挽回前先弄懂这3个问题，耗着不离婚的结果是什么？

 haozhebulihundejieguoshishenme？dangyiduanqinggandelikaishi，dabufenrenquanshibushedede，buganjiushizheiyangranghenzhangshijianyunyingdeganqinglizishenjianxingjianyuan，yaoxianglikejiangzheiyiduanfashengfengxideganqingtianbuqilai，laogongyouwaiyulihuncaichanzenmefen？yincixinjihuoliaodequwanliu。

 yizhaoyiwangdeshilikanlai，neiyangdewanliudabufenshibuchenggongde，bingqiezuihoudejieguoquanshiyidabaishouweide，neizenmehuineiyangni?

shijishangdangyiduanganqingwanbishi，jiaruyiqianlianggerenenai，haowuyiwenhuiyouyigerenyaoxiangfuhexing。

 keshizheileigangtichufenshoujiuxiangfuhexingdeniantouzhongshiyouhenduocanzhade，erzheizhongcanzhaqiahaoshizulanniwanliudejiaoda zuai，yinciyaoxiangwanliu，wubixianwenyiwenzishenzheizhongnanti。

一、谈恋爱期内，大家除开是恋人，只是好朋友吗?

 henduorendouganjuezuinankandeguanlianbianshipengyouzhishang、lianrenweiman，shijishangzheileiniantoushipianmianxingde。zuihaoshideguanlianshijishangbianshi70%deshijianlianggerenshizuihaodepengyou，30%deshijianqinglv。

为何那么说呢?

 laogongyouwaiyulihuncaichanzenmefen？youyuzailianaiguochengzhizhong，xinyidequehenzhongyao，bicizhijianlianggerenbixuqinglvjiandeqinmiwujian，keshibutaikenengmeishimeikequanshiqinmiwujiande，chucizhiwaigengqiangdeguanlianshixiangzuihaodepengyouyiyang，nenggouyiqixianliao、wanxiaohewanshua。

 zhongjiuganqingbingbushirichangshenghuodesuoyou，jiarujinjinyouyufenshouzhihoubuhuizaixiguanxingmeiyouyiqiandeneileiqinmiwujianjuede，neizheileizhuangkuangdewanliudaduoshushitulaowugongde。

 youyuhenyoukenengqiahaoshiyouyuzheileitanlianaiqineidajiazhongjiandeqinmiwujianshijianzaoyizuodaole80%，naizhigaoxie，yincicaihuiranglingyifangjuedeshixi，jinertaochu。

 yincizheigewentijiushinizaiwanliuyiqianyidingyaowenyixiazijide，yaoburanhenkenenghuifashengnizhimitang，tazhiduyaodebuliangyingxiang。

二、你的确是想挽留，而不是要想对付

tourulezheimeduo，quehuandeneiyangdejieguo，xiangxinxuduonvhaishihennanshoude。

xinlichongmanleyuanfen，wucongfaxie，yincijiudianjizheyibizhidaohaizhibishen。

 yincihanzhewanliudeqihaopaodaolingyifangdeqiye、naizhijialiyoukuyounao，haifanghuajiarulingyifangbutongyifuhexingjiuburongyifangshou。

danshiniqingchuma?xianzaidenizaoyibeiduifudexinlizhuangtaimengbiledanao，suozuodeshieryeshisunrenlijide。

zheileizhuangkuangxiajishilingyifangyuanyihuishou，jieguodagailvshiyicuozaicuo，tongguiyujin。

三、你是不是可以承受使你提出分手的缺陷，而不是纠正另一方

tanlianaiqianqidajiayizhikexuanzexingdeshuangmushiming，budanbiandalingyifangdeyoushi，bingqiehaiduiquexianzhiruowangwen。

 keshishijianjiule，dajiajiujianjiandizhujianzaihulingyifangdequexian，zheishihoudexinhanganjianjiandichaochuyugudemanzugan，zhizhizuizhongnaizhiyouyuzheizhongquexianertichufenshou。

 jiaruniyaoxiangwanliu，neimenijiuxuyaoxianwenyixiaziji，zheizhongzaocheng wofenshoudeyuanyinwoshifoukeyishiqurongru，erbushiguidinglingyifanggenggai。

 jiarubukeyijiena，zhishidianjizhexianfuhexingzaiqiangzhixingranglingyifanggenggai、ranglingyifangrongruzishen，jishidajiafuhexingle，zuizhongyehuiranglianggerendeguanlianyuelaiyuebujunyundeng，daozhiganqingzaiduliekai。

 zuizhongwojuedegaozhidahuoerdeshidaozhifenshoudeyuanyinshirijiyueleide，yaoxiangwanliuyiduanganqingyebushiyitianliangtiankeyijinxingde，tahenyoukenengxiangyaonizhangqidejianchibuxieheqinfencaikeyibaozhengde。

 yinci，haozhebulihundejieguoshishenme？jiaruniyaoxiangwanliuhuoshiyijingwanliuzhongpanghuangmangrandehua，jiuyaowenyiwenzishen，niqueshinizhunbeihaolema?