老公出轨后，我该怎么办？

laogongchuguizenmebanni？“jiaoshi,zhangfugenwochengrencuowule,yaokenqiuwodekuanrong,wowoyebuzhidaoyinggaizenmebanle,wobuyuanyirangzheiyijiasankai,danshiyikandaota,woyexiangqilehewoneigenvrenqinmiwujiandeqingjing,wojienabushangdajiadeqingganyouneiyangdequexian,wogaizenmezuo?”

tashiqianjitian,wodeyiweiqiuzhuzhezixunrexianshi,yibianchouqi,yibianxushudeneirong。

shijishangzairichangshenghuozhong,zheixietanlianaishifenbugushen,hunhouyidijimaodeshier,bingxuduo jian。

woyigezimei,hezhangfuputonggaozhongshitanlianai,jinglilegaoxiaodeyiguolian,zongsuanzoulaidaoyiqi,shubuzhi,liangnianhou,zhangfujingjifazhanbijiaofadale,gangkaishixingzouyugezhonggeyang“hebian”,yibuxiaoxinshitoulexie,beitafajuehou,haobuyouyulihunle。

neigeshihou,dajiadouquanta,kanzaizheixienianqinggandefenshang,shifoukaolvdaojitamenyicijihui,taguoduandishuo:“jiarudajialejiehewoneinvrenyouduotianmei,shijianyouduojiu,dajiajiuburongyineimequanwole。zheixieniandeqinggan,juranbidanshiheyigexiaomeidaizaiyiqidezheiyiliangniandeshijian,jianzhikebeiya。”

taningjingdishuo:“wodaoxianzaidoujizijidejuecejuedeyinyiweihao,jinguanneigeshihouyinweiwohendanxin,xiaohai、qinrenjianghuidoushiyouyuliyierzaoshousunhai,keshineiyangdejieguobingbushiwodaozhide,womingbaizishenzaiqingganshangmianyoujiepizheng,gentazaiyiqi,wohennanshuofuzishenqudangzuoshenmeshiqingyemeiyouchanshengguo。

daoxianzaiwohaihenqinpeizheiyizimei,dangchutashifenchiyiditiaoxuanliyi,jiusuanshizhangfujitaguixiachengrencuowu,tadoubuzaihuitou,shijinianle,jinguanmeilenianqingshidaidefengcai,keshirengranduirichangshenghuochongmanlechongjing,yongtazishendehuashuo:“nengxunzhaolixianghuadeairengengqiang,woxingyunzishenmeiyouxianzailiyiyubuliyidemaodunzhongzhangshijian。”

shide,youshi,shiwomentongchudebingbushizenmexuanze,zhishidajiazuobulaitiaoxuanshixinlidemaodun。maoduncaisuanshizuizhiside。

做不来决策的矛盾,损害了她自身

beichengzuo"shehuifazhanxintaixuezhifu"delewen,bamaodunfenchengsizhongfangshi:shuangquchongtu、shuangbimaodun、qubichongtuheshuangxiangqubichongtu。shuangquchongtuzhideshiyuhexiongzhangbunengjiangu;shuangbimaodunzhideshijintuiliangnan,lirushengbinghou,bukenfuyaoyoubukenzhushe;qubichongtuzhizuoyouweinan,yaoxiangdaodadoushiqudapinqueyoubupaku,ershuangxiangqubichongtuzetongchangzhideshiqianyoufujihouyouzhuibing。

wobenjiadasao,zaiqiyepengdaoleyigefeichangkekedelingdaoganbu。wuluntazenmenuli,douwufadedaozheiyilingdaoganbuderentong。zuizhongdasaoyikandaozheiyilingdaoganbu,jiudanxin。tabuxiangshangban,danshiyoupalizhihouzhaobuzhehaodegongzuozhong,bianshizaineiyangdemaodunzhong,tayitiantianzaoshouzhexintaizhuangtaishangdecuican。

zongsuanyouyitian,tajuedelingdaoganbuzaiyiciduiyutadeqingkuangxia,takongzhibuzhuzishendenuqi,shengsilijiedihanchulai,juranyixiaziyunjuele。xinglaishihoudedasaocihouhoujiuhaoxiangfashengbianhuayigeren,tameilezhiqiandemeili,zongganjuezishenruanruowuneng,bunenggoudedaolingdaoganbudexinlai,ganjuerichangshenghuomeiyouyiqieshijiyiyi,buyuanzuoyiqieshier,daozuizhong,tanaizhiganjuehuozhuquanshizailianleijiaren。

tatoutounongleyixieyaowan,yaoxiangzijin,beidejiu。zuizhongyishiquezhentahuanleyouyuzheng,zhiyouzhujinleyiyuanmenzhen。qingegeshuo,neigeshihou,nidasaobianshixinlidudehuang,bubianshiyifengongzuozhongma!lizhileyounengruheni?lebuqizaizhaobianshile,bianshiyouyutaxinlidudehuang,caizaocheng lejinrideqingkuang。

xinlidudehuang,bianshidanxin,danxinbianshimaodun。woqinaidesaozi,bianshizaineiyangdemaodunzhong,sunhailezishen。

