出轨幻想会变成真的吗？宽恕外遇，直面婚姻缺陷

 laogongwangshanggaofalaopoyuwangmin“tongxu”dehunhouchuguigerenxingwei，exingshijianpuchuhou，wangyoumenchuanchulexusi“tongjiling”，“tongxu”beiwanquanchaming，yibanghaoshizhefasongyoujiandao“tongxu”dedaxue，guidingduiqizuochuyangejiejue。 jingshenchuguiyoushenmebiaoxian ?mengjianairenchuguizenmehuishi?

 zheijiushiqianbujiuchanshengde“tongxumen”exingshijian，congeryinqilezheichanghulianwangshidaihunwailiandetantao。jinqi，shanghaishilihunjulebuzerenrenxianlizuolezheixiangsirenzhentan，dechujielun，zai600duoduiqianquzixunhunlianwentidefufuzhong，you86%zuoyoushiyinhunhouchuguinantierzouruhunyinmenzhensuo。“hunhouchuguicongmeixiangrujinneiyangweixiezherenmendehunyin，zaiyingpian、dianshijiheshixinggequgecizhong，naizhizaiqinqipengyoudejingdiangushizhong，changchangtingjianhunwailiandejingdiangushi。danrenmenyefajue，shanghaishinvshizaiyingduihunhouchuguinantishi，yuelaiyuekeguanqilai，tamenyibutongkuyingchuang，ertiaoxuanhelaogongningjingdigoutongjiaoliuhunyinzhongdenanti，zheibiaomingshanghaishinvshijiejuehunlianwentidefangfayijingtisheng。”

痛哭硬闯早已落伍

“renmensuozaideshiqijiuzheiyangdeshiqi，shizuiqiadangdeshike，doushizuihuaideshiqi。”

nanrennvrenhunhouchuguihouhuiguilvbuyiyang

 chuguihuanxianghuibianchengzhendema?“youmingjiao《babahuijiale》neiyangdexiaoshuoji，quemeiyou《mamahuijiale》zheizhongxiaoshuoji，zaizheixing，nenggoukanjianzhangfuheqizizhenduihunhouchuguidexinxinchedibuyiyang。”

———dubianchunyi《nanrenzheidongxi》

 huoxu，bingbuyidingdehunhouchuguinenggoubeibaorong，zaicizhongguijiazhong。zaixianlisuochupengdeshilizhong，juedaduoshuqianquzixundenanrennvrenrengranmaixiangleliyi。zai《nanrenzheidongxi》yishuzhong，chuangzuozhedubianchunyiqiangdiao，laogongmendehunhouchuguizongshuhuoxuxuduo，danzhonghuijiazhongdezhanbiyiranhengao;erqizidewaiyuqiahaofanguolai，ruguochuzou，jiumeibanfazaiduhuiguotou。zaixianlisuochupengdeshililaikan，nanshizaihunhouchuguihouzhongguijiazhongdezhanbidequezhubutigao。

 xianlishuo：“xuduonanshidehunhouchuguilingyibanquanshidanshennvshi，suizhinvshinianjikuoda，biciqingganjiazhong，xuduohunhouchuguigangkaishiyongyou‘zhuanzhengdingji’deguiding。cike，shibushiliyidenantibaifangzailezheizhongnanshiyanqian。bingkuxiannanshirongyitiaoxuanliyi，youyutamenganjuelianrenjizijinulileqingchunnianshaoheqinggan，quemeiyouhuodemingyi，tamenqidaigenjuwanhunlaitianbuduilianrendesunhai;erzaiyingduilaoposhi，zheizhongnanshiganjueqiancaihezhenqingnenggoutianbuzheileitongchu。ermeiyouqingganjibenhedixuelizhezaihunhouchuguiyihou，gengfeichangrongyizhongguijiazhong。”nanshishibushizhongguijiazhong，zheihenvshijiejuehunhouchuguinantishidexintaihenyouguanlian。

 xianliqiangdiao，tongchangnanrenyouwaiyudezhuangkuangjiaoweiduo，danyeshinvshilaizixunhunhouchuguidenanti，erzheixienvshidemudihenqueli，tongchangshilaizixunruhecainengyuanmandihelaogongliyi，erbingbushiwanhuihunyin。

nanshihunhouchuguilaiyuanyu“mangcong”xintaizhuangtai

 mengjianairenchuguizenmehuishi?“nanshengyongyubiaoshuhunhouchuguizuipubiandeyuanyinshimeiliyou，henduonanshengbuganxiangxinyifuyiqizhishi‘dazirande’，yinerganjuetamendehunhouchuguibuyong‘yuanyin’，tamenyiranjiaoweixiaihunyin(erbingbushi‘suiyi’)，bingqiemeiyougaozhifurenhunhouchuguideshi。”

———《haidixingxuebaogao：nanrenpian》

 jingshenchuguiyoushenmebiaoxian?dajiaguangfanrenweinanrenyouwaiyudezhuangkuangxuduo。xianlishuo，shijishangzhengshiruci，nanshigengfeichangrongyiyouhunhouchugui，erhunhouchuguiyebudanchanshengzaizheixieshiyeyouchengdenanshishoushang。xianliyiqianpengdaoguo1genvxinglaisukutazhongdishourulaogongwaiyudeshi。