毁掉婚姻的不是“第三者”，耗着不离婚的结果是什么？

 haozhebulihundejieguoshishenme？jinwoshoudaoleyixielaiyuanyuyueduzhedesiliao，wofaxianlexuduoganqingxiufubuchenggongdexiaohuobanmen，tongchangyouyigeyitongdeluojisiwei：shouhaizhexinli。neima，laogongyouwaiyulihuncaichanzenmefen？jinriwojiugendahuoerliaoyiliao“zulanganqingxiufudejiaoda cuowuguannian”——shouhaizhexinli。

weihenidetourutadoukanbudao?

wodexuduoxueshengsiliaoshiyizhineiyangshuo：

 “jiaoshi，xianzaiwoyizhizaigaibianxianzhuang，wozhujianjianfeishoushen，yexuezhezhufan，zhixutayaoxiangdewodouqinfenquzuo，weihetahuanshijueqingxuanzelikaini?”

 huoshi：“jiaoshi，woqiutaliuyou，wohenaita，bunengmeiyouta，zaiwoxinzhongtabibabamamadouguanjian，weihehuanshiyijianshineimawuqing?”......

 tamendezilixingjianmimanzhewukenaihehetongchu，gengtuxianzhexinlidebiequyubuganxin。zheizhongtongchudelijilaiyuanyushi：lingyifangdepaoxia。

 keshi，zaiwomenpiekaizhuguanxingyanse，qutanxun“fenshou”“huijuefuhexing”shenhoudeyagenluojixing，dajiahuifajue：zaijuedabufenqingganzhong，qinggandeliekaitongchangshixuduoxiaowentideleijisuozaocheng deyigejieguo。

 laogongyouwaiyulihuncaichanzenmefen？zaiwomendeguannianguzhiyusuoqinfentourude“zhuyaobiaoxian”，eryouhushile“tichufenshou”“fuhexingbuchenggong”zheizhongjieguoshenhoudezhenshinantishi，zheileibukeyifaxianwenti，jiejuekunnan，jinyoubiequtongchudexinlizhuangtai，dajiachengzuoshouhaizhexinli。

 qiahaoshizheilei“shouhaizhexinli”，rangxuduonvhaihulvelemeiyigerenduiganqingdezhenshixuqiu，jinguanzaoyihenqinfendeweilingyifangtouru，quewufadedaolingyifangderentongheyijianfankui。

womenkeyizuoyigetongsuhuadexingrong：bianshidanglingyifangbixushui，dannifeijinxinjideweitazhaolailatusimianbao。

bukeyiqiadanglejielingyifangdexuqiu，neimadaozuizhongdadongdejinjinzishen。

“shouhairenluojisiwei”bazhangfubazerentuixiedegengyuanle

wodexueshengqingningmeng，bianshidianxingxingdeshouhaizhexinlianli。

 tasanshisui，shihunnianling5nian，gongzuowending，kanqilailingrenyanxiandetawanwanxiangbudaozhangfujingranyongyouhunwailian，naizhihaixiangtamingquetichuleliyi。

 zaitagangzhaodaowokaizhanzixundeqingkuangxia，wobangwodediyiyinxiangbianshitade“aimaiyuan”，tachixusukuzishenweilegenghaodiwanhuihunyinzuochuqinfen：

duizishenbushedekeshiduizhangfuqueshifendaqi;

weilegenghaodirangzhangfu“zhongguijiazhong”，zhujianjijidanfujiawuhuo，xuexizuofan......

danshizhangfuquehuijuetadetaojinhu。

woxunwenta：tabuyuanchiwaimaiweihebuxunizhufanni?

qingningmengshuo：yinggaishizhangfubuyuanshuawanba，youyuwozhufanbianhuirangzhangfuqushuawan。

woxunwenta：neimenizhufandemudishisha?

tajiang：xiangshitajiandaowodetouruhegenggai。

yiqiezhengchangzhuangkuangeryan，qiziweilaogongzhufan，shiyijianlajinguanlian，fanyingxingfukuailedexingwei。

zenmehuijuyoufanguolaidegongxiaoni?

shijishang，qingningmengdezheileiluojisiweibianshidianxingxingdeshouhairenluojisiwei。

zaitayanzhong：woweinigenggaitourujiuyingdanghuodeaixibingganenhuikui。

 yinci，lingyifangtihuidaozheileibeiguiding，fandaoxiangjiqiepieqingguanlian，buyuanyiyutazaochengdalianglianluo，youyuneiyangzongshijiuchanbuqinggengjiashenru。

jinyoulejielingyifangyaoxiangfangqiganqingdezhenshiyuangucaikeyicongyuantoushangjiejuekunnan。

 lijingshencengcidegoutongjiaoliu，baituoshiqingzishenshenrufenxiyihou，qingningmengrenkelezishensuozuodeyiqieshijishangbingbushitongyide。yinci，tajinguanganlexuduo，danshijishangbingbingbushiqueshigenggai，danglingyifangburentongtaderangbu，tajiuganjuegengweibiequ。

 lingwaifashenggezhonggeyangnantidelingyigegenbenyuanyinqujueyu：bicizhangqixingbukeyikaizhanyigelianghaodegoutong，pengdaonantiduoyiyifangweiquqiuquandefangfachuli，bukeyizhimianwenti，caizaocheng leqinggandeliekai。

 yinciwojianyitachaihuanyizhongsiweifangshi，huanyigezhangfunengjienadefangfalaijunhengyixiatadetouru，erbushiyongguidinglingyifangdefangfaziwomanzu。

 lijingtantao，fajueqingningmengdezhangfuduiyingpianjiaoweihenganxingqu，yincitiyirangqingningmengmomofuchuyihoujihuiyihou，jianyixiangzhangfujianyishifoukeyishiyiqikankandianyingshi，zhangfuchiyileyixiahuanshitongyile。

yonglingyifangxiangyaojienadefangfakaizhangoutongjiaoliuhejiaowang，caisuanshicujinganqing，jianqingfenqidegenbensuozai。

 haozhebulihundejieguoshishenme？tamengenggailejiaowangyuyangoutongjiqiaomeiduojiuyihou，errendeguanlianyezhujianyuelaiyueyouwendule。