分手能复合吗？如何让他“回心转意”？

 zaitanlianaiqinei，nvshengduirichangshenghuoqidaihexiangxiangfeichangxingfu。pengdaofenshoushibuwanliunidenanren，yaogaoqingchuyuangu，shiyouyushenmeshiqingzaocheng，suihoucaiquyouxiaodefangfancuoshi。jiarulianggerenzhongjianmeiyouyuanzewenti，yixieshenghuosuoshiyagenbuzhiyiti。nianqingqinglvzhijianmingquetichufenshouyehenyiqiezhengchang，youdeyouyuxingqing、sanguan、jiatingqingkuangdengyuangu，bukeyixiuchengzhengguo。jiarunihuoshishenaizheneigeren，yaoshoulong“jiaogui”。xuduoqingkuangxia，nvshengdengdainanshengde“peizui”“yiwaijingxi”。fenshoushibuwanliunidenanren，henyoukenengguishuyuqingshangzhishangbutaigaodezhonglei。fenshounengfuhema？ruguonibuzhidaonanrenfenshouhoujitianzuinanshou，fenshouzenyangfuhejiuhuiyouxiekunnan。neime，nvshengpengdaolefenshoushibuwanliunidenanrenzenmebanni？zheierxiangxijieshaojileifangshi，jingongcankao。

一、放开手脚，加重彼此之间的掌握

 youdenanshengzaifenshouhou，duinvshengwulunbutan。dangpengdaofenshoushibuwanliunidenanren，zishenbixushensishulv，yibaneryan，nanshenghuiguanzhunvshengduoyixie。pengdaozheileizhuangkuanghou，shifouzishendeyixiexingweihuoyuyanbiaodacijixinglenansheng，rangtashengqile。zheishihou，nvshengyaofangkaishoujiao，yunanshengzuozheyiqiliaoyiliao、tanyitan，jinenggoujianqingnankandeqifen，hainengxianghulejie。

 congdabufennianqinglianrendefenshouzhuangkuangkan，nanshenghenyoukenengyouyunvshengailibuli、butinghuadengbuhuitou，zheishihou，jiarunvshenghaixianghetazouxialai，yidingyaofangzhengzishenbuwei，zhudongjingong，wanliuxiaidenansheng。xuduoqingkuangxia，fenshoushibuwanliunidenanshenghenyoukenengshiyouyushougounvshengde“jiaogui”，buyuanyuwuyuanwugujiufahuodexiaonvshengyiqi。zheishihou，nvshengyaoguoduanzhanchuqu，genggaiyixiaxingqing，niuqubuhaodexingshi。

二、收拢娇贵，积极套近乎

 nianqingqinglvzhijianchangchangweisuosuizhengchao，yixiegexinghuayaohaodeqinglvzaizhengchaohouyehuizuochuqinglvdefenshoujuece。danshi，youdelianrenqueyouyuyixiesuosuizhengzhiyinqifenshou，zheishihoufenshoukanqilaiyouyixieqinglv。jiarunipengdaolehoumianyizhongshi，fenshoubingbingbushizuihaoshidetiaoxuan，jinjinzhengchaofashengde“henhua”，shijishangtashi“jiafenshou”。

 “jiafenshou”bixuyigerenrangbu。yidancuoguotianbudejihui，henyoukenengdaozhiyongjiuxingdesunhai。xiangduieryan，nanshenggengweikeguan，jiaruoshenpangdeqinglvpaoxialeta，tahuibahuolifangdaogongzuoshang，zuihouzaochengyouxiudenanrenyuni“cashenerguo”。jiarunishiyouyuyixiewuguanjinyaodesuoshiyunanyoufenshou，keshinanyouyeshiyigehaomianzideren，nihenyoukenengyaojijitaojinhu，caikeyiwanhuiaiqing。

三、换位思考一下，给他们大量驱动力

 shijishang，tamenzhongjianhuoshiyouqinggande，zhibuguoshiweilegenghaodi“yanmian”，doubuyuanjilingyifangdixiatou，zaochengzuizhongyebukeyizouzaiyiqi。zheishihou，nixuyaozhaoxungezhonggeyangjiyuhebiaozhun，bawozhujihuixiangqitaojinhu。shijishang，jiyushiweiyoutiqianzhunbeiderenjiyude，yidantabeinidexingweichudong，jiunengfanhuinideshenpang。