8个修复关键：夫妻缺乏信任

　　fuqiquefaxinren，conglianaijiehunlingzheng，lianggerenyouyuaiqingzoudaoleyiqi。suizheshijiantuiyi，youyixiefuqizhujianshiquleaiqing。danshibixuyouxinren。buxinrenyidingshilianggerenxianghuzhijianyinmannaxiesuozaochengde。meicuo，dangfuqibenshenmeiyouxinrenshi，fujianxinrenshihenzirandeshier。youyujiaruwomenbenshenmeiyouxinren，zenmekenengyouaiqing、youwenxindejia、jinxiangtianlunzhileni?

　　夫妻缺乏信任

　　1. congtoukaishi。jiarulianggerenlianjibendexinrendoushiqule，danshidoushifuqi，aiqingyijingchengweilezhenqing，haixiangyaozaiyiqi，neitamenkeyikaolvzhuiyizhiqianaiqingdefengqing。

　　zaiwomenzhujianyiduanganqingdeqingkuangxia，renmenzongshichongmanxiwang。zaiaiqingyiqian，dajiahuijiduifangshezhixuduo“renwuguanxi”，liruwenwan、lanman、fengqu、jiji、qudechenggongdeng。zhaodaowolianaishidejuede，zaiduzhuiruqingwang，houzhongxinjianlilianxi。zhongjiu，suosuideshenghuoxuyaoyixielangmandiaoweipinlaitigaolianggerendeganqing。yincilianggerenyoujixuxiangai，zhongwenlecengjingmeihaodeaiqing，yezhujianhuifulebicizhijiandexinren。

　　2、jiyubicizhijiandaliangdeai。aiqingyeshiyoutianjiaji。jiranwomendoushifuqi，yexucengjingcunyoudexingfuaiqingzaoyibeicankudeshishirichangshenghuomoqule。lianggerenzhijiandeguanxixuyaoshuangfangqujingying。jingyingaiqingbingbushiyijianrongyideshi。nihuiganjuedaogudan、youzhengzhi、chanshengchongtu。danhunyinbenshenbujiushizaizheizhongduilimianzhuangtaixiaxianghuzhijianyizhizuzhixiediaoma?jiranlianggerendoushiqulexinren，bufangjibicidaliangdeai，quanxinquanyideai，yishijixingdongbiaodanidezhenqing，nengrangduifangtihuidaoniduitadezhenzhiheai，jianjiandizaicigoujianqixinren。。

　　aiqingshixuyaopeiyangde。jiarunizongshiyiweilianggerenzhijiandewentijiejuelejiunenghuodeaiqingle，neishibuzhengquede，youyulianggerenzhixuhemuxiangchu，shikeyizuohaopengyoude。yinci，kefulenimendeguanxiwentizhihou，jiukeyiqusuzaoaiqingle。qinglvnengqurelianshiquguodechengshitanxunaiqingdeganjuele，haikeyiyiqizuoyixienuanxindeshier，rangshuangfanggenghaodelejielingyifang。neiyang，fuqijiandeganqingcaikeyisuizheshijiandetuiyierbiandeyuelaiyuenonghou。

　　3、youxiaodegoutong。dangfuqisangshixinrenshi，tamenshichanghuizhengchao。danzhengzhibingbunengjiejueqitawenti。fanerhuirangbicizhijiangengweilengdan。dajiahebuzuoxiaxinpingqihedegoutongjiaoliu，lejieduifangdetiyan。maodun，chuliwenti。jinyoufangxiazijideguandian，jiejinlingyifang，lejieduifang，cainengdadaoyouxiaogoutong。

　　下列八个关键问题可以指导进行相关的真真正正有效沟通：

　　一个。我想要什么?

　　b.younaxiewujiebixuyaoxianhuiying?

　　c.wosuobiaodadeshenmeqingxushizhenshikekaode?

　　d.wohuowolingyibandeqingxukanshangqulejiema?

　　e.zheileiqingxucongnaerlai?

　　f.woruheyingduizheileiqingxu?

　　g。qingxuqibeihoudeqifashishenme?

　　h.wokeyiyongwomendeaihuifuneizhongganjuema?

　　zaiwomenkeyitanrandihuidazheixiewentishi，fuqizhijiandewentijiuhuidedaojiejue。

　　jiaohaodefuqiguanlianbianshi：xuanzedeziyouhexiangduiyingdezhanju。fuqishixianghuyilai、dandude;tamenxianghufuchibinghuodebicizhijianqudedechengjiu。

　　chuangjianhaodeguanxi，youzhemeihaodeshenghuo!