jizaiyigetielonglihenzhelingyifang，bukehuoqueyebabushang。direnguanlianli，biciquanshishouhairen，yeshisunhailingyifangdecanhaizhe。

 jiatinglengbaolibuduancunyou，qiyuandonglishigegefangmian，danzuiguanjiandeshitaneiwuxingzhongdeyuanhen，henshenhenleng。duibiyuyanbaolidezhengchao，lengbaolibaolijuyougongjixing。youyuchao，zuishaoxuanxieleyuanhen，youyishishuangkuai，erlengbaolishijiangyuanhenbiezhu，zhuangdemanbuzaihu，danrentijiuruliangshuiqinzhe、xinruobingkuaierdongzhe，zheibudanshiganqingzaoshoufanghu，liannaonudedapentidoubukeyigaochu，nanaoyiban。

 qici，jiatinglengbaolideqiangdaqujueyu，biciyinshoushangdexin、yinmingandeqingmian，doushifenkendingdedenghouzhelingyifangrangbu！rangbubaohanrenrang、taojinhu、zhiqianzheixie，zongeryanzhi，denghouzheneiyaobunengqideqidai：bangwowennuan。neiyangdedenghou，shijishanghenkongbu。

 rushangpouxiqilai，ruowen，zenmekeyixiaochujiatinglengbaoli？shifeichangjiandan，yeburongyi。jianyiqujueyu，yifangkeyijiandingbuyidejianchibuxiejiyulingyifangwennuan，jiukeyi。ziran，zuixianshifufubuyinjiatinglengbaolierliyideqiantitiaojianxia，nikeyijijibaituolengbaoliguanliandefumianxinxixunhuanxitong。

 cizhi，yaozhizheyigeniantou：jianchibuxiebuzhuizeyiwangdaodishisheicanhaizhe、sheifushangdechicunduoshao，jianchibuxiedijilingyifangrouhexintaiyuganqing。shexiang，lingyifanghaowuyiwenbingbushishikuaihuomucai，haowuyiwennengganshoudaoaide。shuoburongyishiqujueyu，yifangxianyaoxuehuifangxiayuanhen，zishenmeibanfa，yeyaojiandingbuyidejianchibuxiejiyulingyifangwennuandeai，gengnan。danruobaozhengdiyibu：fangxialehen，yejiubaozhenglexiaochujiatinglengbaoli。

掌握大量

 fuqijianyoushihouchanshengmaodunshishifenyiqiezhengchangdeyijianshi，keshixuduorenjianghuichaojianaoguo，xunsujiuhehaola，kexuduorenquehenzhangqibuchaobunao，jiushishuoxianghubulicai，caiyonglengbaoli，yincijiuyongyoufuqijiandelengbaolihejiatinglengbaoli。lengbaolihejiatinglengbaolishilveweiyoudianerchabiede，lengbaoliyaoruoyujiatinglengbaolidesunhai，lengbaolijianghuijinjin linshide，erjiatinglengbaolishiyoumudidezhangjiudegerenxingwei。

 fufuhuoqinglvzhongjiandejiatinglengbaoli，ziranshiguoduogerenxingwei，duizishendesunhaishifenda，nenggou shuochengyouquexiandehunyinshenghuo，youshihoudaozhideweihaishiwufawanhuide。hunyinshibaideyanzhongweihai。yinci，buyaoshuoduixinxueguanbijiaomingan，huanjuhuashuo，sheihuidaozhitingdadesunhai。yaodiaojiejiatinglengbaolideguanjian，jiuxuyaocongxialieerdianxiashou。

一是积极主动思考难题，防止家庭冷暴力。

 jiarunvrenhenanrenpengdaonanti，tamendouxiaijiatinglengbaoli。jiarutamenburenzhengongzuo，tamenzongshijiezhushijianlaigaibianxianzhuangdeyingxiangli。lijingjiaozhangyiduanshijian，nantizongsuanjiejuele。zhihou，tamenhaihuijixuzaicifashengyiyangdebuzhengque，haihuijixuzaidufashaoganmao。

 yiner，renmenbixulijisikaonanti，zhaodaotamenenaideyuangu，jiqizenyangfangzhihebaituozheizhongyuangu，shitamenyibubutaihao，shitamenpingjingxialai。xiangfangshefagenggaibingwanbizheileijushi。youshihou，zheikenengshixingqingdeyuangu。youshihou，zheihuoxushifenqibuqingchuruhejiejuedeyuangu。zhinengduizhengzhiliao，caikeyihelidifangzhi。

