测试一下：你和男友会天长地久吗？

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　　男人与女人分手之后的心理状态

　　nanrenhenvrenfenshouyihouzhuangtai，fenshoushiyiduanganqingchedijieshu，nanrenyunvrendangmianduifenshouhouyouzhebutongdexinlizhuangtai。tadexintai、xingweibiaoxiansiweifangshiyehuishoudaoyingxiang，chanshengfenbieyuzhongbutongdezhuangtai。

　　男人的避开与放肆

　　fenshouhou，yixienanrenqingxiangyuxuanzechenmoheziganduoluo。tamenwangwanghuixuanzexiaotui，bikaiyuanxiandejiaojiquanyupengyou，tansuoxindedecijiziwoqueren。yeshenghuowenhua、kuanghuanpaiduihuolvyouchengweiwomenshufaqinghuaidexingshi，xiwangyongwaibudecijixinglaiyanshineixinshenchudetongku。zheileifangsigerenxingweikenengzaishizhepingfuneixinshenchudetongku，danshiquebukeyizhenzhenzhengzhengchuliwenti。

　　一个女人的应对和成长

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　　共通的状态与多元性

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　　个别差异与自我疗愈

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