自己出轨了应该怎样挽回老婆

　　zijichuguileyinggaizenyangwanhuilaopo，jingguowoduonianlaideguancha，zheixiezaihunyinshenghuozhongchuguideren，tongchangshigerendaodexiuyangyoudaijiaqiang，erqieduiganqingdefuwuchengnuobugoujianding。jiandandianlaishuo，zheiyileirenhenyoukenengbutaishihezuoweihunyinshenghuoairen。danshi，jubeifengciyiweideshi，zheiyileirenzairenjiguanxizhongquewangwangbiaoxiandefeichangjijizhudong，nengjirendailaizaijingshenshang，yiner，zaijiehunqianhennanwanquanrenqingtadebenlaimianmu。zheijiudaozhilebushaorenzaijiehunhoucaizhidaolingyifangwaiyu，zheiyangdeshiqingyeqingyoukeyuan。

　　duiyuyixiedangdezhiairenchuguizhihou，yiranxiangyaokeshouhunyinshenghuoderen，wobiaoshiyouzhongdejingpei。jiarunizhengchuzaizheizhongchujing，bingxinxinwanliuzheiduanganqing，neiyangqingjinkuaixianfanshengzijishifoujubeizugouqiangdadexinlichengshounengli。

　　zaibuduanwanliuhunyindeguochengzhong，nikenengxuyaoyingduihenduoyouweichangli、shehuidaodenaizhiduirenxingdezhuangkuang。yiner，jiaruniyouyiqiegulvhuozaodongbuan，jinkuaianweizijisheqikenengshiyigegengzhengquedexuanze。buran，niyexuhuizaodaonanyizhixindetongchu，erzheizhongtonghenqishibingbuzhidewomenquchengdan。

　　ruguoniduizijidexinlichengshoulimanhuaixinxin，neiyangyonggandiqushizhewanliuba。zaizheiguochengzhong，nikenengxuyaoxunzhaozhuanyexinlizixundedalizhichi，yibangzhuzijigenghaodiyingduigezhongtiaozhanhetiaozhan。jilao，buguanjieguoruhe，douyaoshandaiziji，bierangzijifenshouwanhuideguochengdangzhongzaoshougengduodeshanghai。

　　xiamianyiqilaikankan，hunyinshenghuozenmewanhuihuizongdenei3dianjianyi。

　　第一、确立一个基本认知能力

　　airenzaihunyinlidechuguiwanquanjiushitabenrencuowutiaoxuan，yusuoyouqitawaizaiyinsubuxianggan，baohansuoweidisanzhe。wanjiuhunyindeguanjiansuozaibuzaiyuzenmexiaochudisanzhedecunyou，ershizaiyuzenyangbangzhuchuguizhechongfenrenshidaobenshencuowu，bingzhenxinyuanyijiuzheng，zuihoushizhizhudongdilangzihuitou。caiyongmenglieshouduanquzhengtaodisanzheshijiweibukequde，zheiyangbudankenenghuibachuguizheyudisanzhegengjiajinmidikunbangzaiyiqi，rangnichengweitamende“zuiqiangbazhu”，naizhikenenghuiyinjiduanxingweierweifanfalv，zuihouyinxiaoshida。

　　ruguoyudaodisanzhejijijiaoxiao，jinliangbaochilixing。tiaoxinzhetongchangqidaikandaobeitiaoxinzhedefennuhejuewang，zuilixiangdeyingduicuoshijiushixuanzehushihuobaochiwuganjue。yucitongshi，nenggouqiaoqiaodejiluxialaiqibuzhengdangxingwei，yibianjianglaikenengfashengdebixu。

　　fenshouwanhuihunyindeguochengzhong，yingjinliangjianshaodisanzhede“youyuegan”。jibiandisanzhechangshicongnihelingyibanzhongjianjihuamaodun，yeyaobaozhengtazailingyibanyanqianzishizhizhongshiyankelianshouhairenderenwujiaose。disanzhejiuwufazhaodaohenidelingyiban“youxiao”lianhedejiyu。zijidemubiaoyingdangshitishengfuqizhijiandegoutongjiaoliuherenke，erbushirangdisanzhechenxuerru。

　　第二、自我疗愈与决策思索

　　yingduiqingganshangdepanbian，naonu、tongku、juewanghexintongdengfumianqingxuruchaoshuibanxijuanerlai。nikenenghuixuyaogaoshengzhiyi，huozheyoubulizhiqubaochou。niyexuxiangxiangqinpenghaoyouqingtu，chizeneiyigebeipannideren;huozhexianggongbujiekai，nengrangduifangmingyusaodi;shenzhixiangyaolijidikangneiyigejieruzhe，yihuifuneixinshenchudenuqi。

　　danqingjinkuaiyizhizheizhongchongdonggerenxingwei。zheizhongjuliedefanying，budankenenghuiduizishenzaochengercishanghai，haihuibanixiangwanhuiderentuigenggaogengyuan。jiarunijuedingjiangwaiyulingrongren，xianglihun，neiyangguoyujiliedejudonghuirangnisangshiweiyihouchoubeidelixing。benlaizhangwozhenishouzhongdezhudaoquan，kenengyinciershiqu。

　　bingbushiweilenigenbenyayizijidexintai，ershixiangninengzhaodaoyizhongmeihaiqieyouxiaodefangfalaifaxiehezhiyu，rujianshenyundong、tiaowuhuolvtudeng。zheiyangdehuodongnenggoubangzhunijinzaodiaozhengqingxu，congerkeyilizhi、lizhidisikaoyuguanlijuece：zijishifouhaiyaojixuzheiduanganqing?jiushixuanzewanliuhuoshiliyi?cishicikequedinghuoxubushishengmingzhongdebuerzhixuan，danxianjieduanchangjingxia，tayingjiushinijuedezuilixiangde。

　　zijichuguileyinggaizenyangwanhuilaopo，mayilihewenzhangdehunyinshenghuozuizhongzouxianglewanbi，danwomenbunengsuoyiyejiupanduanmayilidangchuxuanzeshouweihunyinshenghuoshibuzhengquede。meigerendeqingkuangyuxuqiuquanshiyuzhongbutongde，buyaoguodushoutapingchanshengdeyingxiang。wenyiwenzijineixin，kaolvqingchuxianjieduandejingdi，ranhouzuochushihezijishijixuqiudejuece。zheizhongguanlijuece，buguanjieguoruhe，doushizhengquede。

　　第三，道德谴责并不是挽救婚姻的有效途径

　　jinguanlingyifanghunhouchuguishinizhandaoledaodezhigaodian，danyikaoshehuiyulundaodeqianzelaibipolingyifangjuewushibuqieshijide。chuguibenlaijiushidaodehuapobiaoxian，erdaodehuapoderentongchangqianquelixingqiehouyanwuchi，yinerwaibudechizenanyihuanqitadeliangxin。guoduoposhizhihuirangtamengengjiazhizhebingcaiquguojixingwei。

　　hunhouchuguiderenwangwangyouyitaozishenhelihuadeneizaijili。waibuyaliyexunenglinshiquanzutadechugui，danwufazhenzhenggenggaitadeneixinyishi。zuoweiqidaiwanjiuhunyindeyifang，womenxuyaozhanshichuchaohuxunchangdekeguan、baoronghehuoda，caikenengjiqilingyifangduizishendeshehuidaodesikao，congershiqicongjueqiangdijianchibuxie“womeicuo”zhuanbianchengxinganqingyuanrenke“duibuqi”。zheishiyigemanzhangqiejiannandeguocheng，bixujudadenaixinheyongqi。