花镇：夫妻吵架后要怎么沟通

　　suhuashuoqingguanhainanduanjiawushini，fuqizhijianchaojiameiyoushenmebiaozhunde、gudingjiejuefangan，zhinengshiyinren、yinshieryi。fuqichaojiahouyaozenmegoutong？xiamianzanqiejieshaojizhongworenweishichulifuqizhengchaodefangfa：

　　一、理智情绪

　　zantingzhengchao：dangyishidaozhengchaokaishishengji，shuangfangqingxudoubijiaoxingfenshi，yaojishijiaoting，fangzhijiangchugengshangrendehuahuozuochuguojidexingwei，jibiciyixieshijianyukongjianlaipingfuqingxu。

　　fensanzhuyili：nenggouzanshilikaizhengchaoxianchang，quzuoyixienengrangzijifangsongdeshi，liruchuqusanbu、tingge、hebeishuideng，rangzijicongjiliedeqingxuzhongtuolichulai，dengqingxuwendinghouzaihuilaijixugoutong。

　　二、自我反省

　　sikaozhengchaoyuanyin：zixihuiguzhenggechaojiadeguocheng，fenxishishenmezaochenglezheicizhengchao，shiyouyumoujianjutideshiqing、shuangfangdegoutongfangshi、qingxunantihaishiqitayinxingdefenqijilei。

　　fansizishenxingwei：sikaozijizaizhengchaoshangdebiaoxian，shifouyoujianghuataizhong、taidubuhao、bugoulijieduifangdengwenti，ganyuchengrenzijidecuowuhebuzu。

　　三、积极沟通

　　lingtingduifang：renzhenlingtingduifangdexiangfaheganshou，buyaodaduanduifang，rangduifangnenggouchongfenbiaodazijideguandianheqingxu，zheiyouliyugenghaodilejieduifangdelichang，yenengrangduifangganshoudaobeizunzhong。

　　biaoshiziji：zaiduifangbiaoshuwanhou，zaichengkendishuochuzijidexiangfahetihui，zhuyiyaoshiyongrouhe、keguandeyuyan，fangzhichizehebaoyuan，guanjianshibiaodazijideyaoqiuheqiwang，erbushiyiweidizhizeduifang。

　　fangzhizhizehejingong：buyaoshiyong“nizongshi……”“nicongbu……”dengjueduihuadeyuyanlaizhizeduifang，zheiyangrongyiyinqiduifangdefanganhepaichi，buliyuwentidejiejue，ershiyaozhiliyujiejuedangqiandewenti，erfeitiguoquhuohuxianggongji。

　　四、互相道歉与原谅

　　jishidaoqian：jiarushizijidewentizaochenglezhengchao，yaojishixiangduifangdaoqian，taiduyaochengken，buyaofuyanhuozhaoliyou，rangduifangganshoudaoniduizheiduanguanxideguanzhuheduita / tazunzhong。

　　jienadaoqian：ruguoduifangyijingdaoqian，yaoxuehuijieshouduifangdeqianyi，buyaomanhengwuli，jiduifangyigetaijiexia，yejizijiyigeshihuaidejihui，gongtongrangguanxihuidaozhenggui。

　　五、寻找妥协与共识

　　xunzhaogongtongmubiao：mingqueshuangfangdegongtongmubiao，liruweihujiatingdehexie、rangbicixingfudeng，ranhoucongzheigegongtongmubiaokaolv，xunzhaojiejuewentidebanfa，zheiyanggengrongyidachenggongshi。

　　getuiyibu：zaijiejuewentideguochengzhong，shuangfangdoukenengxuyaozuochuyixietuoxie，buyaoguoyuguzhidijianchizijidexiangfa，changshicongduifangdejiaoduqukaolv，xunzhaoyigeshuangfangdounengjieshoudejiejuefangan，yidadaoshuangyingdejumian。

　　六、增加感情互动

　　biaoshiaiyi：tongguoxiangyong、qinwen、shuohuayanqiaoyudengfangshixiangduifangbiaodazijideqingyi，rangduifangganshoudaoniduita / taguanhuaihezaiyi，jianqingzhengchaodailaidejinzhangqifen。

　　yiqizuoxihuandeshi：zaizhengchaohou，keyiyiqiquzuoyixieshuangfangdouxihuandeshiqing，lirukandianying、guangjie、zhufandeng，zengjinbicizhijiandeganqing，yeyouliyuxiufuguanxi。

　　七、寻找外界协助

　　qingjiaoqinyou：fuqichaojiahouyaozenmegoutong？ruguofuqishuangfangzijiwufajiejuewenti，kexiangxinlaideqinyouxunqiubangzhu，tamenkenenghuicongpangguanzhedejiaodujichuyixiekeguandejianyihekanfa，bangzhunimengenghaodilejiebici。

　　zixunzhuanyerenyuan：ruguowentibijiaoyanzhong，yingxianglefuqiguanxidepingwen，yekeyixunqiuzhuanyexinlizixunshihuohunyinfudaoshidexiezhu，tamenjuyougengzhuanyedezhishihejineng，keyibangzhudajiagengshenrudilejiewentidegenyuan，bingtigongyouxiaodejiejuefangan。