1、学会放下对将来艰难的害怕,对自身的挑选承担

meiyigerenjiejuemaodundefangfabuyiyang。dangmaodundaolaideqingkuangxia,youxierenduobi,youxierenganyuyingdui,yeyouderenjinjinjingjingdidengdai。danshijishangdajiadoulejie,tadeshenhouyeyouxuduo bubiandeshieryaoqujiejue,dajiadouwenta:“richangshenghuoyouzheimeduodejuecexiangyaoniquzuo,nikeyibaozhengzijizuodejuecequanshishidema?wanyizuobuduijuece,nibuhuihouhuima?”

tadandanxiaodaoshuo:“shijishang,dajiadoushiyoujiannan,keshiwomingbai,xuduo jiannanquanshizishenxiangxiangchuqude,bianshiyouyuxiangqilezheixiejiannan,dajiacaihuiyouyubuding。shide,zheijiushijiejuemaodundediyibu:xuehuifangxiaduijianglaijiannandehaipa,duizishendetiaoxuanchengdan。

jinyoutiaoxuanle,dajiacaizhidaoshenmejiaoduide,shenmejiaocuode,ruguoshiduide,neijiushizaihaobuguodeshier,ruguoshicuode,dajiahaikeyilijihuiguotou,laidiaojiezishendegerenxingwei,erbushizairuhexuanzeshangxuduguangyin。

2、决策,刚好是新的起点

jiufangfojiushiwodelingyiweiqiuzhuzhe,zhangfuduitazaoyichedishiquxingquaihao,zaiwaimianyongyoulianren,lijihetamingquetichuliyi,bingquelibiaoming,jiarutabutongyi,neimatakenengtiqisusongdaorenminfayuan,zongzhiliyidexiangfayiding。zheimingqiuzhuzhe,ruhedoubuyuanliyi,talejiezhangfuzaoyibuxihuantale,yelejiezheiyijiazhongjiushiyaosande,keshitabianshibufangshou,tashuo:“jiaoshi,wobunengliyi,lihunle,woyewanquanshibaile。”

“lihunle,woshiyigeshibaideren”,“lihunle,woyewanhou。bingbuzhishiyiduanqinggandezhongdianzhan,yeshilingyiduanqinggandeqishidian,yexulihunle,dajiacaikeyilejielingyifangduidajiadeganqingshishenmemoyangde,yecaizhidaozishendejianchibuxiezhibuzhi。

3、把难题交到時间

guxilawenhuasixiangjiahelakeliteshuo:“renbukeyi2citarutongyitiaojianghe”。tahaishuo:“taiyangguangmeiriquanshixinde”,tazaiqinfengaozhidajiayigekeguanshishi,zheiyiquanshijiemeiyoushenmeshigengububiande。,zaiwomenwufazuojuedingdeqingkuangxia,jingjingdidengdai,qujianxinbansuizheshijiandebianhua,yiqiehuidadoushishanguo。

wodezheiweizhangfuchuguihouxianghuiguotoudeqiuzhuzhe,zailijingleyiduanshijianyihou,bangwoxushuletayuzhangfudexiaogushi。qianbujiu,dajiadaizhuxiaohaiyiqijiachequwan,daoshangchadianerchulechehuoshigu,woqingchudihaijideneigeshihouwodeganshou:shenmeshiqingdoudibuguoyijiarenzaiyiqidekaixin。shide,bansuizheshijiandebianhua,huichanshengxuduo shier,ermeiyijianshiqing,doushirangwomenbuyiyangdetihui,zheizhongtihuihuizhengqueyindaozhedajiazhaodaodaan。

“shijianyigejiechudechuangzuozhe,tahuijimeiyigerenxiechengaiqingshengyanlai”。qujianxinshijian,jianxinzheishijiemeiyikedouhuizhuanbianzhe。

laogongchuguizenmebanni？huanshinagenanti:laogongyouwaiyu,wogaizenmezuo?woqinaidepengyou,qinfenqushuodongzijizuoyigejueceba,wulunzheiyijueceshisha,yaoshixiangyaodanfu,jiukeyiyiwangwuqian,qianwanbuyaorangmaodunlaisunhaizishenle。dajiananyijiejuede,hainenggoubatajiaodaoshijian。