自律首先要做到哪三点的人，内心都是非常强大的

 zilvdehaochurichangshenghuodajiameiyigerendoushifenmingan，qiangjingzhibuguohoutianxingxuedede，,zilvderen,meirenyushengjulaibianshiqiangjingde，suoyourenyebuchuwai。youxierenkanqilaibiaomianqiangjing，danxinliqueruanruo，zheijiaowaiqiangzhonggan，eryouxierenbiaomianshierbujian，zilvshouxianyaozuodaonasandiankeshixinliquewenrutaishan，zheicaisuanshixinlizhenshideqiangjing。

 yaoxiangbaozhengxinlizhenshideqiangjingbingbushiyijianfeichangrongyideshier，youyuzheiyiqiedoubixuhoutianxingziwofansi，sisuo，caikeyibaozhengde，buranyagenmeiyouhenyoukenengzuodedao。yiqieniyaoxiangdedaoeryouwufadedaodedoubixuzishenjiabeinuli，zuoneixinqiangdaderenderendoubuchuwai，erzheiyiqiedenulichaoguonidexiangxiang。

 neixinqiangdaderenderenbingbingbushiyigegudingbudongdeyangzi，jiurutongshuoyigefuyouderenyiyang，ninengshuomayunbabacaijiaofuyou，haikeyishuoyigepenyoujiaoweifuyou。suoyishuozenyangyuelaiyueneixinqiangdaderen，youxierenyouzishendekanfa，keshijiarukeyibaozhengxialiesandian，neimakendingshiyigeneixinqiangdaderenderen。

第一点，日常生活十分自我约束

 zilvshouxianyaozuodaonasandianchenggongderenshifenkongbu，tamenyizhikeyijinxingpingchangrenjinxingbushangdeshier，ziwoyueshubingbushiyibandeshenghuoguilv，zhishiyizhongjiandingbuyi，jiarujinjinguilvxingdehua，neimayiqiejiuyuelaiyuefeichangrongyile，shunlichengzhangbingbingbushirichangshenghuodechangtaihua。ziwoyueshunenggoujinidexinliyuelaiyueshifenquantouming，lejiezishendexinwangnayigefangweizou，buhuimituxinli。

 richangshenghuochenggongderenmeiyouduoshaorennenggousuiyigenggaita，youyutadexinlilejiezishenyaobianweishenmeyangderen，jiaruniyongyuanbuzhidaozishenyaoxiangnaxie，haibuzhidaoxingdong，neimayidingshimangrande。chenggongderenshifenjiandingbuyi，yinci xinliyehenqiangjing，buganxiangxinderennenggouchangshiwenyiwenshenpangchenggongderen。

第二点，不以物喜不以己悲

 zilvdehaochurenshijiandeyiqieyizhitianmanzhekaixinheyoulv，yigerendeyishengquegebiyouyou，tashikeguanshishi，meirennenggougenggaide。laorenmenyizhidaogaoxiaohaikeyikaixinyisheng，keshichengrendoulejie，zheijinjinyigeqiyeyuanjing，shijishangrendeyishengyoulvzongbikuaileduo，yinci kaixincaikanqilainannengkegui。

 zilvderen,yinerzuoyigebuyiwuxi，buyijibeideren，youzheyikelianghaodexintaibianshishifennannengkeguideshier，zheideduomedejianqiangdexina!yihuningjingdeshuirengjinlaiyikuaidashitou，hainengbaozhengbufanjingtaohailang，zheijibenshangshibukenengdeshiqing，danshineixinqiangdaderenderenquenengbaozheng。zhibuguoshizaixianshishenghuozhongzhiyoujiandaoxiangduixingdebuyiwuxi，buyijibei，jianbushangkendingdezheiyangderen。

第三点，搞清楚存亡的实际意义

 shuodaozheiyidianshanghenyoukenenghuiyouxierenganjuetashisengrenzuodeshier，bingqieshizaiyingpianshangcaikeyijiandaode，shenbianderenyoujigerennengyouneiyangdexingwuni?keshidajiabuqingchubingbuyiweizhejiumeiyou，jinjintamenbuyongshuoeryi。

 cunwangyaokangaoqingchuderen，xinliyoumeiyoushenmeyuanyinbuqiangjing?yaoshimeiyouzuoyiqiegouqiezhishi，jiumeiyoushashishitadanyoude，youxierenshuoshenzhengbuhaipashenyingxie，shuodejiushizheigedadaoli。donglecunwangjiudongleshijian，lejiezishengaizuoshenme，buyinggaizuoshenme，jinguannenggouzuodeshifenduo，keshizuishaolejieshenmeshishibuyinggaizuode。

 zilvderen,neixinqiangdaderenyidingyeyoubiededejieding，yidingyoushuyunizishendejieding，erzheisandianjibianbushinide，haiyaochangshinonggaoqingchu，yidinghuizaiqitacengmianrangnixiezhu。