二是多沟通交流，尽可能用多种多样方法表述自身，让另一方了解自身的心里。

 danglaogonghelaopochuzaimaodunlishi，henduorenjuedejiaonandeshiyulengkuwuqingdebaoligoutong，youyusheibuyuanlejiesheihenaergoutongjiaoliu？ruguoyougoutongjiaoliu，shifouhuiyoulengyoubaoli？henduorenduigoutongjiaoliuhuopianjideguannianyouwuhui。tamenjuedezhinenglijidehuihuabeichengzuogoutongjiaoliu，erzhinengbiedededafuchengweigoutongjiaoliu。

 shijishang，buyidingnenggou jiaotan，weituoren，nenggou genjuhulianwangfasongduanxin，ninenggenjugezhonggeyangfangfaxinxichuandi，ruguonibiaoshuzishen，xiangyixiangnizijideqingkuang，gaozhilingyifangjiukeyile，wuluntashibushidafunidexinxineirong，tongdianhuagoutongjiaoliu。tashihelijiangdiwuhui、fangzhifenqideguanjianfangshi。zheiyeshizuiyouxiaodefangfa，shizhegezhonggeyanggoutongjiaoliu，ranglingyifangrenshizijihelejietamendexin。

 yinci，ruguonizaodaodaoyanhandebaolishi，buyaodanxin，xiangyixiangniyaoxiangdejieguo。biezheji，yebubixinhan。yishiquanmiantigao。tashibukeyichulide，rujinsheqihaisuanbushangwan。jiaruqinfennenggou xiubu，pingjingxialaifanyingwenti，huranguangliang，bingbushigengqiangma？yiner，jiaruwomenyaodiaozhengshouhanhebaolisunhaidexin，jiuwubijienafuqijiandefenqi。

 rujinrichangshenghuoyouhenduojiazhongcunyoujiatinglengbaolidezhuangkuang。jinguanfashengledandabufendouburongyigaozhitaren，jinjin zishentihuibale。youyujiatinglengbaoliduijiazhongdeshanghaitingda，tabudanduifufubicidaozhisunhai，naizhiduixiaohai、shehuifazhandenggecengmianchangyoutingdaxiaochendeweihai。hunyinshenghuochuxiannantizaochengliefeng。

 neimayebuyingdangcaiyongjiatinglengbaolidejiqiao，buduanfazhanhunyinshenghuofenqi。hunyinshenghuozhongdejiatinglengbaolilingrenwufarenshou。neimadangnizaodaolehunyinlengbaoli，gairuhechulini？xiabianjiuduinishuohaoduogejiejuejiatinglengbaolidefangshi ，xiezhuniwanhuihunyin！

 hunhoushenghuojiuzaisuonanmianyaoyouzhengzhideqingkuangxia，danlengbaolibukeyichanshengxiguanxinghuoshishiguanxingli，yidanchanshengxiguanxinghuoshiguanxinglimashanghuibianweijiatinglengbaoli，neimoyanghuiqingkuangyanzhong。yincipingchangyaoliuyi，zhengchaoyihoububiyizhilengbaoli，neishihouzhengchaoneishihoujiejuekunnanhuibijiaohao，lijichuliyekeyijiazhongdajiafufudeqinggan。

 jiaruzheiyilengbaolishilingyifangyizhichangyongdejiqiao，lingyifangyaoshiyipengdaoyunizhengchaohuoshiyipengdaonantijiudianjizheyaolengbaoli，bingqiehenzhangqiyebulini，neimeniyidingyaohetahaohaoditanyitan。zaiwangbianlaikan，jiarutazhenxinainiduiniyouganjuedehua，weishenmehuibiezhuneimelaitianbulini，youhuoshiruhehenxinjiniyicicibeilengbaolini，tanbulongneimahuanshitiyisheqiba。

 jiarulengbaolihenzhangqi，jiuhezhaopianshangneiban，neimadajiapingchangdegoutongjiaoliuyidingbukeyishao，henduorenshimobukaiqingmian，jiushiyaofenchunishuwoyingdejushi，keshitongchangdaozuizhongshitongguiyujin。ninengzailengbaoliqineijilingyifangfaxinxi、xiedianziyoujianhuoshishibiededelianxifangshi，yaoshidajiabicixintaizhuangtaichangyoulingyifangdehuahuixunsuhehaodee。

 yidanyoujiatinglengbaolichuxian，zainidejingshenshizhishanghaowuyiwenyeyouwaishang。zainiderichangshenghuo，yidingyaoduoduodeguanzhulingyifang，shijishangyaoshizaiqizhongyigerengaoqingchu，lingyigerenyebuhuishuoguzhezishenbuguanzhulingyifangde。yinweijiatinglengbaolilihunzenmeban？yishizhuxingdeguanjiandianshiyaogengweiguanzhulingyifang，buxiangchifan，haohaodizhufan;youhuoshishiduozuolingyifangxihuandecai，duojilingyifanghuaxuewuzhishangdeguanzhu。