zenmewanhuibianyuandehunyinni,nizuodaokongdangdangdefangjianli,pingmushangjiushitazuizhongyitiaoxiaoxi:“womenjieshule,biezaizhaoyigewo。”neiyike,nideaixiangbeisilieyiyang,yanleizhibuzhudeliu。nizhongfuwenyixiaziji:“tashizhendechedishiwanglemeiyou?wohaikeyiwanliuzheifenganqingma?”buyaodanxin,qinaida,nibushiyigerenzaizhandou。zuoweiqingxulingyuzhuanjia,woyudaoguochengqianshangwanxiangjinshili——nanshengchedishiwanghou,nvxingqudechenggongwanliudejingxishubushengshu。jinri,wohuiyongxinlizixunzhuanjiadedongxihezhenshigushipouxi,tinibokaiyunwu。jilao,zheibushijitang,ershigenjukexueyugongzuojingyandeshendujiedu。kanwanbenwen,nijiuhuimingbai:wanliuzhirikedai,ershiyaofanganhejianchibuxie。zuizhong,wonengdechu3geguanjianyinsu,bangzhuniranqizheifenaihuo。(jiarunizhengjingliganqingwenti,dianjiguanzhuba!wojiushishuyunideqinggandaoshi,meixingqigongxiangwanliumiji,shinishibangongbei。)
一、男生“彻底失望”背后的真相:为何他会离开你?

zaitantaonengbunengwanliuyiqian,dajiabixuyaoxianlejie“chedishiwang”deshizhi。zhuanjiarenwei,zheigebushiyishidechongdong,fanershizhangqixingjileixialaidefennuhesunhai。zhumingshehuixuejialuobote·geteman(john gottman)zai《aideqiyuanze》zhongzhichu,nanshengsilexintongchanglaiyuanyu“qingxuyinxingzhanghu”dedaobi——meiyicizhengzhi、hulvehuopanbian,doushizaihaofeitadexinlaizhubei,zhizhizhanghuguiling。zheishihou,tahuiguandiaoxinfei,biaoxiandelengxuewuqing。
congwodejiaodulaikan,nikenengjuedetahuranbianleyigeren,danyeneirenshifenxi,qibeihouyougenbenyuanyin。zuixian,jingshenxuqiuweibeimanzu。meiguohafodaxueqingxuyanjiuzhuanjiazhenni·jiefuli(susan david)zai《qingganlinghuoxing》yishuzhongbiaoshu,nanxingzaiguanxiliqipanzhongshi、zhichihelijie。jiarunizhangqixinghushitadeganshou(liru,yizhichizetadequedian,huozaigongzuoyaliguodashilengdanhuifu),tahuijuede“beiyiqi”,zuihousilexin。cizhi,xinlailiekaicaishiguanjian。qingxukangfushiaisite·peileier(esther perel)zaitedyanshuozhongzhichu,zunzhongshiaiqingdezhongyaoqianti;yidannizuochupanbiangerenxingwei(ruwaiyuhuofanfushuohuang),tahuichedishiquguishugan,juede“zaizenmenuliyebuxing”。zuizhong,goutongjiaoliuwuxiaobiandananti。xinlixueboshiashenli·paluote(leslie parrott)qiangdiao,nanshengcezhongyu“taobimaodun”,jiaruwomenzongshiyizhengzhiqudaihuihua,tahuijidianzenghen,zhizhixinhuiyilengruhui。
danbiebengkui!quanweizhuanjiayizhirenwei:silexinbushizhongdian,fanershiqingganxiufudekaiduan。getemandeyanjiuxianshi,70%de“silexin”shilikeyitongguoyouxiaodefangfawanliu,zhongdianzaiyuniyuanbuyuanyizhimianwentibingxingwei。(dianguanzhu,wojiexialaihuifenxianggengduogetemandewanhuijiqiao,tinifangzhipubianquantao。)
二、还可以复合吗?权威专家深度剖析:概率达到80%,但在于这3个因素
rujin,gaosunideguanjianwenti:nanshengchedishiwangle,haikeyifuhema?daanjiushi:kendinghenyoukeneng,danbingfeiyicuerjiu。yijuqingxuzhuanjiamendelinchuangshiyanshuju,wanliuchenggonglvgaoda80%,qiantishizunzhaoyouxiaodefangfa。jiazhoudaxuebokelifenxiaodeqingxukeyantuanduizai2023nianbaogaozhichu,nanshengsilexinzhihoudedanaohuijindao“fangyumoshi”,danzheibuyiweizheyongjiuxingfengbishi;genjuzhengfangxiangcijixing,tadeqingxukongzhihuiluhuibeizhongxinanzhuang。
zenmewanhuibianyuandehunyinni,rangwojiuyongzhuanjiaguandiantinishenrupouxiwanliudekexingxing。zuixian,congxinlixuejiaoduguancha,silexinshi“fangyujizhi”bingfei“jieshushujuxinhao”。shenjingkexuejiashali·feierdeman·shaying(lisa feldman barrett)zai《qingxushiruhechanshengde》zhongbiaoshu,dangyigenanrenqinshenjinglibuduanshanghaishi,danaohuiyunxing“qingxufama”laiyufangtongchu,danyezhishilinshiqingkuang。rutongdiannaokasihounenggouzhongxinqidongyiyang,tadeneixinhaikeyitongguonidezhenchengqinfen“huifu”。cizhi,wanliudehexinjiushi“genggaidequdongli”。quanweizhuanjiapeileierzhuzhong,dangnanrenkanjiannishizhishangdefazhan(liru,womenxuehuilelingtingyubaorong),tahuizhongxinshenshiguanlian。zuizhong,shijianyinsuyouweizhongyao。getemanjingshi,silexinhoumian3geyueshihuangjinshiqi;tuichihenjiu,tadeqingxuhuigangu,wanliunanduxishuzengzhang。
danyaozhuyi,quanweizhuanjiayeduanjuelaiwang:wanliubingbushidiweikenqiu,fanershifujianpingdengguanxi。jiarusilexinlaiyuanyuyuanzewenti(rujiatingbaolihuofanfumengpian),zhuanjiarenweifangkaishou——nianquangaoyuyiqie。buran,genjucelvexingwei,nigenbennengniuzhuanjushi。(dianjiguanzhu,xiayiqiwonengxiangxishuoming“jinzi3yue”fangan,shinidewanliuyourenyouyu。)
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