面对亲朋好友催婚，如何优雅自救

 henduodanshenshaonanshaonvdoumianlinzhezheiyangyigewenti，nianjidaoleyidingzhi，beijiarenpinpincuihun，mianduizhongduodecuihunxianxiang，womenyenenglijiexianzaidenianqingrencuihunyalida。neime，ruhezaizheiyangdeqingjingzhongyouyazijiuni？

一、反客为主

 dangqidagubadayidoulaiwennishenmeshihoujiehunyoumeiyouduixiangdeshihou，nijishiduzhutamendezui，fanwen“ayininerzijiehunlema，youmeiyoujiehunduixiang，shengzhilema，gongziduoshaoa，zaishenmegongsi，ninnverxuexichengjizayang，zaibanlipaidijiming，nengshangnasuochuzhong/gaozhong/daxue？”danzheiyeyouquedian，jiushizhinengrangtamenyishibunengfawen，zhibiaobuzhiben。

二、以柔克刚

 dangrenmenwenniweishenmebujiehun、shenmeshihoujiehundeshihou，yekeyibuyaogentamenjiaozhen，buyaoyingpengyingzhengmiangang，congmingdezuofajiushi“haolehaolewoyidinghuizhuajinzhengqugankuaijiehunranhousannianbaoliang”，zheizhongzuofasuiranhuirangnizanshiqingjingyixia，danshihuirangcuihunzhegengjiayouzixin，zhuzhangtamendeqishi，budanbutingzhifanerbianbenjiali。

三、转移重点

 bengguanduibuduidezhubierenle，weilezijideyishiqingjing，jiangcuihunzhedezhuyilizhuanyidaoqitarenshenshang。“wobuzhejia，nikanwobiaoge、biaojie、tangge、tangjie、sangumajiadexiaobiaomei、gebijiadexiaonvhai，budouhaimeijiehunnime，wobuzheji。”，buguo，zheirongyirangnihezheixiexiaoxiongdijiemeimendeganqingpolie！

四、破罐子破摔

 zaijinglilegezhongfangfadoubunengzuzhibierencuihunzhihou，gancuiwusuoweijuba，“wojiushibujiehun，jiushimeinan/nvpengyou，zenmediba，woyehenjuewanga。”waijiayifushengwukeliandebiaoqing，zheiyangsuiranchengxiaoxianzhu，danshishashanglixiangdangda。

五、顾左右而言他

 “nidouzheimedalehaibujiehuna！”，ni：“enenshia，nishuodetaiyoudaolile，aigangcaicaiyanshibushifangshaole？”。“nihaidanshenni？”，ni：“duiya，ya，ninhaibieshuo，nijintianzheishenyifuzhenhaokan，yanzhibizhiqianshangzhangleyiwanbei。”。

六、声东击西

 “nijinnianyoumeiyouzhunbeijiehuna？”，ni：“wojinnianshiyeshangshengqi，zainunulijiushengzhijiaxinlewodexianhaohaogongzuo”。“wozhunbeixiankaogexxx，zaikaoxxx，ranhouzaixiuyigexxx，xianjizijichongchongdian”。

 huashuohuilai，muqiancuihunxianxianglvjianbuxian，nianqingrendecuihunyalidadaobuxing。zheisuiranshiyipianjiaodajiaruheyingduiqinpenghaoyoucuihundegonglve，danshixiaobianhaishixiwangdajianenggouzaorizhaodaozijixihuandelingyiban。bijing，fangfajiushigankuaijieshudanshen。