分手后为什么忘不掉前任？

 henduoren fenshou houdouhuiwangbudiaoqianren，yebuzhidaoyinggairuhebaituoshiliandetongku。qishifenshouhoufanergengxiangnianqianren，zaixintaixueshangchengzheizhongxianxiangwei“baixiongxiaoying”xiamianxiaobianjiulaijidajiashuoshuobaixiongxiaoyingzheizhongxintaizhishi，xianglejiedebufangkankan。

fenshouhouweishenmewangbudiaoqianren？

什么是白熊效应

 “baixiongxiaoying”youchengfandanxiaoying，yanjiushiyanzhongcanyuzhechangshibuyaoxiangxiangyizhibaisedexiong，jieguorenmendesiweichuxianqiangliefandan，dajiahenkuaizainaohaizhongfuxianchuyizhibaixiongdexingxiang。dangwomenkeyizhuanyizhuyilishi，siweiyekaishichuxianwuyishide“zizhujianshi”xingwei，jianshizijishifouhaizaixiangbuyinggaixiangdeshiqing，shiwomenwufaconggenbenshangfangqiduishiqingdeguanzhu。

 yaoxiangzhenzhengwangdiaoyijianshi，debanfashishunqiziran。buyaobamoujianshiqingkandefeiwangjibuke，haohaobazhuyilifangdaozijirichangyinggaikaizhandeshenghuo、gongzuozhong，shijianjiuleziranhuidanwang。womenzhinengnulijiyi，danwangzhinengshunyingziran，zheijiushisiweideguilv。

 jiuxiangshilianderennulixiangwangjishanglezijidelianren，jieguofaxianduifangdexingxiangzainaozhongyujiaqingxi，neixinkubukanyan；shimianderennulirangzijibuyaoxiangshiqing，jieguogengjiaxingfen，danaoluanzaozao，meiyoushuiyi。zheizhongxianxiangyekeyiyong“baixiongxiaoying”laijieshi。

如何克服白熊效应

1、调动你的快乐情感记忆

 yanjiubiaoming，renmenkeyitongguohuiyijijidejiyijidiaotongkufumianjiyi。henduoshihouyaorangrenwangjicengjingdeshangtongtainan，dankeyitongguoruguodiaodongrendekuailedeqingganjiyilaidanhuashangtong。zaiyigeqingsongkaixindehuanjingzhong，bazijicengjingkuailexingfudejiyidiaodongqilai，rangneixiemeihaodeganjuechongchizainideneixin，yepingjingnideneixin。lingyifangmian，“xianghaoshi，haoshijianglin，xianghuaishi，huaishiqiaomen。”xuehuiyongzhengmianhuadesiweiqusikaowenti。dangnigaibianduishiwuheqitarendekanfashi，shiwuheqitarenduitalaishuojiuhuifashenggaibian。

2、停止理性思考，只是觉察

 mianduixiangwangdiaodejiyi，zhongdianbuzaiyuruhewangjihuozhezuzhikangju，erzaiyunishifouyouzhengmianjieshoudetaidu。huiyishidaozijideqingxuzhuangtai，nengyishidaoneixiejiyiyouzairangnigandaotongku。ruguoniyishidaozijimuqianzhengchuyuhuiyitongkudezhuangtai，neimebuyaogansheta，buyaoyongnidelizhiqufenxita，buyaoqutanjiuyuanyin，zhishikanzhetazainidenaohailaiquziyou，zuihouzidongxiaoshi。

3、保持开放性

 duidaixiaojiqingxubaochikaifangxingyaobibatadangzaimenwaiyaogengjiankang。dangniyishidaozijideqingxukaishichuyufumianzhuangtai，nijiukaishiguanzhaota。zaiciguochengzhongbaochijuezhiheqingxing，dangqingxuchuxianshi，buyaokangju，rangtachuxian，guankanta，buyaoyonglixingqufenxi。zheishiyigexin“jing”debanfa。zhiyouxianpingjingleziji，rangwentiningguxialai，buzaidaraowomen，womencaiyoukongjianlengjingdesikaojiejuewentidefangan。

 zheishiyizhongjuezhili，tashiyizhongjinengbushitianshengde，suoyixuyaoxuexiheshijian。dangyouyitian，ninenggouqingsongbaguowangzuoweixiaotan，nijiuzhenzhengde“wangji”le。