学会爱的能力没有分手后挽回不了的感情

 xiaoyanghenanpengyoushixiangqinyuehuilejiede，xiaoyangbitadasansui，ganglejiedeqingkuangxia，tayijianshihenjiqing，meitianbangxiaoyangtongdianhua，faxiaoxi，yijianshiyehenhao，zhihoudajiajiudingqinle，xiaoyangdequedianhenyoukenengguishuyuxinggeneixiangdeba，yuanxiandeshijianduitameiyoushenmeganjue，fanyingyehenlengmo，keshitaconglaibuzaihu，rengranduinihenhao。kezhihouxiaoyangqueshijuededuitayongyouqinggan，xiaoyangxianggentawanhun，keshituranyouyitian，meishenmezhengzhaode，dajiayoumeiyouchanshengnaxiemaodun，tajiumingquetichulaigenxiaoyangfenshou，shuoconglaimeiyouxiaiguoxiaoyang，shuozhiqianduixiaoyangshuodeyiqietongtongshijiade，buxiangxin，xiaoyangfenshouhouwanhui，keshirujintazaoyibuhuizailixiaoyangle，xiaoyangneixinhennanshou，xiangqingdahuoerzaizheifenshouhoudehuangjinwanhuishijianli，bangmangxianggezuosixingfenshouzenmewanhuidebanfa，xiaoyangqueshihenxiangwanhuita。

 dajiaxianlaifenbianyixiazheiyishilishibushifeichangzhidewanliu，yejiushikantamendeganqingjichuhelingyifangderenpin，xiangqinyuehuilejie，nvdanansansui，meiyouganqingdezhuangkuangxiadingqin，zishenfanyinglengmo，ganjuelingyifanghaobuzaiyi，nanyouhuranmingquetichutichufenshou，congzheizhongguanjianhuanjiekanlai，liangrendeganqingjichubingbingbushifeichanghao，erqiecunyouyigenianjishangdenanti，jishinanhaihaobuzaiyi，doumeifafangzhibabamamahuoshiqinpenghaoyouhuichuxianyichangdeyanguang，nvshengzaimeiyouganqingdezhuangkuangxia，zhishiyouyulingyifangduitahaojiudingqin，youcikejiantaxinlishijishangbuzhidaozishenzhenzhenzhengzhengyaoxiangdeshisha，yongyijupubiandehuashuo：youzhedeqingkuangxiabuzhidaoaixi，shiqucaihouhuibuyi。

 erqiezaiquanbuquanguochengzhong，tazuizhongyaodeyidianbianshibumingbaidequguanzhunansheng，gengbuzhidaolingyifangneixiangzhedeshisha，yejiushishilizhongdenvshengbushimingbairuheaiyigerende。zaizheigeshilizhong，nvshengwanhuiaiqingdediyibu，wubishifazhanzishen，shijishangshixiezhutapouxinanyoudexinlizhuangtaihexingqing，youyushilizhongbiaoluchunanyoudegerenxingweiheyuyanfeichangshao，meifafenbiannanhaishinaxiederen，yincidezaizixundequanguochengzhongxiangjindepouxi，jiarunanhaiweiren，biaozhungecengmianyebuchadehua，zhixunvshengmingbaileaiyigerendejutifangfa，wanliutamendeqingganshichedimeiyouwentide。

 fenshoudeshihou，dajiacaihuisikaozuosixingfenshouzenmewanhui，caikeyikanhuodeyuanlaishizishenbudongdezhenxi，buzhidaoaiweishenmedongxi，caifajueyuanxianzishencaisuanshineiyigebumingbaiaideren，buzhidaoruhequaiyigerendeshagua。

 aishiyizhongnengli，dajiadoubixuxuexipeixun。lianaizhongdehaolaogonghehaolaopodoubingbushiyushengjulaide，zhishixianghuzhijianmoheqiwenhuajiaoyudejieguo。suoyishuo，tanlianaishiyigenanrenheyigenvrenxuexipeixunai、aidebiaodadechangdi，congmouzhongchengdushangjiangyeshitamenhuxiangkangzhengdediqu。keshizailianaizhongdekangzhengbingbushiweilegenghaodifenlichulaishengfuduiyucuo，zhishiweilegenghaodigengshenrudizhangwolingyifang，nenggougenghaoditengxilingyifang。

