女生说你想的太多了

 niguodebuhao， shinixiangtaiduo ，buxiangtaiduo，jishiduishengmingdezuizunzhong。zhihushangyouwangyouwen：renshengtongkudegenyuanshishenme？qizhongyiweiwangyoudehuidahenyouzhexueweidao，shi"wangbudiao，fangbuxia，shubuqi。"zheisandagenyuanguigenjiedi，jiushi：nixiangdetaiduole。duici，woshenyiweiran。

一、对情，别想太多

aiqinglinixiangdetaiduolederen，youzheiyangliangzhongren：

 yizhongshiaiqinglailin，huaiyiaiqing，duiairenyijuhua，yigeyanshen，yigedongzuohusiluanxiang，cuowulijie，zuizhongquzhongrensan，qingyuanlejue。

lingyizhongshifenshouhou，ouduansilian，tongkuwanxi，xiangfangshefawanhuijiuchan，fanraotarenyoushanghaiziji。

qishiaiqingshimeihaodedongxi，meihaoderangrenzhemi、beiwei、xiangrufeifei。

 jimeimao、caiqiyuyishendezhangailingyemeinengxingmianbeiaiqingzhuangleyixiayao，taduihulanchengdeai，xinxi、xiaoluluanzhuang，youdanxinpeibushang。

neijujingdianaiqingzhenyanjiangtadexinsizhanluwuyi：

yujianniwobiandehendihendi，yizhididaochenaili，danwodexinshihuanxide。bingqiezaineilikaichuyiduohualai。

 qishi，ganqingzheizhongdongxi，nixiangdetaiduole，tazuinanzhuomo，tongchangbuanchanglichupai，sheiyebunengbaozhengyidingnengzoudaozuihou，zhongchengjuanshu。

qingbuzhisuoqi，yiwangqingshen，haishishanmengshizhen，suoyoudeailianmiyuyebunengbiaodawoduinidesihaishenqing。

 paishandaohaidehuanxicaishangxintou，wujindanxinqueshangmeitou：pasuofufeiren，paduifangburuxiangxiangzhongaiziji，payitouzhajinqubeifuxinrenweilegou。

ganqingzhong，yudaole，aishangle，jiuhaohaoai，buyaobeixiangtaiduocuoguoduideren。

 yanchengxuhelinzhilingdeshijidafuhe，buhuichuxianzaimeiyiduiairenshengmingli，15nianchunhua，duiderenhuoxuzaoyishibierendebanlv，qianzhetarendeshoulihuanghun。

nianshaobuzhiai，zhiaibushaonian。

ailejiuzhenxi，cuoguoyebuyaokexi，gengbunengjiuchan。

zhengruaishiquanqingtouru，fangshoushiziyisatuodezhangailing，"yinweiaiguo，suoyicibei；yinweidongde，suoyikuanrong。"

 aideshihouyongliai，buaideshihou，jiugancuililuodefangshou，kehenduorenjishizhuanshenle，xinhaizaibian，haiqianbaihuishexiangzhe，chuandaodangchudeyimumu。

aiguode，zhengaide，kuguode，xiaoguode，doushishenghuo。

zaijinglizhongchengzhang，zaichengzhangzhongchengshu。

aile，buailehechangbushiyibicaifu？

yongdandanyixiao，huiwanggungunhongchen；

yongkuanrongdanran，dangzuozhufu，yuanlaiaiyuhen，zaoyiyueguowanzhongshanshui，qianfanguojin。

