急躁易冲动，这样的男人说分手要不要挽回？

 taxingqingpianyexing，wojiaoweipianxianya。taxihuanwojiaoduoyidian，yedongdeweiwotouru，haisuanpingwen。danjindaomoheshijian，fenqijianduo。taxiguandaozizuidoufuxin，zuikaishiwonengbuhangshengdengtapingjingxialai，pingxinjingqigentajiangli。womingbaitadekoubuduixin，yeyinrenzhetabudongfencunganxiandudewanxiaohua。meicizhengzhiwan，jibenshangquanshitajijilianluo，tayizaizhiqianganjuebiequ。shenxianexunhou，fenshoushitatide，danwoquebuzhidaojiujinggaizenmechuli？nanpengyoushuofenshoujiuzhendebunengwanhuilema？haishishuonanrenshuofenshouyaobuyaowanhui？huazhenxiaobianrenwei，ganqinglibianzaoshoudeyuyangongjishijishangbingbushisunhai，gengxiangyizhidaishangcidemeiguihua，piaoliangjiaoyanyudi，chongchizheqingyi，queyourangmeiyigetiejinderenbiantilinshang。huanweisikaoyixia，niyuzishenxinaiderenbiaoluxinlihua，ertamenyongneiyangquefaqinqiegandefangfahuifuni，nigaihuiyouduomededexinhana！nanrentichufenshouhaiwanhuima？neng，xiangwanhuinanpengyou，nixuyaoxuehaojiejuelingyifangqingxudefangfa，neibianshitonglixin。

 nanpengyoushuofenshoujiuzhendebunengwanhuilema？weihekandailianren，weihedajiahuineime“jueqing”？dajiadabufenren，zixiaoerrumuranjienadejianjiequanshidichuhetaobiqingxu。qingxushibutaihaode，huirangguanlianbuhexie，huilingrenyuelaiyuebulizhihebulixing。babamamaduidajiadeyangyudalianggenjupipinghejianglikaizhan，feichangshaojilidajiaganshougeshigeyangdeganqing。jiaoshiduidajiadewenhuajiaoyuyoujixieshebeidezhengquedaanhexin，jiulianduiwenxuezhezuodeshangxiyebeiyebeihenhendixiandingzaibaguwenshidezhutisixiangshulili。

 jiaruniqiahaoyouchangchangzhengchaomaodun，ganqinglengdan，huoshiguoduobijiaominganjiaolvqingxudefazhanziranhuanjing，bubianjiugengbianda。youyuzhangqixingshenghuozaizheizhongziranhuanjingxia，ninengweilegenghaodibaohuzijieryouyidihulvezishenhebierendeqingxu，weirenchushiyuelaiyuelengdan、jixieshebei、guoduokeguan。

 zheileizixiaode”fanqingxuwenhuajiaoyu“zaijiashangchuantongshidexingbieqishiqingxiangyishi，youjinanhaierhenanrenmenchanshengtebieshizaituxiandeweihai。nanhaiermenbeiguidingbukeyiluoleiherenrang，bunengsuibiandakaixinfei。dangnanshixianluxizhilixingdeyimian，huoshizhehebierenkaizhangoutongjiaoliushi，huibeijifenghepengji。yincishifenduodenanshizaichengnianrenhouzaiganqingshangmamuburen，zhiruowangwen。erdangmeinvmenzaiyouhuiquanguochengzhongpengdaoneiyangdenanrenmenshi，dangranhuimaiyuantamennanjiejin，bulijietamenweishenmebenlaienai，quenengduizishenjiangchuneiyangnanguoyujueqingdeyuju。henbeijudekeguanshishibianshi：womendoushizaiweidajiadeburongyiyingduiqingxuerfuqian。

 wanliuyaomingbai“tonglixin”。tonglixinzhideshiyizhongnengshencengcibierenzhuguanxingquanqiu，zhangwoqitihuidenengli。zaiyubierengoutongjiaoliushi，nengjindaodaolingyifangdesixiangjingjie，ganshoudaolingyifangdeneixinshenchu，nengyichengdairendilingyifang，ganshoulingyifangdetihui，bingduilingyifangdeqingganzuochushidangdefanying。

 nanrentichufenshouhaiwanhuima？daqingmaqiao，meiyouqingnalaideai？dajiajiaodadezuaibianshiduiqingxumamu，taobiheweijuqingxu，bushanyujiyuganqingshangdehuifuheshiyong。neiyangdezuaibudanduidanshen，duitarulehunyinshenghuodedajiayiyangkeyong，wodanshishiyidajiayouhuishidexiaoxiguan，kandaoledajiarendebenxingzhongdedaquedian。

一、学好换位思考一下

 huanweisikaoyixiadenenglijiushizhinengconglingyifangshijiaoweilingyifangdegerenxingweizhaoxunhelihua，yizuidaxiandudilejiefabinglingyifang。bingbushizhicongzishendeshijiaokaolvlaiduidainanti，zhishiduoduodejiejinsuonengconglingyifangdeshijiaoqusisuo，danglingyifangzaochengqingxushi，xianbubijizhexiajielun，xianchangshibazijidangzuolingyifang，kanyixialingyifangshizenmesisuode，ruhehuizaochengneiyangdeqingxu？

二、倾听

 lingtingzhinengjiejinquanlidiqingtinglingyifangdebiaoshu。lingtingbudanzhizhengqiuqiyingyukouyubiaoshudeneirong，haibaohanguanchafeiyuyanbiaodadegerenxingwei，ruzishi、xiaobiaoqing、xiangshengshipinyuyinyuqi。zhideyitideshihaibixuyoushidudefanying，biaomingtingleerqietingdedongle。

 huilingtingdeguiding：zhuanxinzhizhi，buqieduanlingyifangfayan，buzuojiazhipanduan，qinfenganshoulingyifangdetihui，lijijiyuyuyanbiaodahefeiyuyanbiaodayijianfankui。

三、表述重视

重视包含：

(1)zhongshilingyifangdegexinghuajinenglierbushipingzishendeyiqiyongshi。

(2)jieshoulingyifangdexinxinhesuozuochudetiaoxuanhuojuece，erbushipingjiahuochangshitiqizuojueding。

(3)zhenchenglejielingyifangdejianjiejigerenxingwei，erbushijianyicaiyongdichudexintai。

(4)yizhongshierqiebigongbijingdexintaibiaoshuzishenyulingyifangbuyiyangdejianjie。

(5)nanrenshuofenshouyaobuyaowanhuishi，buzuojiazhipanduan，zhongshilingyifangdetiaoxuan。