很容易要自卑，分手后挽回先学会无所求

 xiaoyangyouyitiankukutitidipaolaihewosuku：“yinweiwonongbuqingchuzhenaitaduohuoshixintaiduoyixie，fenshouzhihou，yonggezhonggeyangwanliufangshi，taquetiaoxuanhetarenzaiyiqi。woqueshibuqingchuzenmejiangle，neixintebieteng，tebieteng，henxiangmailezishenbuyuanyouyiqiederenzhi，haonanshoule……zuosixingfenshouzenmewanhui？”woanweiwantabianduitashuo，zaifenshouhoudehuangjinwanhuishijianyongjinyiqienuli，fenshouhouwanhuidezuihoujieguo，shilingyifangtiaoxuanletaren，neixindetongshitarenmeifaganshoude！zaixinlizhuangtainanshoudelingwai，niyeyaoxuehaohuizongciciganqingzhongxueguodaodeyixiehuode。shibushinenghelingyifangzaiyiqishiyihuishier，zishenneixindetonghewufashihuaiyoushilingyihuishi，xiwangniyaobazheierzhequbiekaikanlai，neiyangnicaikeyizhenzhenzhengzhengbaituoneileineixinbushufutongkudeqingkuang！shijishangxuduoqingkuangxiadajianeixinganjuezishenbuzuhaodezheileixinxinyuqingxu，shidaozhiyiduanguanxifashengnantidedeguanjianyuangu。

01觉得自身不足好，不踏实

 fenshouzhihouhuijiqinidexintaideheianmian，tichufenshoudaibiaozhe“wobugouhao”deshiji，zheishihounikendingbuhuiganjueniqueshishenai，yincinikendingbuhuiyoumanzugan，huichongmanlemeiyouanquangan。eryouyuniganjuezishenmeiyouanwendejuede，ninengpinlemingxiangyaozaifenshouhoudehuangjinwanhuishijianzuodaliangwanhuideshiqing。

 youyuniganjuezishenmeiyoushiyongjiazhi，niyejiupinlemingxiangcaozonglingyifang，sipilailian，qianxinwankudaidaoleyige，zennengshitazoudiaoni？youyuguoqulezheiyicunjiumeiyouzheiyidian，yincininengbuguyiqiedouxuyaobawozhuzheiyiyanxiadewenchong，qianxinwankudiaojinbennvhaidezhuwanglibian。keshineiyangdechuziyuneixinpinfadezhangkongyu，shinidejiuchanlanduiwanliumeiyouyiqiedeshijixiaoguo。

02分手后后尤其痛苦

 fenshouhouwanhuizongxiangzhe：youyuwoyidingshibuzuhaocaihuifenshouhou，woyidingshibuzuhao，tacaihuibubiwo，woyidingshibuzuhao，tacaihuitiaoxuanhetarenzaiyiqi。woyidingshibuzuhao，woyidingshifanlenaxiecuo，yincishenxianzaizibeiheziwohuaiyideqingxuzhong。

03互相认同，又要另一方认同

 ninengyouqudefaxian，jiusuanzaoyibianchengleqinglv，youhenduorennaizhijihuyemeiyourentongguolingyifang。youqishibianweifufu，shuoxieshenmedouzhengchao，youyuwobuhuirentongni，nimeirentongwo。neiyangnengbutongkuma？gengtongkudediqushi，tamenyouyaozaiyiqi，youshenglexiaohaizi，zichanyouwufafenli。

 hengaoxiaodeshi，henduorendeqingkuangshi，wobuhuirentongni，danshiwoyouxiwangnirentongwo。wobuhuijienanidejianyi，woyouxiwangnijienawodejianyi。shijishangzuosixingfenshouzenmewanhuigennaxiexiangguan？buzixin。worenweinishicuode，woyouxiwangnishuowoshiduide。woyouyaofourenni，woyouxiangyaonihaowuyiwenwo，worenweinijuededewupindadaoliyebudui，danshiwoyouxiwangnirentongwo。wolingwaidailainitongku，youyuwobuhuirentongni，lingwainidouburentongwo，yinweiwotongku，suoyiwotongkuyinweiwoshinitongku。

 zhenzhenzhengzhengganqingdezaochengbianshiniduizheigerenhuozheishijiewusuoqiudeqingkuangxia。tangruonishiyigebenzhichedifenghou、wupinfaerdadaoderen，doumeiyouduilingyifangdexiwang，cikeniyaoailingyifangdehua，neizheijiushizhenzhengdeaiqingle。yaobushibenzhifengshuowuque，niaidebeihouhuichuxianshijideyaoqiu，zaijiashangshijidepingdingyuyixiejiaohuantiaojian。

 jiarunizhenduiciwaiyifangyousuoqidai，dangzishenxiwangyulaiyuduo，zhihouquehuiyuelaiyueyulaiyumishi，nibenzhineifenaijiujianjiandibujianle，zheijiushidabufenrenganqingbiandandequanguocheng。dangshiliangrenkeyizaiyiqi，yidingshiduoshaoyouyifenai，danshibansuizheshiji、zishendeyaoqiuyuyaoxianghuodede，zaochenglezishendenaonu、bumanyi。danquebuzhidaojiaruyigeduizishenyuebumanyi、yuekanbuguanderen，yuehuitouyingzailingyifangdeshenshang，lingyifangbuyidingnengzuodaoniyaoxiangde，yincibianhuiduilingyifangbumanyi，zuizhongyuelaiyuekansheiyebukanbuguan，shijishangnizuikanbuguandefandaojiushinizishen。

 jiarunihenfanganyushijingzilideneiren，tabianhuitouyingbianweiquanqiu，yinernikankansheiyebukanbuguan。nizhixuduizheyushijingzigaozhizishen，“wojuedewohenkanbuguan，woduizijihenlingrenmanyi”，neimeniduizheishijiejiuburongyibukanbuguanle，youyuzhenzhenzhengzhengdekanbuguangenlingrenmanyilaiyuanyuduizishen。