一、掌握男友的性情和要求

 jiaruniyebuzhangwofenshouhoudehuangjinwanhuishijian，jinjinkanhaofangshinijiujicongcongquwanhui，shifoutaiguoqinglvle。tanenggouxianchangshigentacongyibanpengyouxueqi，jianjiandidezhangwota。jiarudajiaxianghuzhijianlejie，erqienenggoucongyibanpenyouzhujiandehua，neimezheileizhangwoyingdangzaibicizhijiandexiangchuzhongfeichangrongyibaozheng。ninengdaliangconggoutongjiaoliuhuozhitadegerenaihaozheixie，haikeyigenjuzixidiguanchalejietadaliangdeshier。lirutaxihuanchinaxiedeshicai，xiaichuannaxiedeyifukuzi，xiaitingsheidege。jinerzonghefenxiyixiananyoudexingqinghetazaidajiazheiyiduanguanlianzhongdeyaoqiu。zuoweiyibanpengyouzaisuibiandegoutongjiaoliushizuinengzhangwoyigerendegexingheaihao。yinciniqianwanbieyouhendadejingshenyali，bubiganjuequzhangwotashiyijiannanyideshier。lejieyigerenshiyigeyouqianrushendequanguocheng，bukeyijigongjinli。

二、塑造和提高爱的能力

1.情绪控制

 meiyigerenyaoguanlifangfahaozishendexintai，caiyounengliquaitaren；bukeyiguanlifangfahaozishenxintaideren，jingchangrangyuzishenenaiderenshifentongchu，feichangrongyicuoguoaidejiyu，naizhihuisunhairen。

2.述情

 jiushizhiyongbusunhaiguanliandefangfabiaoshuzishendeyaoqiu、xinyuanhetihui。dajiazaibiaoshuhegoutongjiaoliushangyifandebuzhengqueshi，yaobuyongyouxintaihuoyaoqiubuyongshuo，menzaixinli，rennai，zhidaorenbuzhulejiubaofale，yaobubianshijingchangyongchizehemaiyuandefangfabiaoshuhegoutongjiaoliu。rennaishangzishen，chizehemaiyuansunhailingyifang。

3.同理心

 lejiebingshiyonglingyifang、tongqingdali；tashijibenshangrenherendouqidaizishendelianrennengyoudenengli，danhenduorenyemeiyou，henduorenquanshixiguanjiangli，wenhuajiaoyulingyifang，erbuzhidaolingyifangbixudeshijishangshitonglixin。

4.容许

 zhongshichabie、rongxufazhan；lianrenzhongjianzhengchao，chanshengmaodun，xuduoqingkuangxiadoushiyouyubuyunxusuozaochengde，buyunxulingyifanggenzishenbuyiyang，buyunxulingyifangyouyixiequexian，yaocaozonglingyifanghuogenggailingyifang。

5.危害

 zuoziji，lingyifangyehuiyuelaiyuegengqiang；meigerendoubian，zaiganqingguanlianliderenyeshihuiyouyuzishendelianrenerbian，keyishuoyigerenzhaolebuyiyangdelianrenbianhuibianweibuyiyangderen，renhuiyouhenyoukenengyuebianyuegao，yeshiyouhenyoukenengyuebianyuebutaihao，neime，zishenruhezuolingyifangbianhuiyuelaiyueyuebianyuehaoni？zheijiushiweihaidenengli。

 fenshouhouwanhuizuizhongyaodeairenaiji，aidenengliqiangderenbidingshizixinxinde，shandaizijide，erqiehuishandaizijide，jianxinzijishifeichangzhideaide；youyujinyoushandaizijiderencaiyoumanwaiyideaiquaitaren！