二、做事，做人，别想太多

womenshichanghuixiangyaohenduo，duodaozijidoubuzhidaoyaoduoshaocaihuizhizu。

nixiangdetaiduole，renhuipibei；xiangjiule，xinhuijuewang。

 nimenzongshuoshenghuofansuo，beisuoshichanshen，qishishinixiangtaiduo，nizijibuyuanfuxiashenqujiaotashidi，jupapinchangshibaideziwei。

womenshichangyewufanmang，baoyuanyejimeiyouqise，zhishizijiyuhenantiandebudaomanzu。

 womenzongshizhengqianghaosheng，feidebitarenlveshengyichoucaikenbaxiu，nixiangdetaiduoleqishizijiwangjileshenghuodebenzhibushidedaoduoshao，ershiyongyoushenme。

wojuederenyinggainengzuodaodeshiqing，wodouxiangzuodao；

kandaobierenyoudianhenengli，wokandaoleyexiangyaoyou。

duyibenshu，kandaoyigehaodedaoli，jiuxiangbazijidangchengshulidezhujiao，chengweineiyangderen。

kewomenshijianyouxian，jinglibuzu，zhilibuxing，buzuyizhichengzheimeduowaijiede"meihao"。

xiangtaiduo，leidaoshenmeyebuxiangzuo，meizuozize，genglei。

renzheiyibeizibukenengyouxianchengdejuben，shishidouzaizijidezhangkongxiajinxing，xiangdezaiduo，yeyoubaimiyishudeshihou。

jiranzaijiujieyekanbudaoyihouhuifashengshenme，jiusuoxingshunqiziranbaxinfangkuan，haohaodiguohaodangxia。

nixiangdetaiduole，zhenxiyixiaziji，womenzhiyouyicishengming。

xiaopin《buchaqian》xiaoshenyangshuo：

"renzheiyishengduoduanzanya，yanjingyibi，yitianjiuguoqule；yanjingyibi，buzheng，yibeizijiuguoqule......"

nihaiyouduoshaoshijiankeyilangfeizaihusiluanxiangshang？

henduorenkanjiantaigeerhuodecongrongdanding，henshixianmu，xiangtaqiujiaokuailemifang，taigeershuo：

"ruguoniyinweicuoguotaiyangerkuqi，neimeniyejiangcuoguoxingxing"。

jiandanyidian，xiangdezaishaoyidian，rangfannaoyufengquyuanxing，rangtongkuyufenraopeiyunquliulang。

 kuaileqishibunan，zuoyigepingfanjiandanderen，bariziguodeqingqingdandan，congcongrongrong，ruxiaocaozhiyulanmandechuntian，sixiaoxizhiyucangkuohaiyang，gengrubaiyunzhiyubixilantian。

gaifangshouyibodeshihou，jiubieweiweisuosuo；gaicemabentengdeshihou，jiubieguozubuqian。

renshengrubaijuguoxi，zhiciyici，luzouduole，jiaolei；xiangtaiduole，xinlei，bienanweileziji，shinixiangtaiduo。

三、别想太多

 shoujiaobeishufu，xinbeishangleyibawuxingdejiasuo，guobuhaoziji，yerangbierenbudeanning，kerenshengneimeduanzan，haiyouhenduoshidengzhewomenquzuo。

dangxiangfaruchaoshuiyonglai，wufakongzhishi，womenkeyi：

xingdongqilai，xiangxiangshizhilaohu，xingdongcongninengzuodeshikaishi，shizhequhuanyifenzijixihuandegongzuo；

quxiangqudechengshikankanfengjing，qujiannixiangjianderen，qutingyishouge，yangyipenhua。

jijingdehuanxi，haoguoluanfeidesixu。

dangmingsikuxiang，zhaobudaofangxiangshi，womenkeyi：

banaozhongdexiangfa，duihuanchengbaizhiheizi，xiezaizhishang；

baxiangzuodeshianzhaoqing、zhong、huan、jipaihaoshunxu；

huozheyueshangsanwuhaoyoushuoyutamenting，tingyixihua，shengguoyigerenxiazhuomo。

shengming，buyouyushenyousuozhang，gengzaiyushifouyongyouyikeqingzhuangshangzhendexin。

renhuozhe，shi"xiangshou"shengmingdeguocheng。

buxiangtaiduo，jishiduishengmingdezunzhong。