夫妻冷战过后怎么沟通

　　zaihunyinshenghuozhong，fuqijiannanmianhuiyoumaodunhezhengzhi，erlengzhantongchangshiqizhongyizhongrangrenbeiganjianaodeqingkuang。fuqilengzhanguohouzenmegoutong？lengzhanbujinhuirangfuqiguanxibiandejinzhang，haihuiyingxiangjiatingdehexieqifen。neime，dangfuqishenxianlengzhanshi，zuihaodejiejuefangfashishenmeni?

　　一、理智反思，寻找问题根源

　　danglengzhanfashengshi，shuangfangshouxianyaozuodeshilengjingxialai。buyaozaiqingxujidongdeshihouquchuliwenti，yinweizheihenkenenghuishimaodunjinyibushengji。weizijigenduifangyixieshijianyukongjian，rangqingxupingfuxialai。

　　zailizhideguochengzhong，yaofanshengzijizaimaodunzhongdexingweiheyanci。sikaozijishifouyouzuodebuduidequyu，shifoujiangleshangrendehuahuozhezuolerangduifangbukaixindeshiqing。tongshi，yeyaochangshicongduifangdejiaoduqukandainanti，lejieduifangdeganshouyuxuqiu。

　　zhiyouzhaodaowentidegenyuan，cainengyouzhenduixingdichulimaodun，dapolengzhandekunju。

　　二、主动沟通，打破沉默

　　lengzhanchixushijianyuezhang，duifuqiguanxideshanghaijiuyueda。yinci，dangshuangfangdoulengjingxialaihou，yaozhudongkaizhangoutong。

　　goutongshijiejuemaodundeguanjian。nenggouxuanzeyigeheshideshijiandidian，liruzaiyelihaizishuijuehou，huoshizaizhoumoyiqichuqusanbudeshihou。zaigoutongshi，yaobaochipinghedexintai，buyaozhizeduifang，ershiyizhenchengdetaidubiaodazijideganshouhekanfa。

　　biru，keyishuo：“qinaida，womingbaiwomenzuijinyoudianbuyukuai，woyefansiletamendexingwei，wojuedewozai……fangmianzuodebuhao，rangnibukaixinle。woxiangtingtingnidexiangfa，womenyiqizhaodaojiejuewentidebanfa。”

　　tongguozhudonggoutong，dapochenmo，rangduifangganshoudaonidechengyiyuduizheiduanguanxidezhongshi。

　　三、学会倾听，理解对方

　　zaigoutongdeguochengzhong，budanyaobiaodazijideganshou，haiyaoxuehuiqingtingduifang。qingtingshiyizhongzunzhong，yeshiyizhonglejie。

　　dangduifangzaishuohuashi，yaorenzhenqingting，buyaodaduanduifang。yongyanshenheshentiyuyanbiaodanideguanzhuyulejie，lirudiantou、weixiao、wojinduifangdeshoudeng。

　　zaitingwanduifangdehuahou，yaojiyuhuiying，biaoshuniduibicidelejie。keyishuo：“wonenglijienideganshou，huanzuoshiwo，wohuoxuyehuiyouzheiyangdefanying。”huoshi“womeixiangdaonihuizheimexiang，nideganshouhenzhongyao，womenyiqixiangxiangruhejiejuezheigewentiba。”

　　tongguolingtingyulijie，rangduifangganshoudaonideguanhuaizhichi，congerhuanjiemaodun，dapolengzhan。

　　四、寻找妥协，共同解决问题

　　zaifuqiguanxizhong，meiyoujueduiduicuo。dangmaodunchuxianshi，shuangfangdouxuyaozuochuyixietuoxie，cainenggongtongjiejuewenti。

　　zaixunqiutuoxiedeguochengzhong，yingyijiejuewentiweimubiao，erfeizhengshengfu。nenggoutichuyixiejianshexingdejiejuefangan，liruyiqizhidingyigejiatingguize，huozheyuedingzaiyihoudeshenghuozhongzenyangbimianleisidemaodun。

　　biru，keyishuo：“womenyihouzaiyudaowentideshihou，nengbunengxianlengjingyixia，buyaomashangfapiqi?huozhewomenkeyidingqikaiyigejiatinghuiyi，bawomendewentidounachulaitantao，yiqizhaodaojiejuebanfa。”

　　tongguoxunzhaotuoxie，gongtongjiejuewenti，rangfuqiguanxigengweihexiewending。

　　五、提升互动，重建爱情

　　fuqilengzhanguohouzenmegoutong？danglengzhanjieshuhou，yaojishitishengfuqizhijiandehudong，zhongjianaiqing。nenggouyiqizuoyixieyouqudeshiqing，lirukandianying、zhufan、lvyoudeng。

　　zaihudongdeguochengzhong，xuduoguanxinduifang，biaodazijideqingyi。lirujiduifangyigexiangyong、yigewen，huoshisongduifangyifenxiaolipin。

　　tongguozengjiahudong，zhongjianaiqing，rangfuqiguanxigengjiaqinmi，fangzhizaicixianrulengzhandejumian。

　　zongzhi，fuqilengzhanshihunyinshenghuozhongdeyizhongchangjianwenti，danzhiyaoshuangfangkeyilizhifansi、zhudonggoutong、xuehuiqingting、xunzhaotuoxie、tishenghudong，jiuyidingnenggoudapolengzhandekunju，chulimaodun，rangfuqiguanxigengweihexiewending。