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　　nvrenchuguizuipananrenbaofutashenme，zheijuhuazaitantaonvshigerenxingweizhongdeyizhongzhuangkuang，jinvrenpanbianairenshi，zuiguanxindeshizaodaonanrendebaofu。zheileidanyoubingbushiwangfeixinji，fanershilaiyuanyunanrenkenenghuiduichuguixingweisuozuochudegezhonggeyangfanying。nanrendebaofunengshijingshencengmiandesunhai，birulengdan、dulihuolengchaorefeng，haikeyishiwuzhishangsunhai，birucaichantuolihuohunyinshenghuodewajie。nvrenwangwangduinanrendebaofuhaipakongju，yifangmianshiyinweijiangmianlindenanyichengshoudedaijia，lingyifangmianyefanyingchuduilingyibanderenkeheduiganqingdelaogudexiangwang。zheihuayinqileyouguanbanlvguanxizhongyiwu、rentonghebaochoudengnandianwentidetansuo。

　　nvrenpanbianairenhouzuiguanxindeshinanrenfanying。nanrenbaofukeyicaiyongxingshiduoyang，congjingshencengmiandeshangdaowuzhishangsunhai。zheileiyoulvtixianlenvrenzaichuguizhihousuomianlindebuliangyingxiangheduiganqingdelaogudexiangwang。yixiashuyuyixiekenengxingdenanrenbaofugerenxingweidetantao：

　　情感上的损害：

　　nvrenchuguizuipananrenbaofutashenme，nanrenkenenghuiduiwaiyudenvrenbiaoxianchulelengdan，batadulizaiganqingshenghuoli。tamenyexuyongyirangqiganshoudaozijiduiyuchuguixingweiqiangliebumanheyihan，genjulengmodexintaichuandichushiwanghesunhai。zheileijingshencengmiandebaofunengrangnvrenganshoudaoneixinshenchudetongkuyukuijiu，jiazhongtafuzuigan。

　　言语里的损害：

　　nanrenhenyoukenengtiaoxuangenjulengchaorefenglaisunhainvrendezixinxinhexinxin。takenenghuiwushengwuxichize、gongjiwuruta，yongjianruiyanyujiangtaxinlishenchudezhenxiangxianxianchulai。zheileiyanyulidebaofujingchangnengjinvrendailaihendadeshanghaixinliyinying，rangqiganshoudaoziyideyumeihepingyong。

　　物质上损害：

　　nanrenkeyitongguofengecaichancaichantuolilaibaofunvrendepanbian。takenenghuicaiquduozhongfangshilaixiaoruonvrenjingjizijuexing，batafangzhijingjifazhannijingzhong。zheileiwuzhishangbaofubujinshiduinvrendangshitiaoxuanwaiyudehuaiyi，doushiduitaweilaideshenghuoweixie。

　　婚姻生活的瓦解：

　　nanrenhenyoukenengjieshuhunyinlaiduinvrendechuguixingweikaizhanbaofu。tamenyexuzaiyewufachengshoupanbianhemeiyouxinren，bianjuedingjieshuhunyinbingxunzhaofalvchengxujiechubangding。zheileibaofuduicebudannengjinvrendailaihendadexinlitongku，haihuichanshengtasuomianlindehenduoxianshiwenti，rucongtoukaishi、lihuncaichanfengehehaizifuyangquandeng。

　　信赖的缺失：

　　nanrendebaofubudanhuirangnvrenbenrenzaochengweihai，tongshihaihuihuihuaierrenganqingzhongdexinlaijiben。nvrendechuguixingweibulunshifoubeinanrenbaofu，douyoukenengdaozhiliangrenzhijiandexinlailiekai。sangshiduilingyibanderenkehuishinvrenganshoudaofeichangdadeneixintongku，wufazaidugoujianqilaogudeganqingniudai。

　　nvrenchuguizuipananrenbaofutashenme，zhishangzhiduinvrenwaiyuzuidanxinnanrenbaofuweifaxingweideyixietantao，jutiqingkuangyousuobutong。buguanzenyang，chuguixingweisuozaochengdeshanghaishiwufahushide，ernanrenfanyingnaishinvrenxinzhongmobuqudeheiying。